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I guess I should have known better when I met him. I mean, the arrogance of this man as he claimed to be the man of my dreams when I knew he was a mid 30's divorcee with no children, but he just kept insisting. I had just met him at the time through family, so I didnt know what his deal was yet just that he was looking at me like dinner.

You know the look. Lust at first site. Now I have friends both male and female so it wasnt odd for me to hang out with him sometimes. In fact, my brother had insisted he keep an eye on me for him. What was odd was 3 weeks after we met he just out of no where said he loved me in line at a gas station. He said it to my back. I hadnt even accidentally touched his hand at that point.

Still, an unfortunate event happened a couple of weeks later. My best friend died. I was devastated, so this guy stepped in at a vulnerable time. Even though he seemed subserviant and devoted, there was a distinct lack of spiritual connection. He seemed to have a cold concrete wall between us insomuch that he could only show his love by buying me gifts.

When it finally came to becoming intimate, I felt like I was being molested. It felt like everything he was doing was fake even though on the outside he looked like he was doing everything all right. It's all just a mask. I eventually came to see that underneath that nice face belies a bitter, hateful man.

Come to find out he's a classic passive-aggressive.

He conveniently forgets things to avoid any kind of hassle for himself despite the consequences for others.
He screws up the most mundane of tasks daily.
He causes chaos and retreats to his inner shell.
He makes himself to be the victim no matter what the situation.
He lies all the time about THE STUPIDEST SHIT!
He cant even give me a straight answer to a yes or no question.
He tries to arouse sympathy to control me.

It's like talking to a wall when I try connecting to him in any way, but when I go to do something on my own he shadows me and stares. After all this creepy shit he moves in for a hug.

Finally, at the start of the Sabbath, he started his murmering and negative energy emitting out of no where just blowing up over taquitos. I freaking lost it and told him to stfu. So he just clams up and leaves me to completing last minute preps myself. I figure he is getting our room movie ready to watch movies with kids, but when we walk in there he's laying down like he is going to sleep. He tried telling me he was tired. I said,'It's 8:30. Stop acting like a child". It was so obvious he was starting his usual bs.

I held my peace until tonight he started again. So I sat him down and googled passive-aggressive PD and read the symptoms to him aloud. I let him know that he might be fooling everyone else, but he wasnt fooling me. He looked pious as usual, but his constant quiet when I confront him leaves me with an eery feeling. I sense that his hate and anger is so deep seated that even I am unaware of the depths. He wont outwardly confront me, even about the smallest of things, but his eyes..if you look past the fake scared look, emit waves of hot sticky hell.

That's what is really scaring me. I always told people. Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous. He has proven me correct, but how correct will surface in due time.

Now that I have unveiled him, desperation might heed even more odd behavior. May be nothing but more irritation. He might finally leave, but I doubt it. He's dependant on me to vent on. My question is ...are passive aggressives capable of murder? Like crimes of passion? Are there warning signs?
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If you even have to ask that question sweetie...it is time to move on IMO
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hes gonna strike soon! run!!
just kidding,
but really, why be with someone you dont like or trust?
just leave, or tell him to get out.
wait....isnt this a conspiracy forum?
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he must have been bra....err nevermind....ive been banned enough.

sorry, sounds like it would be the best for both of you if you moved on.
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Aah! Wish I could leave right now. Two whole months ago, I fell down some stairs. My pelvis was swollen and bruised through and through so my first potty break ripped me a new one and recovery has been sooo slow. Why hasnt he left? He knows I have financial means that I think he is waiting to pay off.
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Sum it up in two sentenses.
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Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous.
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No, they are not... I'm sick of this idea that quiet people are secretly angry, or on the other end of the spectrum, they are timid and easily overpowered. I find neither of them to be true. In my experience, it's the charismatic, outgoing ones that are the most dangerous.. Those are the narcissists and the sociopaths, right there.
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I guess I should have known better when I met him. I mean, the arrogance of this man as he claimed to be the man of my dreams when I knew he was a mid 30's divorcee with no children, but he just kept insisting. I had just met him at the time through family, so I didnt know what his deal was yet just that he was looking at me like dinner.

You know the look. Lust at first site. Now I have friends both male and female so it wasnt odd for me to hang out with him sometimes. In fact, my brother had insisted he keep an eye on me for him. What was odd was 3 weeks after we met he just out of no where said he loved me in line at a gas station. He said it to my back. I hadnt even accidentally touched his hand at that point.

Still, an unfortunate event happened a couple of weeks later. My best friend died. I was devastated, so this guy stepped in at a vulnerable time. Even though he seemed subserviant and devoted, there was a distinct lack of spiritual connection. He seemed to have a cold concrete wall between us insomuch that he could only show his love by buying me gifts.

When it finally came to becoming intimate, I felt like I was being molested. It felt like everything he was doing was fake even though on the outside he looked like he was doing everything all right. It's all just a mask. I eventually came to see that underneath that nice face belies a bitter, hateful man.

Come to find out he's a classic passive-aggressive.

He conveniently forgets things to avoid any kind of hassle for himself despite the consequences for others.
He screws up the most mundane of tasks daily.
He causes chaos and retreats to his inner shell.
He makes himself to be the victim no matter what the situation.
He lies all the time about THE STUPIDEST SHIT!
He cant even give me a straight answer to a yes or no question.
He tries to arouse sympathy to control me.


It's like talking to a wall when I try connecting to him in any way, but when I go to do something on my own he shadows me and stares. After all this creepy shit he moves in for a hug.

Finally, at the start of the Sabbath, he started his murmering and negative energy emitting out of no where just blowing up over taquitos. I freaking lost it and told him to stfu. So he just clams up and leaves me to completing last minute preps myself. I figure he is getting our room movie ready to watch movies with kids, but when we walk in there he's laying down like he is going to sleep. He tried telling me he was tired. I said,'It's 8:30. Stop acting like a child". It was so obvious he was starting his usual bs.

I held my peace until tonight he started again. So I sat him down and googled passive-aggressive PD and read the symptoms to him aloud. I let him know that he might be fooling everyone else, but he wasnt fooling me. He looked pious as usual, but his constant quiet when I confront him leaves me with an eery feeling. I sense that his hate and anger is so deep seated that even I am unaware of the depths. He wont outwardly confront me, even about the smallest of things, but his eyes..if you look past the fake scared look, emit waves of hot sticky hell.

That's what is really scaring me. I always told people. Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous. He has proven me correct, but how correct will surface in due time.

Now that I have unveiled him, desperation might heed even more odd behavior. May be nothing but more irritation. He might finally leave, but I doubt it. He's dependant on me to vent on. My question is ...are passive aggressives capable of murder? Like crimes of passion? Are there warning signs?
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holy shit that's my husband to a T

please be careful sugar, get out of this while you can hugs
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Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous.


No, they are not... I'm sick of this idea that quiet people are secretly angry, or on the other end of the spectrum, they are timid and easily overpowered. I find neither of them to be true. In my experience, it's the charismatic, outgoing ones that are the most dangerous.. Those are the narcissists and the sociopaths, right there.
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crack that whip
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holy shit that's my husband to a T

please be careful sugar, get out of this while you can hugs
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Thanks! That actually made me feel better. Even though it was just two silly faces hugging, at least I felt it was real. I miss that.
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Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous.


No, they are not... I'm sick of this idea that quiet people are secretly angry, or on the other end of the spectrum, they are timid and easily overpowered. I find neither of them to be true. In my experience, it's the charismatic, outgoing ones that are the most dangerous.. Those are the narcissists and the sociopaths, right there.
 Quoting: Hillcrest


Dont get me wrong. I like quiet people. I talk too much.

I'm talking about something that goes beyond a listening ear or quiet in general. I'm talking about what the eyes are saying. Not what your mouth is or isnt necessarily. Dig?
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I guess I should have known better when I met him. I mean, the arrogance of this man as he claimed to be the man of my dreams when I knew he was a mid 30's divorcee with no children, but he just kept insisting. I had just met him at the time through family, so I didnt know what his deal was yet just that he was looking at me like dinner.

You know the look. Lust at first site. Now I have friends both male and female so it wasnt odd for me to hang out with him sometimes. In fact, my brother had insisted he keep an eye on me for him. What was odd was 3 weeks after we met he just out of no where said he loved me in line at a gas station. He said it to my back. I hadnt even accidentally touched his hand at that point.

Still, an unfortunate event happened a couple of weeks later. My best friend died. I was devastated, so this guy stepped in at a vulnerable time. Even though he seemed subserviant and devoted, there was a distinct lack of spiritual connection. He seemed to have a cold concrete wall between us insomuch that he could only show his love by buying me gifts.

When it finally came to becoming intimate, I felt like I was being molested. It felt like everything he was doing was fake even though on the outside he looked like he was doing everything all right. It's all just a mask. I eventually came to see that underneath that nice face belies a bitter, hateful man.

Come to find out he's a classic passive-aggressive.

He conveniently forgets things to avoid any kind of hassle for himself despite the consequences for others.
He screws up the most mundane of tasks daily.
He causes chaos and retreats to his inner shell.
He makes himself to be the victim no matter what the situation.
He lies all the time about THE STUPIDEST SHIT!
He cant even give me a straight answer to a yes or no question.
He tries to arouse sympathy to control me.


It's like talking to a wall when I try connecting to him in any way, but when I go to do something on my own he shadows me and stares. After all this creepy shit he moves in for a hug.

Finally, at the start of the Sabbath, he started his murmering and negative energy emitting out of no where just blowing up over taquitos. I freaking lost it and told him to stfu. So he just clams up and leaves me to completing last minute preps myself. I figure he is getting our room movie ready to watch movies with kids, but when we walk in there he's laying down like he is going to sleep. He tried telling me he was tired. I said,'It's 8:30. Stop acting like a child". It was so obvious he was starting his usual bs.

I held my peace until tonight he started again. So I sat him down and googled passive-aggressive PD and read the symptoms to him aloud. I let him know that he might be fooling everyone else, but he wasnt fooling me. He looked pious as usual, but his constant quiet when I confront him leaves me with an eery feeling. I sense that his hate and anger is so deep seated that even I am unaware of the depths. He wont outwardly confront me, even about the smallest of things, but his eyes..if you look past the fake scared look, emit waves of hot sticky hell.

That's what is really scaring me. I always told people. Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous. He has proven me correct, but how correct will surface in due time.

Now that I have unveiled him, desperation might heed even more odd behavior. May be nothing but more irritation. He might finally leave, but I doubt it. He's dependant on me to vent on. My question is ...are passive aggressives capable of murder? Like crimes of passion? Are there warning signs?



holy shit that's my husband to a T

please be careful sugar, get out of this while you can hugs
 Quoting: Tessa-glp



This is a VERY alarming situation. Please do be careful!
And, STOP letting him know what you've figured out!! Just keep it TO YOURSELF and calmly but quickly get him out of your life. Don't give any reasons he can argue with, just end it swiftly and completely; tell him early in the morning that you need him to move out right away, and that he has until noon to remove his things before the locks are changed. Also, you NEED to have a close girlfriend or even a guyfriend to start hanging around A LOT, and RIGHT AWAY, just so he doesn't think you're so cut off from others that he can do anything without being held accountable. Seriously, you have put yourself in danger by letting him see what you were looking up and what you think. He could be a sociopath from your description, and you should NEVER alert them to anything like that. Be strong and do what you have to.
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Actually he sounds like a sociopath, not a mere passive aggressive.

Check out the full list of potential symptoms:
# Glibness/superficial charm.
# Grandiose sense of self-worth.
# Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
# Pathological lying
# Conning/manipulative
# Lack of remorse or guilt
# Shallow affect
# Callous/lack of empathy
# Parasitic lifestyle
# Poor behavioral controls
# Promiscuous sexual behavior
# Early behavior problems
# Lack of realistic, long-term plans
# Impulsivity
# Irresponsibility
# Failure to accept responsibility for own actions
# Many short-term marital relationships
# Juvenile delinquency


More here on the subject: [link to www.healthline.com]

Mind a sociopath usually has under developed and sometimes no real emotions. They can not 'relate' to you a person with emotions. Many are so out of tune with what real emotions are that they can only act like they do badly.

Some are real good at pretending, they learn the social and facial actions of emotion and then are able to faithfully reproduce the actions at the appropriate times.

Since they have repressed or no real emotions their timing of expressing emotions (real or otherwise) is usually off.

What tips me off in your post is that you feel that everything he does is 'fake'. Most likely it is fake, he is going through the motions without actually feeling the emotions that others would.

Causes could be emotional trauma in early to mid childhood, with later childhood being less likely. or Physical trauma at any time in his life, in other words brain damage.

Even if he is not a sociopath, he is most likely NOT evil, he is most likely damaged, injured, broken on one level or another.

Of course a real diagnosis can only be rendered by someone who is around him and has observed him and talked to him to find out why he is doing what he does.

If he is a sociopath and KNOWS he is a Sociopath, your diagnoses is only giving him fuel for his fire. He will most likely adapt and lean even heavier on those passive aggressive traits to throw you off the true trail.

This action would be 'self preservation' induced, not a conscious choice.

Sociopaths may be devoid of emotion, however their survival instinct is still intact and they will resort to any trick in the book to keep their 'secret' which is a need to survive.

Much of what he is doing is manipulative not really passive aggressive. He manipulated you to prep the meal, and he won. His 'negative energy' is his way to manipulate you to do what he wants.

Everyone is capable of murder given the right pressures.

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Dr. House definitely nailed it.

And YES, sociopaths ARE capable of murder.

There is little to no doubt that he is certainly a sociopath. If you have children, get them and yourself away from this man immediately. Your children ARE in danger. Because he is only nice to those who are useful to him, and will abuse anyone he sees as useless and/or weaker than him.

Get out. Get out now, and get a protection order, and HIDE if you possibly can!!

Actually he sounds like a sociopath, not a mere passive aggressive.

Check out the full list of potential symptoms:
# Glibness/superficial charm.
# Grandiose sense of self-worth.
# Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
# Pathological lying
# Conning/manipulative
# Lack of remorse or guilt
# Shallow affect
# Callous/lack of empathy
# Parasitic lifestyle
# Poor behavioral controls
# Promiscuous sexual behavior
# Early behavior problems
# Lack of realistic, long-term plans
# Impulsivity
# Irresponsibility
# Failure to accept responsibility for own actions
# Many short-term marital relationships
# Juvenile delinquency


More here on the subject: [link to www.healthline.com]

Mind a sociopath usually has under developed and sometimes no real emotions. They can not 'relate' to you a person with emotions. Many are so out of tune with what real emotions are that they can only act like they do badly.

Some are real good at pretending, they learn the social and facial actions of emotion and then are able to faithfully reproduce the actions at the appropriate times.

Since they have repressed or no real emotions their timing of expressing emotions (real or otherwise) is usually off.

What tips me off in your post is that you feel that everything he does is 'fake'. Most likely it is fake, he is going through the motions without actually feeling the emotions that others would.

Causes could be emotional trauma in early to mid childhood, with later childhood being less likely. or Physical trauma at any time in his life, in other words brain damage.

Even if he is not a sociopath, he is most likely NOT evil, he is most likely damaged, injured, broken on one level or another.

Of course a real diagnosis can only be rendered by someone who is around him and has observed him and talked to him to find out why he is doing what he does.

If he is a sociopath and KNOWS he is a Sociopath, your diagnoses is only giving him fuel for his fire. He will most likely adapt and lean even heavier on those passive aggressive traits to throw you off the true trail.

This action would be 'self preservation' induced, not a conscious choice.

Sociopaths may be devoid of emotion, however their survival instinct is still intact and they will resort to any trick in the book to keep their 'secret' which is a need to survive.

Much of what he is doing is manipulative not really passive aggressive. He manipulated you to prep the meal, and he won. His 'negative energy' is his way to manipulate you to do what he wants.

Everyone is capable of murder given the right pressures.
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Meh, sorry. Double post.

Though it DOES bear repeating!!

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holy shit that's my husband to a T

please be careful sugar, get out of this while you can hugs
 Quoting: Tessa-glp


Tessa, if you are living with someone like that, I hope you can get out. You are way cool, and loved by many.

OP, just stop the relationship now, or it will only get worse.

I used to be married to one of him too.
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Meh, sorry. Double post.

Though it DOES bear repeating!!
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what does "meh" mean? also why do people do /?
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Run for the hiii-ills dadum dadum dum!
Run for your Liii-ife!

Seriously! House is right! Textbook sociopath.

scary scary shit they are :-(
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If you even have to ask that question sweetie...it is time to move on IMO
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Meh, sorry. Double post.

Though it DOES bear repeating!!



what does "meh" mean? also why do people do /?
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Meh is the same thing as "bah" or "arg" or "sigh" or... whatever. Just a statement of mild irritation or displeasure.

I think that /? is a typo for ??
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Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous.


No, they are not... I'm sick of this idea that quiet people are secretly angry, or on the other end of the spectrum, they are timid and easily overpowered. I find neither of them to be true. In my experience, it's the charismatic, outgoing ones that are the most dangerous.. Those are the narcissists and the sociopaths, right there.
 Quoting: Hillcrest



+1000000000000

Usually the quiet ones are the ones that take everything in and reflect upon it.

I also agree the charismatic, outgoing ones are usually the ones who are dishonest, lying, control freaks (Obama comes to mind).

Based upon the OP's thread, it sounds like she is:

1. very controlling (after a spat he leaves the room and lays down to cool off and think about things and she comes in a rips him a new one for not getting her movie ready)

2. Self absorbed - it's all about her and what she is feeling, and what she wants, and what she believes it right or wrong.

3. Living in fantasy land - watches too many soaps or reads to many Harlequin romances.
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Yes, but the OP is a;so hypnotized by the attractive qualities, my hit. That makes dumping a problem, and he knows it.
Op did the right thing got our opinions, they represent a counter weight to his socio charm and give her the room to move on
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Actually he sounds like a sociopath, not a mere passive aggressive.

Check out the full list of potential symptoms:
# Glibness/superficial charm.
# Grandiose sense of self-worth.
# Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom
# Pathological lying
# Conning/manipulative
# Lack of remorse or guilt
# Shallow affect
# Callous/lack of empathy
# Parasitic lifestyle
# Poor behavioral controls
# Promiscuous sexual behavior
# Early behavior problems
# Lack of realistic, long-term plans
# Impulsivity
# Irresponsibility
# Failure to accept responsibility for own actions
# Many short-term marital relationships
# Juvenile delinquency


More here on the subject: [link to www.healthline.com]


Mind a sociopath usually has under developed and sometimes no real emotions. They can not 'relate' to you a person with emotions. Many are so out of tune with what real emotions are that they can only act like they do badly.

Some are real good at pretending, they learn the social and facial actions of emotion and then are able to faithfully reproduce the actions at the appropriate times.

Since they have repressed or no real emotions their timing of expressing emotions (real or otherwise) is usually off.

What tips me off in your post is that you feel that everything he does is 'fake'. Most likely it is fake, he is going through the motions without actually feeling the emotions that others would.

Causes could be emotional trauma in early to mid childhood, with later childhood being less likely. or Physical trauma at any time in his life, in other words brain damage.

Even if he is not a sociopath, he is most likely NOT evil, he is most likely damaged, injured, broken on one level or another.

Of course a real diagnosis can only be rendered by someone who is around him and has observed him and talked to him to find out why he is doing what he does.

If he is a sociopath and KNOWS he is a Sociopath, your diagnoses is only giving him fuel for his fire. He will most likely adapt and lean even heavier on those passive aggressive traits to throw you off the true trail.

This action would be 'self preservation' induced, not a conscious choice.

Sociopaths may be devoid of emotion, however their survival instinct is still intact and they will resort to any trick in the book to keep their 'secret' which is a need to survive.

Much of what he is doing is manipulative not really passive aggressive. He manipulated you to prep the meal, and he won. His 'negative energy' is his way to manipulate you to do what he wants.

Everyone is capable of murder given the right pressures.
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Premature diagnosis based on one side of the story Doc. Sorry.

Reread what she wrote and the descriptors she used and I think you'll get a different picture.
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Always watch the quiet people the closest. They are the most dangerous.


No, they are not... I'm sick of this idea that quiet people are secretly angry, or on the other end of the spectrum, they are timid and easily overpowered. I find neither of them to be true. In my experience, it's the charismatic, outgoing ones that are the most dangerous.. Those are the narcissists and the sociopaths, right there.



+1000000000000

Usually the quiet ones are the ones that take everything in and reflect upon it.

I also agree the charismatic, outgoing ones are usually the ones who are dishonest, lying, control freaks (Obama comes to mind).

Based upon the OP's thread, it sounds like she is:

1. very controlling (after a spat he leaves the room and lays down to cool off and think about things and she comes in a rips him a new one for not getting her movie ready)

2. Self absorbed - it's all about her and what she is feeling, and what she wants, and what she believes it right or wrong.

3. Living in fantasy land - watches too many soaps or reads to many Harlequin romances.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1011075


Jeffrey Dahmer was a quiet, keep-to-himself guy. People barely noticed him.

Charles Manson was a charming, charismatic, handsome (I don't see it, but whatev) man.



This is for both you and the OP (and whoever else)... the degree to which a person is outgoing or introverted bears next to nothing on their potential for violence.


Really that simple.
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Sum it up in two sentences.
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A creepy psycho was stalking her. Since she is an imbecile, she hooked up with him, only to find out creepy psycho stalker dudes don't make for great partners.
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If you allow an asshole to remain in your life -


it is all your fault.

- re-phrased

it is your fault he is in your life.

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Personal responsibility - try it sometime. Quit blaming others for your bad choices. Consequences happen.

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So many people are so quick to say "dump him/her" on this site.

Just saying.

I will say this, however, if you are unhappy, then it's time to consider greener pastures.

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So many people are so quick to say "dump him/her" on this site.

Just saying.

I will say this, however, if you are unhappy, then it's time to consider greener pastures.
 Quoting: Phydeau


I would ordinarily not be. But a sociopath is a dangerous person.

Often I think people are in too much of a rush to support 'working things out' and 'forgiving' in situations where there is danger.

Just saying.
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OP, you are a psychologically ill person. Please get help. Only mental cases post what you posted online at a forum like this. Please, I am not joking, you are very ill. Most likely your boyfriend is effected by your mental sickness.





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