ps. Op the reason so many younger guys get this, or act the way you say you want is because of the collapse of the family unit. These young "boys" were raised by single mommies. Very few of them will ever be "men". I dont believe that is what you need. I imagine it would leave you unsatisfied. You still want a "man". There are men out there that fit your criteria, its a long search to find a partner when you arent willing to settle. Trust me Ive been searching for years for a mate. The longer you look the less you want to "settle".