I guess I see a difference between paying attention to a lover, and having havng to build up someone's fragile ego. Everyone should be responsible for their own self worth; their own self confidence. Men should not NEED their egos stroked. They should be doing that for themselves. Women can just give them a lover's attention which is extra. LIke gravy on top. Likewise, women should not look to men for validation, but appreciate the time spent with them.