If a man is an abuser, either physically or emotionally, it is because he brings out the worst in himself. Such a man generally looks for someone who is easy to abuse.

As for me, first sign of it in any form and I am gone. Most "great women" do the same and consider abuse in any form the deal-breaker.

It is also true that most American men want sex too soon and are overly impressed by the barbie-doll and physical appearance.