My fiance dumped me, Should i date, check out the situation and you will see why i ask.

Sounds like there might have been trouble ´brewing´ for a while?? Need more info. before I can give advice.

what more do you need?

Well, I guess what I´m trying to say is can you think back to any warning signs? Did she act in a way that would lead you to think that there was trouble brewing in the relationship?

she seemed like she did not want to talk to me on the phone any more and then she stoped wanting to visit with me. i don tknow it is all hard to deal with.

hmmm sounds like a breakdown in communication. Something more is going on here, it would do you good to find out. Will she still talk if you call her?

she will still talk to me, i just am confused because there is the other one and i am really into meeting new people and tryign new things and i still want to talk to my ex because i was told that she still likes me im just not sure how.

9212,

This didn´t have anything to do with the spark light you saw fly over California does it?

no, no get back to your drinking.

I don´t want to give bad advice, but if she finds out you´re going out with that other person, would that make her mad and jealous and want to get you back?

it might, but that is not what i am looking for, she doesent even know that i am interested in this other, i just dont know wether or not i should, what if she wants to get back with me?

Why wouldn´t she though..if she was your Fiance!

It sounds to me like the problem is you. Here me out. Women, myself being one of them, can sense when their man is not fully dedicated to them and their relationship. If this is the case, we will begin to pull away so we are not the ones who wind up being hurt, rather we act like we don´t care anymore so you don´t hurt us.

It sounds to me like you are unsure of what you are looking for in life. You need to take some time and really think about what you want. Do you still want to ´play the field´ or so to speak, or are you ready to settle down with a serious and manogomis sp? relationship?

From the outside looking in, it seems like you want the former? Get your own head on straight and then everyone else´s will look straighter to you. Just my opinion.

i totally understand what you are saying and that makes sense but i was the one that put the most out in the whole relationship. i bought her things and she nevr seemed interested. i just think that it might be that i miss her mroe than she misses me. I like this other one and really want to get to know her, and i think that i was just being hopeful of what will not be comming. but maybe not. i think that i just need to let go. because my ex never call sme. i always call her and she still sounds disinterested. i think that i might call that other, tomarrow. what so you think? oh, and byt eh way, i really appreciate lal of you useful advice and help and would be intersted in continuing to look toyou for advice if you were ok with that.

Ok, this puts another spin entirely on what you have said. If she has seemed disinterested from the getgo, it sounds like she is one of these nicey nice, let em down easy types that just didn´t want to tell you the truth about her feelings for you. This doesn´t necessarily make her a ´bad´ person, just not very smart when it comes to honesty and relationships.

In other words, she certainly didn´t do you any favors by holding back her real feelings. Sounds like the realationship was doomed from the begining and you should count yourself lucky that you found this out before marrying her!

I would definitely take a little time to lick my wounds as well as ponder about any mistakes I might of made in ´people judgment´ so that you don´t find yourself in a ´rebound´ relationship.
Then I would go for it with this new girl, but pay real close attention to how she perceives you. Is it as just a close friend or is it more of a romantic enterest??

I´m on here all the time, feel free to tap me for advice anytime and goodluck in your immediate future. Glad to have helped.

thanks alot i hope the best for you you are a really nice person and i am glad to know you!!!

just so you kow momma wolf i finally figured out who you were and i am glad to figure out that i can talk to you. i was kinda afraid earlier but thanks alot. i meant what i said you are really nice.

the human race is weak.

She said, its best for the moment?

This my dear friends, means that she dumped you. It is best for the moment is to make you think so you dont ask too many questions.

Why is it best for the moment? Becasue you found another sexy person to replace me?

Women are worst then man when it comes to be sexually aroused, especially between 25 and 35.

You dont give them satisfactory sex, they will dump you for someone who does it better. And dont get me wrong, you might be better then the other guy in bed but from her point of view, shes done with you. Casue when you think about it, mastubation is made by yourself and i never heard anyone complaining about their own performances. So if she dont like it anymore when shes with you, then its all in her head.

I say go see the other lady if she is a nice person. Your ex will see that you moved on quickly, so she and you will be happy. Cause i am positive, that she has someone else in her life. I think anyway.

good day

it´s hard to play two posters on this thread, momma wolf, when the id numbers are the same. 9212=mamma wolf.
surprised no one else noticed this.
are you that lonely that you have to talk to yourself?

i always check the code normally.

thanks for the eye opener.

But then again, i already saw someone post with the code 1467 but it wasent me. So lets not jump to conclusion too rapidly.

Like, I said, happy to help:) Sometimes it is easier to write about our problems then to talk. I am here for you wich ever way is more comfortable.

God Bless.

Nice catch 4407, actually I was talking with a new friend, who recently joined our household. Was down on his luck in life with no family to help out. Friend of my daughter´s. Anyway, to make a long story short, been trying to give him an understanding ear. but as he already stated, he was too afraid to say anything. Then I thought of this forum and told him about how much fun GLP is. Well the rest you know from his last post to me from another computer on the same network in our house:)

I guess I should have not used my avatar? He knows I like wolves as my family room is covered in them. LOL!

Hope he knows that he can still tap me for advice from time to time:)

sorry for the assumption. makes me look like a fool.
your friend will be ok.
if i may add my 2 cents worth; sounds like she has her eye on someone else, or, she´s already involved.
it´s easier to shift the blame to something else than to look the truth in the eye.
she wants out. i know, i´ve seen it over and over again, been on the receiving end of the same thing.

Momma Wolf
User ID: 9212

you want to help him so you send him here?

You might want to fix him up before presenting him before us. We are nuts you know, some helps, some have fun, he needs to know which ones does what. And he also need to not mind the opinion of others, no matter what is being trown at him.



Wish him luck from our part.

9212

and dont tell him that you were the one replying. You will be able to monitor and maybe control his action best. to help him of course.

I dont mean controle like a puppet la la la.

good day

does anyone else have any advice???

This is not a good day to be here talking about this...Were all about gloom and doom and Bush bashing today.
Come back in a couple months after China takes us over.

Based on your first post OP, I´d go ahead and start seeing the other girl. If a woman uses those terms in a sentence regarding your relationship, it´s generally her kind way of saying, "we´re done dude".

Don´t be surprised if she throws you for another loop once she discovers your seeing someone else. That whole "he was mine first" possessive thing can come out.

thanks for that advice

i think that i will call that other girl and ask her out on a date

At first I was afraid I was petrified
Kept thinkin´ I could never live without you by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin´ how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And so you´re back from outer space
I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I´d´ve known for just one second you´d back to bother me
Go on now, go walk out the door
Just turn around now
(´cause) you´re not welcome anymore
Weren´t you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Did I crumble
Did you think I´d lay down and die?
Oh no, not.I. I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love I know I´ll stay alive;
I´ve got all my life to live,
I´ve got all my love to give and I´ll survive,
I will survive. Hey hey.
It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying´ hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart,
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself. I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me somebody new
I´m not that chained up little person still in love with you,
And so you feel like droppin´ in
And just expect me to be free,
Now I´m savin´ all my lovin´ for someone who´s lovin´ me
Go on now.. etc.

Not a problem 4407. Btw, ´shes´ a ´he´:) And I did warn him about what this forum is like before suggesting he post.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I think that it helps to get advice from strangers about something so personal. Especially for a guy I would think?