Okay. Examples: Catholicism used to be real to me because I believed in it. Then I evolved, through experience as well as education, and found it was not real and my belief fizzled in the wind. My belief in it made it real to me. All the teachings held power over me because of my belief. Nothing was real about it, except what my mind created. One day I walked away from it and there was no physical change, no mental anguish. I just didn't believe anymore. Same with a couple relationships I had. I believed I was in love with this man or that. It felt real in the moment. However now I know--from experience--that it was a good relationship based on strong emotional attachment or connection. So now I know, rather than merely believe, I was in caring relationships until I found one that was beyond all that.

Experiences are constantly different as we become more aware. I have found it to be impossible to hold any prior standard to the relevancy of my current situation. I used to judge and blame others when my ego was offended. And sometimes I still slip into that. But from experience--and awareness--I find the unique quality of each moment and lend the benefit of the doubt to the learning curve of the experiencer, whether that be me or someone else.

This is a big topic. I like it.