Are men naturally monogamous or polygamous? what's your take?

At different stages of your journey you need different partners, I'm a serial monogamist, as one door closes, another opens...

polyamourous.
We're designed to wanna procreate and produce as many successful offspring. We see this principle everywhere in nature.

What is strange though, is how when homosapien's ancestors started forming groups, and because of our ancestors not having "litters" of fast growing spawn we grew one slowly maturing creature. So females changed the dynamic to ensure THEIR ultimate genetic survival, they would only give sex in exchange for love and nurturing (or food and protection for them really). And the men would give love and nurturing in exchange for sex.

It's messed up to think maybe all this time we have been forcing upon us some unnatural state of existence. But at the same time isn't evolution itself the event of something unnatural being forced upon you until your genetics adapt to it?

If polygamy is natural, is forcing ourselves to be monogamous really worth it? after all it's merely a judeo-christian paradigm, some people live without it and are perfectly ok.

I am not taking sides just arguing for the sake of hearing arguments.

Yeah but in society if we permitted Polygamy the population would explode even more then it already has.

And that would suck for everyone.

Polygamy is an efficient way to balance selective reproduction with reproduction rates in a situation where a human group is in balance with it's environment over a long period of time.

It's simply a cultural adaptation that promotes survival and fitness.

Animals.

naturally I fuck with dogs

yes

Not if folks learned how to use contraception....which we desperately need right now, monogamous or not.

The beast nature of man ... and the spiritual nature of man existing within one body.

That's been the journey .... and how have we evolved? Not much sad to say.

Naturally?

Men are reprobate by nature. Ever yielding to their desires.

Never having enough of anything. Never satisfied.

naturally.

That if a man and a woman make a vow, they should be prudent about keeping it.

I've been consciously trying to subdue my sexual nature for years, I am starting to believe it's impossible.

And yes, it's a damn shame, but truly sometimes I think if the creator wanted us to reach an enlightening spiritual state he should have made it just a tad easier with the sexual urges thingy.

Anyways given that most people won't be able to crave for sex, and that the world is overpopulated as shit, I extend a call to everyone to just use a damn condom.

I'm in a relationship, it's hard to stick to one person. What's funny is how when one is in a relationship, u suddenly start getting more attention from the opposite sex.

i would LIKE to be monogamous, but i can't get a girl to even look at me sideways, or give me any acknowledgement that i exist

Especially stupid people who think raising kids is roughly equivalent to collecting a check.

That's another issue, maybe being true to our natures is not the best idea.......

After all the purpose should be to find the most beneficial ways to exist, not because their natural but because they are beneficial.

SO having that in mind, what is the most beneficial, polygamy or monogamy?

Monogamous.

You ever TRY and have a polygamous relationship? UGH.

Seriously. Too much work. The IDEA is great, the application is murder.

Women love winners and flock to them. A man with a woman will attract more women. Women are the problem actually.

The primal nature of man may well be rooted in many behaviors that are damaging- that is why we have free will to make rational and beneficial choices and the brain power to understand the consequences of going primal. We rise above our tribalism, our mob rule, petty violences and embrace a rule of law, morality and family. We replace the short term thinking of instant gratification and replace it with long term thinking and the joys of family, peace and security. Mankind are naturally what we choose to be, which is why we have impulses AND the ability to use our brains.

Monogamous until women start gettin whiny, bitchy and demanding... then we fuck all their sisters and friends.

I think with overpopulation things have changed so drastically yet some people still want to live as if we were in ancient palestine or something.

This tendency of having a family for the sake of having a family I don't understand sometimes, I myself don't wish to have a family just because it's supposed to be so. I take into consideration my environment and the current situation of my world before deciding such thing, most people just seem to go in automatic mode regarding this.

I think we have to start thinking how we have to live in a globalized, overpopulated world, and not through the values of peoples who lived in an underpopulated fragmented ancient world but with values that correlate with the current paradigm.

What are the most beneficial set of values for today's world? I think it's worth thinking about it.

I completely agree OP.

Thanks for your reply,

I believe God has instructed a man who seeks to be married what is good for him in this life.

One man, one woman. The two shall become one.

jmho.

peace,

Here come the bulldykes...

It depends on your species. Northern species are monogamous.
I'll let you use your imagination for the other choice

+1

google "pickup artist"

I like the Idea of it.

Even if we take the holy books as true, when was last time that God communicated regarding these things? 2500 years ago?

Got some news for you, the world has changed. Now if you can ask God how should we adapt to the new situation I am willing to listen, otherwise we are the ones in charge of finding a new paradigm that fits.

Or else we will destroy ourselves....