What the heck is wrong with parents anymore?

Thank you Op you do understand!!!!!

Yea, and when she gets home bloody and raped, it OK because her mother dropped her off 5 miles from home. Parenting is a dead art. Political correctness killed it.

You're incredibly smug. Typical of todays american youth! You're so heavily endowed with a grandiose sense of entitlement, you cannot make it through the day without interpersonal conflict.

This mother has good instinct. She knows whats going on with her son and this girl, and she's concerned as to what to do about it. She's in conflict because she doesn't want to damage her son's development and relationship, but she doesn't want to be part of an epidemic of teen pregnancy where the grand parents house, feed and raise the child.

Of course you can't envision this type of insight because you're young, shallow and lame!

Its that kind of 'wizdom' that leaves teens and parents facing abortion or surprise members to the family.

I'd imagine that this person and his bravado displayed here would turn into whimpering simp if the same happened to him. He, like all teens, would leave their unwanted babies to their parents to raise.

Disgustingly real.

what don't know why so it that the parent idiot you is.

OP.

Actually I am 27, and have three kids myself, three boys. And, I would much rather see my son walking up and down the street WHERE I CAN SEE HIM with a girl, then to be off somewhere else. Maybe you forgot, but teens WILL find a way to hang out with their friends, whether you let them or they sneak out. Walking with a girl at the age of 13? Is that really that bad? Omg, they can't walk together WHERE THE MOTHER CAN SEE! She'll end up pregnant!! Jesus, I have friends who have kids that are 13-15 and they would LOVE if their biggest problem was their kid walking around near their house.

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Yes, OP.. be prepared to be answered by teens and their monkey-like hormones where belligerence is rule #1.

Adult supervision is there because we KNOW that most young teens are prone to rash behavior. Its not to constrict, its about prevention and protection.

True, but if you push too much and never give them any freedom it WILL backfire. You gotta let them have friends and spend time with their friends - they're gonna find a way to do it whether you let them or not. My point is that I would much rather my son walk around with a girl IN MY SIGHT, then to sneak out because I never let him to anything.

probly snuck out cos he knew you'd fly off the handle like you have done. so what if the person lives 5 miles away? give him more freedom on this (in daylight hours).

very true

well the point of this is that my son could have asked if the girl could come over but no.The mother should have called and asked for permission to just drop her 13 year daughter off at a boys she had just seen for the first time they have talked on the computer, I was very upset about it but you have to understand when you wake up and your child is not in your house you get a little upset.

She dropped her off at 10:00 at night and left her in the street walking around with my son when he should have been in the house. My husband and I were asleep and I got up and he was gone. It is just useless to talk about anything on here I am done with it.

Oh by the way the so called mother picked her daughter up at 12:30 So I am being a bad mother by not letting my son run around at night. So when this happens to you you will understand.

Last Edited by flyingfish on 06/16/2011 10:02 AM

TALK to your son, educate him. I do not believe it is acceptable for a 13 year old to be out 10:00 at nite without permission. As for the girl, her mother is WRONG for dropping her daughter off there without your consent!!! BAD PARENTING!! You should have confronted the girl, asked her for the mothers phone number and called her to see WHAT WAS SHE THINKING!! As for your son, you should have told him to go back in the house and told him you would have a discussion about the situation in the morning. My child does not go ANYWHERE without both parties agreeing on the plan. If I do not know the parent, she does not go, plain and simple.You need to tell your son he is getting at a age where he is going to start to lose a certain level of respect and you will not allow that from him. Teach him to respect you and the family rules and he should turn into a respectable young man. nip it the butt now!! 15 is coming fast.....you may not know your child anymore if you do not educate him on rules and respect! Gook luck and be the better parent! allways talk!!!My curfew was 9:30 m-f and 11:00 sat nite. No if ands or butts....Even when I turned 18 and was still in high school, curfew did not change. Was I angry at my dad for this? NO!!! I always talked with me and explained why he had these rules and boundries with me and I ALWAYS respected his ruled because he had enough respect for me by parenting me!!!

OHH and PS> If all elese fails, stick a baby monitor hidden in his room somewhere, under the bed..... then you can hear from your room what his is doing! ;)

Yeah because invading your teenagers privacy is gonna make them more likely to open up to you!

The Mother who dropped the girl off at 10PM is trash. She's probably going to call her sister's baby-daddy to get it on while her daughter is street walking.

It would've been good of you, OP, put all important information in the original post. In your original post, nothing sounded like that big of a deal.

It was pretty evil of you to tell the girl to go home when she was dropped off. You could have at least cared for her until you figured out what she was dropped off.

You could have asked for her mother's number so you could speak to her about it. Instead you treated her like trash and left her to roam the streets at night alone.

Nice work.

Sorry I was just very upset nothing like this has ever happened before I didn't know what to think. sorry

I have a 13 year old daughter.

Here is the reality: you can't control other people- even the girl's mother. Getting yourself worked up about her behavior is only going to make you crazy. Let it go.

So, your job is to raise your son and assure the safety of him and his friend. I would have introduced myself to the girl, asked them if they wanted something to drink, brought my son inside and asked what was going on.

My daughter has had friends call her in the middle of the night when there was a domestic abuse issue, or when an uncle
(that was raising the child) died. My daughter came to me and asked for advice. In both instances, we got the kids and brought them here for the night. It has more to do with WHY was this girl dropped off.

Assuming there is no emergency and they just wanted to 'hang', I would impliment very clear times for 'hanging' and any variation from that would mean punishment.

For now, it isn't safe for them to be in the streets, offer them a place to talk inside the house where you can't hear them, but can listen.

If you do a good job at this, your house will be the one that all of the kids want to go to and you won't have to worry about what your kid is doing.

It may cost a few pizzas and some time, but, I love knowing what is going on with each of my daughter's friends. Priceless.

I meant can't listen but can see them

This post is confusing.

Why didn't you just call the kids in, sit them down and say what's up? Get a reasonable explanation then deal with the info you receive.

I don't understand your situation but I would have called them inside, talked to them, let them in the living room to play a boredgame (sic) and snack on something. I'd of either called her mother to pick her up, taken the girl home or waited until she got there and then I'd of sat Mom down too to ask why she dropped her kid off. Don't people know how to talk anymore?


When my kids were young, I was the 'neighborhood mom'. I had kids showing up at all hours because I had a safe house and it was made available to them in certain cases.

Steven and Jon and Brian would show up in the middle of the night if his parents were fighting. Chris would show up if he was hungry.

Stevens parents were drunk most of the time. Jon and Brian's mom a heroin addict and Chris' family couldn't afford enough food. Sometimes I had Steven for months at a time.

Having these kids in our home when they needed us was better than bringing CPS in. In our Lake Havasu City, AZ. community, a very nice community at that, the 'state approved' foster homes were horrible and dangerous! Even the nicest communities have bad people.

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Let your kid grow up... Way before he is ready. Parents like this are why we have roaming gangs of children in the city, raping and robbing all the old women..

Holy shit... I thought all the people like you were killed off. Good to see a normal human, welcome.

This. Right away I thought there had been some sort of sad situation with
the girl which she needed to talk about. But, if they were just meeting for the first time after being 'computer buddies', your son definitely needed to be more forthcoming. That said, some of my fondest memories are of 'walking at night' with my first boyfriend. At age 13. And no, I didn't get pregnant or anything. We were good friends and everything stayed above waist level.

maybe her mom had to go 2 work and didn't have sitter.

razing kids is tough.

good luck

they probably met on facebook-- ive driven my daughter(14) to meet up with some of her friends.. trust me, the mother if like me is sipping a cup of coffee lurking in the shadows watching them.. it will be fine-- just let them get to know each other and a week from now it will be history

my house is like that-- everybody hangs out over here.. if i had the money i'd finsh the garage so i could go hide..:).. we've even had boys and girls stay over.. of course i dont sleep and annoy the hell out of them

Most towns have a curfew for young teens. Anonymously call the police and tell them there are a couple of teens walking around at that hour. The police will pick them up and take each to their parents (your son to you). Problem solved - at least for now.