I'm turning 50 in 2 months - my son is turning 28 this month. He just told me he recently got a vasectomy.

He may or may not be gay (he tells me he's not), and only recently started dating a "steady" girlfriend (for the past few months). He's very intelligent (think upper echelon computer programmer type), and nerdy/geeky (ditto), and has never really been very socially active. He's lately been researching if he may have Asperger Syndrome. [link to en.wikipedia.org]

I have a 19 year old daughter so "there is still hope," though she is not currently dating much yet - very busy with work and college (that's ok). I would like her to enjoy her own life a while more before getting involved in a serious relationship or having children.

I know it's not my decision, and I'm glad he felt open enough to tell me about it - but a part of me is a bit disappointed as well. He doesn't believe that "the end of the world" is going to happen anytime soon, and he also has what most people would consider a very good income.

I might personally feel a bit too young to be a grandma, but it would be nice to have some little one(s) to dote on and get presents for during the holidays, etc. I guess I thought there was plenty of time - and now it's like half of that future possibility is gone. :(