I caught my boyfriend of 10 years looking at porn!!

Sorry OP..even if some here call it normal and healthy, it still hurts.

Now I get it! You are the one looking for another partner. This would be a good excuse to dump him if you wanted one for your parents who are probably like the guy who says tits are only for nursing babies and porn is cheating.

Just be honest with yourself and him. The problem is that you got together when you were 16 and you never got to experiment. Now you wish you could, but you have baggage. Why not just poison him? Better yet, have a weekly girls night out and bang some college kids till you get your fill of one night stands. After that you might find that your guy was pretty good after all and decide to marry him.

You do realize that this guy is just a boyfriend? 10 years and no ring tells me a lot about you and him. He obviously expects this to end so he is not going to give you a ring. So here is your lame excuse to kick him to the curb and look like a righteous uptight bitch, good luck with that. I am guessing your oldest child is around 10 years old?

So?

She is clueless!

my wife caught me after 18 years looking at porn my eyes were tired...

ane him save him NOW!

Is this a religous thing? If it is you are a whore if you slept with a man and you weren't married.

The only thing about sex that is special is the the fact that it perpetuates genetics. Lets consider all of the poor uneducated sheeple out there cultivating armies of idiots. Yeah.. sex is special. We are all so special. We are no longer a species, we are a product.

Your culture is not your friend.

Number one do not feel bad about yourself or inadequate. Your boyfriend loves you and men do not really compare their girlfriends to the porn or really want what is in the video. Men are just visual creatures and a lot of us have kind of grown up watching porn and taking care of manly needs sometimes. Most men masturbate...just something we do. There is not a lot of emotion that goes into it...there is not a lot of thought...it is just sort of a stress relief...quick pleasure thing. That is kind of the beauty of it that there is no emotional investment.



I would think your boyfriend feels awful that you feel awful...because I am sure he does not mean any harm in doing it but in truth it is something that is awful difficult to stop doing. It is meant to be a private act that no one else shares (well sometimes)



I do not know if it is right or wrong in the big picture...but there are FAR worse things he could be doing. I understand it is a hard thing to accept especially considering your 10 year past. Maybe you should see a counselor/life coach to help you with your self esteem issues/past...or go to counseling just to communicate about life in general with your boyfriend. Listen to your boyfriend when he says he loves you and porn does not mean anything because he is telling you the absolute truth.



If you are really uninhibited make some home movies of your own. Have fun with it. Ok...maybe that is a bit much...but it is an idea...lol





Don’t worry, be happy! Have confidence! Be the woman you know you are! Have strength! Enjoy the relationship you have.

That is precisely WHY you will be together for the rest of your lives.

Did he marry you before he got you pregnant? My guess is he did. The OP is not married after 10 years and she has been living in SIN that whole time yet she tries to come off like some uptight overbearing religious zealot who has been offended by another woman trying to steal her man.

Porn is not cheating. Anyone who thinks it is just needs to chill out and realize men are visual animals and like the stimulation of variety. When you were 16 fucking your boyfriend how did you know what to do? Did you watch someone else have sex or just figure it out? Did he watch porn to get ideas? You are a clueless prude that needs to grow up. Listen to people who know and let your guy have his porn.

Adding a guilt trip is a surefire way to alienate him and will surely lead to the end of your relationship. If that is your goal keep doing what you are doing.

Very true! Harping on him about it will backfire! If your BF was going out every night to strip clubs and stuffing dollar bills into g-strings and buying lap dances, I could understand being upset. But viewing porn is pretty harmless. Trust me, it's as normal as a man scratching his balls. They just do it!

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It's for Men in general, you have to be in men's shoes to understand it. You have to be glad as a woman because if men one day transcend sexual desires you ain't getting any anymore. Men only cling to the mind while women cling to the body and when they don't get any attention they suffer. So be glad that men give you attention by desiring you sexually, it's the nature.

time for both of these kids to grow up and get real and get some rings, or stop fooling themselves.

I'm sure he's happy to know you're posting it on the internet. Some women never leave high school.

Bull aaaa shit lol sorry but either you're a woman who has no idea or you're a man who's lying is ass off

Men want to have sex with all women, it's how we are created. While women want to have one man that will give her everything she ever needs, babies, shelter etc. IF women have complaints about men sexual drive it's nature they should report to, not making man's life hard, cause in the end the man will just leave and the bitch will remain alone.

Most men look at porn I think.. just like they leave the toilet seat up.

Hell, I made my husband a special section in the bookmarks bar for the sites he likes, and sometimes we look/watch together.

I was actually quite shocked when I read your thread title, probably because porn is a non-issue to us.

I can't believe how many idiots here support the porn industry! You'd think people on here would be able to see through the bullshit better than most, but I guess not. And trying to use peer pressure to make the OP feel like she's weird; you're all just a bunch of sheep! You can't think for yourselves and have let the media/corporations define your sexuality and determine what you find sexy. They really have you by the balls, and in many cases by the wallet as well! And the funny thing is, you seem to think watching porn is somehow proving your manhood or something.

Maybe you act this way because it is an addiction and you have to find any way you can to rationalize it or justify it? I don't know. But it really is crazy how mean and aggressive you all are toward the OP; you must really feel threatened by her for some reason.

OP, don't let these fools bully you into changing your mind or feeling bad about opinion. You already know intuitively that porn is a bunch of shit. Don't go against your intuition or you will never be happy in the relationship anyway.

And to all you ignorant brainwashed tools, none of this has anything to do with religion or prudishness!

i have a feeling you nailed it

Wahhhhhh go cry a river u harpy hag
You will die miserable and alone one day

Grow the fuck HP

Don't worry you soon get over it!

I want to catch my girlfriend looking at porn.

Don't want to sound like an ignorant but what do porn mean?

Judge much? Moralize and generalize your own life. Screw up your own kids. Your morals are just that, yours.

Awwwwwww man let the dude have his fun, come on.

Last Edited by Bomb Cyclone on 05/09/2012 03:16 AM

Lose some weight and he may start looking at you sgain instead of hot porn chicks (or was it gay porn he was looking at?).

You guy watching porn is not about you. You might look like Jessica Alba, it doesn't matter. Guys have different proclivities but the desire for multiple women is hard wired. that doesn't mean that he will cheat on you. If you embarrass him about it you could poison the relationship,men are sensitive about anything involving their Dicks. Tread lightly if at all.