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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1458750 United Kingdom 09/29/2011 03:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My mum has Alzheimer's, she had a stroke 5 weeks ago, and then yesterday had a very bad one again. They've told us if anything 'happens' they won't resuscitate her, as her quality of life would be very poor. They say the strokes will become more frequent and more serious. I understand why they've said it. But i'm finding it hard to accept she may leave us shortly. She is one of the very few people i truly love and care for!! For selfish reasons i don't wanna be an 'orphan', we lost dad when i was only 30!! How does anyone deal with this?? Quoting: JustMoi My Fellow Irishman. I feel for ya, I really do. My Aunt, who I was extremely close to, had the same thing happen to her. We fought through the courts to have them keep her alive, we won the case. WORST MISTAKE THAT WE EVER MADE!!! Whilst it is hard to let them go, you have to think about the person effected. Your mother will have no life AT ALL, except for pain. It is for the best. At least you know that it is coming, surround her with her things that are important to her and make the remaining time confy for her, and for you. I know that it cannot be easy to see a future without your mother, but, really, you are much much stronger than than you think. Take grate comfort from the fact that you still have others that you love around you, to help and guide you. Be well and I will pray for you. |
JustMoi (OP) User ID: 2278572 Ireland 09/29/2011 03:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My mum has Alzheimer's, she had a stroke 5 weeks ago, and then yesterday had a very bad one again. They've told us if anything 'happens' they won't resuscitate her, as her quality of life would be very poor. They say the strokes will become more frequent and more serious. I understand why they've said it. But i'm finding it hard to accept she may leave us shortly. She is one of the very few people i truly love and care for!! For selfish reasons i don't wanna be an 'orphan', we lost dad when i was only 30!! How does anyone deal with this?? Quoting: JustMoi My Fellow Irishman. I feel for ya, I really do. My Aunt, who I was extremely close to, had the same thing happen to her. We fought through the courts to have them keep her alive, we won the case. WORST MISTAKE THAT WE EVER MADE!!! Whilst it is hard to let them go, you have to think about the person effected. Your mother will have no life AT ALL, except for pain. It is for the best. At least you know that it is coming, surround her with her things that are important to her and make the remaining time confy for her, and for you. I know that it cannot be easy to see a future without your mother, but, really, you are much much stronger than than you think. Take grate comfort from the fact that you still have others that you love around you, to help and guide you. Be well and I will pray for you. Thank you for you kind words. You're right, i'm not gonna think of her 'gone', i know it's for the best. But for the moment she's here now and needs us, so i will do my utmost to make the end of her days as happy as i can. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1458750 United Kingdom 09/29/2011 03:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My mum has Alzheimer's, she had a stroke 5 weeks ago, and then yesterday had a very bad one again. They've told us if anything 'happens' they won't resuscitate her, as her quality of life would be very poor. They say the strokes will become more frequent and more serious. I understand why they've said it. But i'm finding it hard to accept she may leave us shortly. She is one of the very few people i truly love and care for!! For selfish reasons i don't wanna be an 'orphan', we lost dad when i was only 30!! How does anyone deal with this?? Quoting: JustMoi My Fellow Irishman. I feel for ya, I really do. My Aunt, who I was extremely close to, had the same thing happen to her. We fought through the courts to have them keep her alive, we won the case. WORST MISTAKE THAT WE EVER MADE!!! Whilst it is hard to let them go, you have to think about the person effected. Your mother will have no life AT ALL, except for pain. It is for the best. At least you know that it is coming, surround her with her things that are important to her and make the remaining time confy for her, and for you. I know that it cannot be easy to see a future without your mother, but, really, you are much much stronger than than you think. Take grate comfort from the fact that you still have others that you love around you, to help and guide you. Be well and I will pray for you. Thank you for you kind words. You're right, i'm not gonna think of her 'gone', i know it's for the best. But for the moment she's here now and needs us, so i will do my utmost to make the end of her days as happy as i can. Good. So you should. Do not think off her as gone, think as he away to a better life when it happens. |
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JustMoi (OP) User ID: 2307137 Ireland 09/29/2011 01:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm so sorry ! There is no such thing as having enough time with those you Love the most in the world. There just isn't enough time. Treasure the time you do have ... we feel your pain. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1417968 So true, i keep asking for one more day, but i've got to think of my mum, she's ready to go, and i know that!!! Thank you for your kind thoughts!! |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1458750 United Kingdom 09/29/2011 01:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm so sorry ! There is no such thing as having enough time with those you Love the most in the world. There just isn't enough time. Treasure the time you do have ... we feel your pain. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1417968 So true, i keep asking for one more day, but i've got to think of my mum, she's ready to go, and i know that!!! Thank you for your kind thoughts!! Bud, stay strong. Still praying for ya mate. |
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LindaE User ID: 1415061 United States 09/29/2011 03:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, I feel for your situation. But, if she's to the point where she'll never be functional again, then she's most likely ready to leave her body. That's very hard to say about your mother, but if you can do it, sit with her, hold her hand, and tell her softly that you are with her, and that it's OK for her to let herself slip away. You'll see her in heaven, and she'll be watching out for you from there for the nonce. |