I owe 29,000 in back Child Support, am i a Deadbeat?

without knowing all the details its hard to call you anything OP.

did you know about this child before the test? did you suspect the child was yours all along?

Don't feed the trolls...

I was in court when the child was less than 6 months, 2 men were named as "could be" we were both told to go on our way and the case was dismissed.

16.5 years later it bites me in the ass, no contact and no relationship with the child.

yes

so the court is now forcing you to back pay?

Same situation here, surprise daughter when she was 12. DNA test confirmed, automatic 20 grand back child support. 2 months later warrant issued for arrest for back child support because it was more then 5k in past due. Didnt matter that I was just ordered to pay it.


The only Debtors Prison System left in America. Took emergency funds from my 401k and paid 15,000 lump sum to get courts off my back.

He is not trolling!



No contact with kid or having my opinions valued.


Yes, they do!

Last Edited by Revguard on 11/10/2011 04:47 PM

Yes, you are a deadbeat, you irresponsible fuck.

Yes, they do!


Only 29,000 over 16 years? I was paying 1200 per month... that's 230,000 over 16 years. If he/she is yours and there is a deal there take the 29,000

Last Edited by Frankenstein on 11/10/2011 04:48 PM

I was irresponsible when I was 19, had a 2 week relationship/sex with a beautiful women. We went on our seperate ways. 12 years later, BAM child support case. I didnt even know I had a daughter?!

Yea, I got lucky. I made next to nothing, during that time period. They hit me with the minimum payment per week.

I got off lucky. Which is sad really?!

Last Edited by Revguard on 11/10/2011 04:49 PM

two years after she reaches 18 the debt is forgiven.

Go axe yo baby's momma. She is hangin' on a nother thread waiting to be axed questions

thats a rough situation OP.

its a flawed system we have.

You only owe back $151 per month? Damn you go lucky! I pay $575 per month

Not true. First off, child support can go until they are 24, if they are enrolled in college.

After 18, the mother/guardian has the right to sue for back child support. It no longer goes to the child at that point. Because the motehr/guardian paid the "child's way", and now the money is owed to her.

I almost had my mother sue my father for 18 years of child support and we talked about splitting it. We decided against it though.

I think the quotes got messed up. The kid is 16.5 for the OP. My kid was 12 when I got child support order.

And yes, I had a typo and should of put womAn, not womEn.

Last Edited by Revguard on 11/10/2011 04:55 PM

wow sorry to hear that OP.
I let my ex off of $10,000.00
That was years ago.
Not all American women are money grubbing.
I will say a prayer for you

Yeah, it's a tough situation to be in and the system is NOT fair for the Dad, Mom or the child. I was always broke during those early years and it was hard. BUT i made every payment for the children. The time will go by very fast, nothing remains static... better jobs will come your way, you will adjust and make lifestyle changes and soon enough it will be easy to afford. I hope you are planning on having a relationship with your daughter. I maintained my relationship with mine and we are very close to this day. My last child support payment was last December. It was like getting a big raise. Now i send money to my daughter for school... oh well, i'm just glad i have her.

Yes join the club like Rep Joe Walsh. Too bad you don't have CONgresswhore immunity from your criminal activities though.

man, if you don't have a job then you don't pay..

tip from a brather with 10 kids and counting (well 10 i know of)

Hire a lawyer.
Sue her for custody.

Beacause there were multiple opportunities for the mother to have the child tested and she didnt, the law of latches was ruled in this case, meaning the mother could not collect back child support, however the court stepped around this ruling by saying this amount is owed to my daughter. this payment is split in 2 one payment from birth to 16.5 to my daughter, from the time of the courts action to 18 this payment goes to her mother.

How can one child support court make a ruling over top of another counties child support ruling that has already been in court?? In my mind they should only be able to take action from the time they initiate their preceedings.

Now they were periodocialy on welfare, and because the state was unable to say how much was given directly to my daughter the whole case has been assigned to me, 6 people, the step dad, mother and 3 step brothers and sisters. More than half of these arrears are owed to the state welfare system.

Because I owe more than 5,000 in arrears I no longer have a passport or drivers liscense. Nevermind the fact these arrears were all assigned in 1 day. Im not a criminal. I obey the laws, would like to think am a decent person. Now I am a paranoid individual which is more than careful and always looking over my shoulder with a yellow streak down my back and breaking into a cold sweat everytime i see a law enforcement officer.

There are so many things about this case that are wrong on so many levels, Tomorrow I am calling for an appointment with the attorney generals office as I can get nothing resolved thru the county child support office.

Thanks for being a responsible father to your children. I am sure you are sacrificing and doing every selfless thing possible to ensure their lives are fulfilling, rewarding, comfortable, and secure. The most important influence a child will have is that of his/her father and it's the father that builds a child's self esteem, providing a better place, and mentoring them so they will have the tools and skills necessary to properly raise their children, your grandchildren. You are a true American hero and everyone is proud of real men like you.