Having a hard time getting the Grandparents to understand Christmas isn't about 100's of presents, to stop spoiling the kids!

I am not sure if you had a chance to read any of the other replies I have made from others, but I have never made my children give away anything. I haven't seen the movie you are referring to. It saddens me to hear that the movie was about a mother being controlling and abusive to her children. Children are the most precious gift anyone can have. My children are my world.

Thank you for understanding. It isn't that I am trying to "deprive" my children of Christmas fun, but it is not balanced what they are doing.

That is a wonderful idea. My daughter is very creative and loves crafts. She would be thrilled, I believe, to have something like that to do for Christmas. During other important dates she always makes things for her grandparents and my husband and me.

We come to it at last! Haha, seriously mom.....this is a much better reason to ask the grandparents to tone it down if you can be honest with them. The spoiling part is bs

Have the grandparents buy prepaid college tuition instead of too many toys

They can't give love so they think a bunch of presents will make up for it.

It is in a childs nature to want a lot of a good thing. Hell its in my nature to want more of a good thing.Just let them spend it and teach the children a lesson in donating to children that don't get what they do. Actually that is a better lesson in the longrun.

I don't rally understand why everyone is attacking you for wanting your kids to look at Christmas as family time, not a thousand dollars worth of presents time. My in-laws spend money they don't have buying their grandkids around 10 gifts each (there's 7 kids total.) It blows my mind because when I was young, we got 1 or 2 nice Hanukkah gifts from our parents, then maybe a few small gifts from our aunts and uncles. Looking back, they were probably dollar store type gifts. And we loved them. You went home with a couple new things, not 2 trash bags full of expensive toys. Then we had a Hanukkah Auction and the money went to a charity. It was always the highlight of the night having one person at a time get up and try to upsell their auction gift. The adults never gave gifts to other adults. Now as an adult, I don't buy a single gift for my family (no small children anymore) and I don't expect anything from them. And I'm fine with that. But on my husbands side, it's no holds bar. In my opinion, the kids don't appreciate each gift. They have so many they just tear through them. Kids don't treasure toys. They break them or lose interest pretty quickly, which is to be expected. I think people are calling you a "buzz kill" and other names because they think you don't like it when your kids have toys, but from what you said (and I agree) it sounds like you want your kids to be able to look back at Christmas and remember making gifts and spending time with family. I've already told my mother in law that if/when my husband and I have children, we certainly don't want them showered with gifts. If they feel the need to buy more than 1 or 2 gifts, I'd be happy to take them to a shelter. And it's not "stealing" the gifts. They've been informed of our wishes, and if they choose to disrespect the fact that I'm the parent, too bad. If they want to spoil a kid, they can do it with love and attention, not money.