You use the words "reality" and "responsibility" as if you have read Dr. Glasser's Reality Therapy and whether or not that in the case, you still refuse to take responsibility for your own life because you still seek to control other people and their opinions. Regardless of what you think is "right," it is the right of others to still have an opinion and to go ahead and make that decision for themselves. You are not responsible for them. Stop being a martyr.