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Gr!g0ri (OP) User ID: 3541799 United States 06/17/2012 05:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Those won't work for long... as you'll quickly find yourself keying off of and noticing expressions and body language next What's next wearing blinders or staying away from other people? Much easier to train yourself to be at peace in whatever environment you find yourself in so nothing external bothers you. Then all that is left is to work internally on yourself.Might as well start with that and cut out the middle as the end result will be the same anyway. Yeah...I understand what you're saying but it can still be frustrating. For example, I'm a musician and a writer. I personally can't do either one efficiently with chaotic surroundings. My environment generally doesn't bother me, but its been getting harder ever since late May. idk what happened Open heart, open mind :) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 17684182 United States 06/17/2012 05:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the replies. Its just hard to stay balanced when everyone is fighting all around you...literally. People are always arguing, screaming at their kids, and just being flat out ignorant. I'm good at ignoring it but its annoying..like the shit wakes me up out of my sleep. I'd move but I'm unable to right now :/ Quoting: Gr!g0ri If you seek sanctuary in your heart, the blatherings of egocentric people will not be able to penitrate your peace. Yeah..I do that. I'm pretty "awake and aware" and all that shit. I'm also a human who needs restful sleep lol Oh crap, I apparently presumed wrongly you were talking about walking down the street and being overwhelmed, not in your sleep! in that case, yea get a white noise generator or an equivalent to drown out the noise like the other poster said or the ear plugs like your mom said. |
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Gr!g0ri (OP) User ID: 3541799 United States 06/17/2012 05:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are there any sensitive empaths here? How the hell are you supposed to be empathic and endure living in the city Quoting: Gr!g0ri is quite simple: no matter where you go, there you are and what exactly are YOU trying say with this? Everything is a reflection of yourself and so forth? Open heart, open mind :) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 17684182 United States 06/17/2012 05:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Those won't work for long... as you'll quickly find yourself keying off of and noticing expressions and body language next What's next wearing blinders or staying away from other people? Much easier to train yourself to be at peace in whatever environment you find yourself in so nothing external bothers you. Then all that is left is to work internally on yourself.Might as well start with that and cut out the middle as the end result will be the same anyway. Yeah...I understand what you're saying but it can still be frustrating. For example, I'm a musician and a writer. I personally can't do either one efficiently with chaotic surroundings. My environment generally doesn't bother me, but its been getting harder ever since late May. idk what happened Can you sound proof a room in your place? Seen people do that to gain solitude if they were unable to move. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 11171736 United Kingdom 06/17/2012 05:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Those won't work for long... as you'll quickly find yourself keying off of and noticing expressions and body language next What's next wearing blinders or staying away from other people? Much easier to train yourself to be at peace in whatever environment you find yourself in so nothing external bothers you. Then all that is left is to work internally on yourself.Might as well start with that and cut out the middle as the end result will be the same anyway. I was saying that for the noisy neighbours stuff, as a last option when the OP needs to sleep. |
Gr!g0ri (OP) User ID: 3541799 United States 06/17/2012 05:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Those won't work for long... as you'll quickly find yourself keying off of and noticing expressions and body language next What's next wearing blinders or staying away from other people? Much easier to train yourself to be at peace in whatever environment you find yourself in so nothing external bothers you. Then all that is left is to work internally on yourself.Might as well start with that and cut out the middle as the end result will be the same anyway. Yeah...I understand what you're saying but it can still be frustrating. For example, I'm a musician and a writer. I personally can't do either one efficiently with chaotic surroundings. My environment generally doesn't bother me, but its been getting harder ever since late May. idk what happened Can you sound proof a room in your place? Seen people do that to gain solitude if they were unable to move. I wish. I guess I'll just have to endure for now. It could always be worse. Open heart, open mind :) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 11171736 United Kingdom 06/17/2012 05:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'll summarise my thoughts on the specific case of noisy neighbour problems before going to bed. 2 and 3 are of course different ways to the same thing. 1) The OP can use 'technology' to help * Earplugs * Noise: white, ocean waves etc. * Sound insulation 2) The op can go down the meditation path and find inner peace that way. 3) If the OP is a natural empath and not just sensitive to the insensitivities of others then he can connect with the suffering of the noise perpetrators. 4) Use the distraction for a purpose, such as a trigger for lucid dreaming or astral projection, important to lose the negative associations with the sound in that case. There's probably a lot more too, but that's all of I've got for now. |
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Gr!g0ri (OP) User ID: 3541799 United States 06/17/2012 06:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'll summarise my thoughts on the specific case of noisy neighbour problems before going to bed. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 11171736 2 and 3 are of course different ways to the same thing. 1) The OP can use 'technology' to help * Earplugs * Noise: white, ocean waves etc. * Sound insulation 2) The op can go down the meditation path and find inner peace that way. 3) If the OP is a natural empath and not just sensitive to the insensitivities of others then he can connect with the suffering of the noise perpetrators. 4) Use the distraction for a purpose, such as a trigger for lucid dreaming or astral projection, important to lose the negative associations with the sound in that case. There's probably a lot more too, but that's all of I've got for now. can you talk a bit more about #3? Open heart, open mind :) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1272733 United States 06/17/2012 06:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the replies. Its just hard to stay balanced when everyone is fighting all around you...literally. People are always arguing, screaming at their kids, and just being flat out ignorant. I'm good at ignoring it but its annoying..like the shit wakes me up out of my sleep. I'd move but I'm unable to right now :/ Quoting: Gr!g0ri Despite shallow assumptions in regards to personal perception of the ignorance others, their circumstances for their actions are unbeknownst to you, but they should always be considered. Always. When you truly realize or are consistently aware of the shear complexity of emotions that reside within every single human and the infinite amount of problems they could have, you stop blaming them and become empathic/compassionate towards them. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 15770397 Australia 06/17/2012 06:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get out a map. If I was in America I would choose somewhere like the appalachians, or way up north where there is few people. There is always old shacks that people want to rent usually cheap. I live nearly 2 hours from the closest town. My rent is $50 a week. Solar power and spring water. Very basic. If you have money to buy a place they are dirt cheap. You only need enough room for chooks and a vege garden. A goat or cow for milk and cheese if you want the extra work. If you want this, you can do it for nearly no money or not much. Most people have much more than they need. I have very little stress out here. I visit the city cause I love to watch the people but I would die if I lived there. |
Gr!g0ri (OP) User ID: 3541799 United States 06/17/2012 06:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the replies. Its just hard to stay balanced when everyone is fighting all around you...literally. People are always arguing, screaming at their kids, and just being flat out ignorant. I'm good at ignoring it but its annoying..like the shit wakes me up out of my sleep. I'd move but I'm unable to right now :/ Quoting: Gr!g0ri Despite shallow assumptions in regards to personal perception of the ignorance others, their circumstances for their actions are unbeknownst to you, but they should always be considered. Always. When you truly realize or are consistently aware of the shear complexity of emotions that reside within every single human and the infinite amount of problems they could have, you stop blaming them and become empathic/compassionate towards them. AND you stop being assuming and judgmental, correct? I didn't criticize these people. I just said it disturbs me to be surrounded by it at my place of residence. I don't know their character or life problems, nor do I really care. We all have them. Open heart, open mind :) |
Gr!g0ri (OP) User ID: 3541799 United States 06/17/2012 06:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get out a map. If I was in America I would choose somewhere like the appalachians, or way up north where there is few people. There is always old shacks that people want to rent usually cheap. Quoting: AwakeInTassie I live nearly 2 hours from the closest town. My rent is $50 a week. Solar power and spring water. Very basic. If you have money to buy a place they are dirt cheap. You only need enough room for chooks and a vege garden. A goat or cow for milk and cheese if you want the extra work. If you want this, you can do it for nearly no money or not much. Most people have much more than they need. I have very little stress out here. I visit the city cause I love to watch the people but I would die if I lived there. LOVELY. Thank you so much. I'm really going to look into this. Open heart, open mind :) |
Iolair User ID: 18098169 Germany 06/17/2012 06:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | very well said. I think this is where we all are going to. But still, many people can´t handle their own emotions, so they tend to project their issues on others.. they even sometimes do it without saying anything. This can be very invasive. Despite shallow assumptions in regards to personal perception of the ignorance others, their circumstances for their actions are unbeknownst to you, but they should always be considered. Always. When you truly realize or are consistently aware of the shear complexity of emotions that reside within every single human and the infinite amount of problems they could have, you stop blaming them and become empathic/compassionate towards them. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1272733 There will come a time when you believe everything ends. This will be the beginning [Louis L'Amour] ~ A r c t u r u s |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 18102143 United States 06/17/2012 06:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get out a map. If I was in America I would choose somewhere like the appalachians, or way up north where there is few people. There is always old shacks that people want to rent usually cheap. Quoting: AwakeInTassie I live nearly 2 hours from the closest town. My rent is $50 a week. Solar power and spring water. Very basic. If you have money to buy a place they are dirt cheap. You only need enough room for chooks and a vege garden. A goat or cow for milk and cheese if you want the extra work. If you want this, you can do it for nearly no money or not much. Most people have much more than they need. I have very little stress out here. I visit the city cause I love to watch the people but I would die if I lived there. That doesn't sound bad my friend. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 15770397 Australia 06/17/2012 06:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get out a map. If I was in America I would choose somewhere like the appalachians, or way up north where there is few people. There is always old shacks that people want to rent usually cheap. Quoting: AwakeInTassie I live nearly 2 hours from the closest town. My rent is $50 a week. Solar power and spring water. Very basic. If you have money to buy a place they are dirt cheap. You only need enough room for chooks and a vege garden. A goat or cow for milk and cheese if you want the extra work. If you want this, you can do it for nearly no money or not much. Most people have much more than they need. I have very little stress out here. I visit the city cause I love to watch the people but I would die if I lived there. That doesn't sound bad my friend. It is the way we were meant to live. We have few needs and many many want. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 15788170 United States 06/17/2012 07:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I wouldn't think you could without extreme desensitization. Maybe that's why there's so many crazies in the cities, eh? Overwhelmed empaths? Quoting: Bea Nameless You're probably dead on with this. I don't like the city. I don't even like living inside a town. Probably why I never moved out of BFE, lol. I could see where it would drive someone empathetic or sensitive insane. I do notice in less populated areas, mental illness seems not so prolific. I realize causation doesn't always imply correlation... but sometimes it does, lol. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1272733 United States 06/18/2012 05:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Thanks for the replies. Its just hard to stay balanced when everyone is fighting all around you...literally. People are always arguing, screaming at their kids, and just being flat out ignorant. I'm good at ignoring it but its annoying..like the shit wakes me up out of my sleep. I'd move but I'm unable to right now :/ Quoting: Gr!g0ri Despite shallow assumptions in regards to personal perception of the ignorance others, their circumstances for their actions are unbeknownst to you, but they should always be considered. Always. When you truly realize or are consistently aware of the shear complexity of emotions that reside within every single human and the infinite amount of problems they could have, you stop blaming them and become empathic/compassionate towards them. AND you stop being assuming and judgmental, correct? I didn't criticize these people. I just said it disturbs me to be surrounded by it at my place of residence. I don't know their character or life problems,nor do I really care. We all have them. I wasn't assuming or judging anything. In fact, your reply validates my original comment and ironically, contradicts the very definition of empathy. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 19367997 United States 07/19/2012 10:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get cd's of tropical rain forest sounds, waterfalls, storms, etc. A huge bathtub works wonders. Focus on the innocent children when in crowds, especially if you have a problem reading others thoughts. Think of your favorite vacation place when in huge crowds. Live in your fantasy world a little more. |
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John Rhys User ID: 16191181 United States 07/19/2012 11:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | People harbor distrust. Distrust in the sense that they're in fear of being judged harshly in terms of their honest self. They're shackled by fear. Love does not exploit somebody else's secret name... Love holds it and lessens the fear. Our world is treading on a sea of misery, anger and hopelessness. Whatever light is out there, shine ever bright |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 19367997 United States 07/19/2012 11:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | People harbor distrust. Distrust in the sense that they're in fear of being judged harshly in terms of their honest self. They're shackled by fear. Quoting: John Rhys 16191181 Love does not exploit somebody else's secret name... Love holds it and lessens the fear. Our world is treading on a sea of misery, anger and hopelessness. Whatever light is out there, shine ever bright Excellent! Pollyanna principle; look at each and find something to love! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 16439363 United States 08/01/2012 03:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are there any sensitive empaths here? How the hell are you supposed to be empathic and endure living in the city Quoting: Gr!g0ri I am a bit of a recluse actually. I stopped being able to go out and just walk around NY sometime around 2007. The city is so crowded now, but also the vibes are evil! Sometimes when people are speaking I can just feel despair oozing out of them. Its almost like a psychic fart! |