Why is love of self so difficult? | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 14105059 United States 11/08/2012 01:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Love of self is difficult because most people aren't happy to simply be who they are, if they even know who they are in the first place. But people also practice self-loathing vicariously when they project the things about themselves they can't face into the world around them. I think we can learn more about loving ourselves if we focus on loving others first. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 26594411 United States 11/08/2012 02:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Love of self is difficult because most people aren't happy to simply be who they are, if they even know who they are in the first place. Quoting: !saac But people also practice self-loathing vicariously when they project the things about themselves they can't face into the world around them. I think we can learn more about loving ourselves if we focus on loving others first. Thank you, !saac. I always find your comments either really amusing or very profound. This falls into the later |
acegotflows User ID: 19532652 United States 11/08/2012 02:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | But to get to that love of self point can be a long journey depending on what you believe to be true. "a foundation built on lies is always bound to crumble and those who aren't humble shall tumble to the earth" |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 14105059 United States 11/08/2012 02:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Love of self is difficult because most people aren't happy to simply be who they are, if they even know who they are in the first place. Quoting: !saac But people also practice self-loathing vicariously when they project the things about themselves they can't face into the world around them. I think we can learn more about loving ourselves if we focus on loving others first. Thank you, !saac. I always find your comments either really amusing or very profound. This falls into the later Aww, thanks. I wanted to add, if we can forgive others, we can forgive ourselves, but it's much, much easier doing it through works to others. For me, forgiving other people does several things, it allows me to sever any attachment to a resentment, which most of us hold on to for a long time, sometimes our entire lives, but it also puts things in perspective. We are all hypocrites in one regard or another. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26575283 United States 11/08/2012 02:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Neither more nor less than your self. Equality is the only way you can get rid of egotism, of yours or others. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26268975 If you are saying what I think you're saying.. That self loathing is very wrapped up in the ego. I have never thought of it that way, but I agree completely. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26647121 United States 11/08/2012 02:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | labels and associations tell us what we are, but not who we are. A lot of my life was spent trying to unlearn what I didn't like me. I'm pretty much at a good place now. But it came with basically sacrificing all my relationships with everyone in my life and starting over. It's a lot better now. And I also know I love myself enough to not worry about what the rest of the world thinks. It's the most free I have felt in a long time. Quoting: acegotflows But to get to that love of self point can be a long journey depending on what you believe to be true. What brought you to that point? I think you really summed it up so well. Self acceptance, loss of ego. It is a sacrifice of self. Thanks Ace, for giving some perspective. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 12195955 United States 11/08/2012 02:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Even though my life is very stable, good job, money to spare, good health... there is always room for improvement. I tell myself I could have better discipline, exercise more, do more creative work, get out and socialize more, etc etc.. More more more, desire desire desire! I suspect this is a universal feeling for people at all levels of "success" in our society. It is very difficult to simply accept oneself as one is.. but ultimately, that is what we must strive to do! Hopefully I'll get the hang of it eventually... |
Life and Love User ID: 23644024 United States 11/08/2012 02:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Some would argue that you cannot love anyone if you cannot love your self, but I think it's much easier to love someone yet loathe yourself. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26534381 I would agree. The more evenhanded comparison wouldn't be with loving others but between loving yourself and taking the risk of letting others love you, as each of these requires an open heart whereas loving others does not. We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 26585544 United States 11/08/2012 02:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Some would argue that you cannot love anyone if you cannot love your self, but I think it's much easier to love someone yet loathe yourself. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26534381 I would agree. The more evenhanded comparison wouldn't be with loving others but between loving yourself and taking the risk of letting others love you, as each of these requires an open heart whereas loving others does not. I think your comment just inspired one of Oprahs Aha moments. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Beautifully stated. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27323611 United Kingdom 11/08/2012 02:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Love of self is difficult because most people aren't happy to simply be who they are, if they even know who they are in the first place. Quoting: !saac But people also practice self-loathing vicariously when they project the things about themselves they can't face into the world around them. I think we can learn more about loving ourselves if we focus on loving others first. Thank you, !saac. I always find your comments either really amusing or very profound. This falls into the later Aww, thanks. I wanted to add, if we can forgive others, we can forgive ourselves, but it's much, much easier doing it through works to others. For me, forgiving other people does several things, it allows me to sever any attachment to a resentment, which most of us hold on to for a long time, sometimes our entire lives, but it also puts things in perspective. We are all hypocrites in one regard or another. yep we are all hypocrites , all the time we're a funny lovable bunch i would say there are stages to love yourself (unconditionally) you need forgive yourself you can't fully forgive yourself until you accept yourself you can't fully accept yourself until understand yourself and understanding yourself takes conscious witnessing of yourself regularly and that is (inner) hard work in this age of distractions and takes a long time imo , once you understand , accept and forgive and begin to love yourself , it is something which naturally flows to others in the perfect world which we aspire to but often fall short |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26663220 United States 11/08/2012 02:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I believe there is far more to it than meets the eye. Power flows according to Natural Laws. Love of self....love of others One cannot choose the relationships they are born into. So those who wish to control, focus on that Achilles heal to exploit. ie prisons are populated by mostly fatherless men. I am in no way insinuating that those in prison are not responsible for their actions, I just believe that the challenges that they are born into are sometimes exploited. It would just be a different world if we were more tuned in to all "Laws" that are being broken. |
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acegotflows User ID: 19532652 United States 11/08/2012 02:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | labels and associations tell us what we are, but not who we are. A lot of my life was spent trying to unlearn what I didn't like me. I'm pretty much at a good place now. But it came with basically sacrificing all my relationships with everyone in my life and starting over. It's a lot better now. And I also know I love myself enough to not worry about what the rest of the world thinks. It's the most free I have felt in a long time. Quoting: acegotflows But to get to that love of self point can be a long journey depending on what you believe to be true. What brought you to that point? I think you really summed it up so well. Self acceptance, loss of ego. It is a sacrifice of self. Thanks Ace, for giving some perspective. It's still ego involved. But it's reproductive. I see thoughts and energy as reproduction. We manipulate and are manipulated all the time, but by what? Once you start to understand that nothing is what it seems to be you wake up. But really just say screw it. Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom with no hope to get there. I did. Others didn't . Perspective is key... "a foundation built on lies is always bound to crumble and those who aren't humble shall tumble to the earth" |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 26565315 United States 11/08/2012 03:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I believe there is far more to it than meets the eye. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26663220 Power flows according to Natural Laws. Love of self....love of others One cannot choose the relationships they are born into. So those who wish to control, focus on that Achilles heal to exploit. ie prisons are populated by mostly fatherless men. I am in no way insinuating that those in prison are not responsible for their actions, I just believe that the challenges that they are born into are sometimes exploited. It would just be a different world if we were more tuned in to all "Laws" that are being broken. Thank you for your insightful comment. You bring up a great point. Natural laws and cosmic laws. Are these the laws you refer to? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26663220 United States 11/08/2012 03:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I believe there is far more to it than meets the eye. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26663220 Power flows according to Natural Laws. Love of self....love of others One cannot choose the relationships they are born into. So those who wish to control, focus on that Achilles heal to exploit. ie prisons are populated by mostly fatherless men. I am in no way insinuating that those in prison are not responsible for their actions, I just believe that the challenges that they are born into are sometimes exploited. It would just be a different world if we were more tuned in to all "Laws" that are being broken. Thank you for your insightful comment. You bring up a great point. Natural laws and cosmic laws. Are these the laws you refer to? Yes. |
acegotflows User ID: 19532652 United States 11/08/2012 03:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | labels and associations tell us what we are, but not who we are. A lot of my life was spent trying to unlearn what I didn't like me. I'm pretty much at a good place now. But it came with basically sacrificing all my relationships with everyone in my life and starting over. It's a lot better now. And I also know I love myself enough to not worry about what the rest of the world thinks. It's the most free I have felt in a long time. Quoting: acegotflows But to get to that love of self point can be a long journey depending on what you believe to be true. What brought you to that point? I think you really summed it up so well. Self acceptance, loss of ego. It is a sacrifice of self. Thanks Ace, for giving some perspective. Basically I had to lose once. I was to such a low that I did not see a future. And I wasn't motivated to see one. But when things happen to you in your life that you can't explain, you try to. I looked around for answers, I didn't get them. Once you question reality, things become loose fitting. You start to see the common threads. I started to see the world around me as me but in a different form. I guess you'd call that empathy. But you still have your own assumptions and things, but it's hard to not be judgmental. But what you base your judgements on is the key. It has to be honest, and it has to be fair. It is a hard thing to balance. I try, but it's easier when you don't force things. "a foundation built on lies is always bound to crumble and those who aren't humble shall tumble to the earth" |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26531310 United States 11/09/2012 12:00 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | labels and associations tell us what we are, but not who we are. A lot of my life was spent trying to unlearn what I didn't like me. I'm pretty much at a good place now. But it came with basically sacrificing all my relationships with everyone in my life and starting over. It's a lot better now. And I also know I love myself enough to not worry about what the rest of the world thinks. It's the most free I have felt in a long time. Quoting: acegotflows But to get to that love of self point can be a long journey depending on what you believe to be true. What brought you to that point? I think you really summed it up so well. Self acceptance, loss of ego. It is a sacrifice of self. Thanks Ace, for giving some perspective. Basically I had to lose once. I was to such a low that I did not see a future. And I wasn't motivated to see one. But when things happen to you in your life that you can't explain, you try to. I looked around for answers, I didn't get them. Once you question reality, things become loose fitting. You start to see the common threads. I started to see the world around me as me but in a different form. I guess you'd call that empathy. But you still have your own assumptions and things, but it's hard to not be judgmental. But what you base your judgements on is the key. It has to be honest, and it has to be fair. It is a hard thing to balance. I try, but it's easier when you don't force things. I sincerely thank you for sharing. I resonate with that low you write of. Ive come to the realization that I sacrificed my creation in pursuit of the mystery. For me, knowing the truth wasn't just a mere hobby, it was my obsession. To come away from everything I've learned, with experiences but no real truth..it's a bit devastating, soul crushing, actually. I have a kid and I was always too busy chasing the mystery, trying to figure out how I fit in the universal equation. If my future is the world painted through my childs eyes, what is the picture I helped paint? |
notacelebrity User ID: 1913529 United Kingdom 11/09/2012 12:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You can lie to your family, your friends, to complete strangers; but when you look in the mirror you can't lie to the person looking back at you. They know your every secret. They know you're sad even though you tell everyone you're happy. As much as they know the worst of you, they also know the best of you. Goliath |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1342586 United States 05/16/2013 11:10 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you know how beautiful you are, that you are the dreamer, meaning everything, that you are not your body but pure consciousness, that everything is your 'self', that in your natural state of love you are highly evolved and pure intelligence, there is nothing you cannot do. Thee fact there are so many things to love leads me to believe love is infinite. |
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