Had to sell my wedding ring today

How long have you two been married. Mind me asking

Get a second job. Both of you.

Increasing ones debt burden is not a remedy for lack of consumerism.

Consumerism is the curse not the cure, I would hope he divorces you on the spot.

10 years I just had no idea what else to do I have been looking for a second job at night but nothing yet. Just had to rant a bit before I go cry my eyes out.

That's fucked up. I doubt he understands. Sorry to hear it...

That sucks! Getting close to that point too.

Disconnect everything u can.

Directv, cable, house phone(if u have a cell for emergency's), garbage (if u live in the country burn paper, mulch left over food scraps). Already did that but with winter you need heat, water, food, kids grow and grow and grow. Feel ya only have 1 little man and it's almost imposible to keep up.

Good luck and God bless

U shoiuld have talked to him before that... maybe he will think you dont love him or something

true.
Things are going to double, again, like energy, food, etc, etc etc
I'm hooking up a wood stove just in case, may need it soon....

I have been there. I honestly know how you feel.

The first thing you need to do is enter survival mode, all moms have it.

Get rid of any luxuries (cell, cable, internet etc...) you may think you will die but I promise you won't and you will actually enjoy life much more.

Plan your meals so that you can have leftovers for lunches or dinners the next night. Turkeys are the good buy right now, roast one on a sunday and eat off of it turkey sandwiches, pot pies and soups off the rest. Make everything you can yourself, use coupons!

It sucks, it is hard, but sadly it is happening to a lot of people.

Good luck to you and God bless.

I think you sit down and budget. With no credit cards, no car payment, and low house payments you need to determine where you are bleeding all the money. I know 4 kids is expensive. It's good you aren't running up credit cards. That only makes things worse. Eating fast food? Cut that out if so. Also, don't buy the expensive prepackaged microwave meals. Buy the lower priced basic foodstuffs as much as you can, and cook from scratch.

between you and your husband working about a 100 hours a week , you would think you guys will be ok, no credit cards/cay payments/low mortage

Ok, let me get this straight.. you work 40hrs, and your hubby works 60?

At $8hr (just throwing a figure out), that is $960wk gross? How in the H**L can you not live on that?? With no CC, no car payment? What the frick do you eat, gold plated steaks??

And if your husband works someplace that gives bonuses, that means he defintately makes more than $8hr, so this thread is complete BS.

I know a lot of people who live, raise a family of 5+, for under $500wk, and that is with $0 gov. assistance, no "bonuses," and no CC's, ,and they still afford to spend at holidays.

I don't get people noawadays.. OMG, my family could live like kings on $900wk gross.. I lived like a king on $250wk, and that was 2yrs ago..

She never said she did'nt have a car payment or mortgage.

Car payment - average 200-400

Rent or mortgage - 1000 (depending on were u live)

That doesn't include electricity, propane or natural gas, phone, (at least 1 for emergencys)insurance (car, home life, and medical), fuel (need it to get to that job and get the kids where they need to be-babysitter, extra help w/homework, sports, doctor and dentist appt. ) The list of the stuff kids need and do is endless. Food and clothing for a large family even w/ hand me downs is endless.

Stop being a complete ass.

It's tough today no matter how much u work.
Wages suck! Benefits suck!

Trolls suck more!

At $8 per hour 40 hour for both would be $320 each, plus 20 hours ot for hubby at $12 per hour $240...that would total $880 per week before taxes. With deductions you should be at around $600 per week take home for both combined.

I hate to break it to you, $600 a week is nothing for a family to try and live off of. It would be hard, but not to the point of selling/pawning a wedding ring?

I agree, hubby makes about $1000 per week and wife around $600 and they're crackheads and alcoholics, lol...OR....

She's just your everyday standard issue ATTENTION WHORE, lol!

this is just the beginning wait until you see what is coming

Complete asses at least read the thread. While idiots like yourself don't...go back and reread it.

WOW....some peoples kids!

We have the same problem; we dont make enough to sustain our monthly income; the "everythings gonna be allright" attitude was learned by creidit culture of always having resources and now we dont....


with a corporate dictatorship as a government, we can expect the value to gradually decreae on downward rajectory to zero and the unions losing power even as Obama is reelected because Obama is really about the UN and international banking representation.

I'm sorry OP. Hopefully you will be able to redeem that pawn ticket soon and get your wedding ring back. Tough times.

Fuck every jerk out there.

You did what was necessary for your family's survival. When ... I have to do the same. I will do without thinking twice. (Your hubby may be pissed mine would probably too) but you have a big beautiful family and he will understand.

A ring is just a ring.

Surviving is #1.

He will. Its a material thing and you sold it for the good of your family.

Your luck will change.

Remember what is important over the Holidays.

To: ohnonotoagain

What's with your hard on to black dalehia? Or is it to every woman?

You must havesome issues with relationships.

She made the right decision. Get over it!

Thanks everyone for your well wishing, It will be fine in the end, we were hit with some major financial blows in the past few years and just haven't been able to rebound yet. We can always get new rings.

living the dream

More and more people I know are on a downward trajectory. There are many good posts on eliminating expenses and I won't repeat them here. Just know that there are way more people in your boat than you can possibly imagine. We do what we can to help our neighbors and families in need. We support our local food bank and volunteer work for low income households. Do you have a food bank nearby? Do you have a budget and follow it to the letter? I wish you the best and I hope we all make through this mess.

No, I have no issue with her....just pointing out the obvious and having a little fun with it, note the lol!

The right decision is an opinion of yours. Which is your right, same as my right to form an opinion.

So, in closing, I have no relationship issues, happily married for over 15 years! I would never allow our finances to get to the point of pawning my wife's ring.

Actually, I challenge you and everyone here to offer to pay the pawn ticket. I'll match the first legitimate offer!

Wishing you well in the future. Hang in there. You have each other. That is what counts the most.

And that sentiment is what REAL men value in women. Not just that, it is a very grounded perspective.

As I see, you'll be okay sooner than later.

what to do:

1) the american dream is a lie - stop it, wake up.
2) now that you know the truth - correct your path.
3) enjoy life again.

ThAT sucks, OP. I feel for you. I have jewelry as well and know that selling any of it is a last resort, so things must be very rough. Hang in there.