How do I become a real "bad boy" after decades of being a "nice guy"?

Anger is not a turn on. Bad boys get away with it because they're cute or funny, charming, alluring. If you're as old, bald and ugly as you sound, it's hopeless so give up.

Develop a Cocaine Habit.

....AND now we know why you suck with women.

here is a hint: your perception is SERIOUSLY flawed.

Good luck betaboy

OP, you are SO lost it's comical. You DO know that there are now hundreds of books on how to seduce women right?

Any one of them will work wonders in less than a week.

They ALL say, that first and foremost, you have to not care.

But go ahead keep being a retarded ignorant spaz for the rest of your life.

If you're under 250 lbs and 54 years of age, I suggest the "Free Candy" van....

You can't.
You're a pussy.
You're a cuckold.
You're a submissve by nature.
Embrace your nature.
Find a woman to serve.

Right here on GLP there are plenty of
goddesses who will fit you with CB6000
and take control of your sexuality and your
life.
Don't try to be what you are not.
Submit to strong dominant woman and be happy.

Not bald or ugly. Generally not angry, but I'm getting quite frustrated making effort for nothing. I've got plenty to do if I want to without a girl, but I really have nothing I need to do ever. I do have everything material that I'll ever need.

Stupid moranic trolls.......

I've read dozens of ebooks on the subject and watched/listened to endless videos. They just ask people to do things that are not natural, like not care, be happy, and teasing, with a back and forth flirty vibe. Totally unnatural behaviors that can't be taught.

If I didn't care, I'd not bother - too much trouble.

Ignore everything else she said and do what she said not to do (bolded for you). That's what works.

Harley = pussy magnet.

OK, I'll bite. Why a Harley, and why do they attract more pussy than other big bikes?

OK, time to watch Jersey Shore.

You are wanting to go in the opposite direction required.

What are you talking about?

Let's put it this way. On more than one(many) occasions, I have referred to mine as an eight foot long, black,96 cubic inch, gas powered vibrator. If there are any ladies around that are intrigued by that description, they WILL be around to "ask for a ride".

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tom Lykis 101google it watch the videos listen to the shows. i never needed it the great one already been though it.

Well said.

You are being told the truth here.

this is so true.

Sex keeps you captive on a level that never truly elevates one to their potential destiny. I've read some studies that say too much promiscuous sex actually ages you (well sex with multiple partners) and there is probably truth there since multiple partners can equate to disease, even silent, slow changing cellular diseases have been traced back to potential unclean partners who were infected with some sort of bacteria infection etc. I don't think anyone could argue that today's world of sex, sex, sex... that a lot of people are sleeping with multiple partners and lying about it. its a dirty game. even the people with the best intentions who set out to meet a nice guy or girl have no idea how many people their perspective mate has slept with or exactly what sexual acts they did in the past.

so yeah, imho a vast majority of people have been programmed to seek out sex with has many and any kind of person they can get. And then they settle down at some point when they get tired of the monotony of so many different sexual partners and decide they want one person. then they realize how hard that is because they have been programmed to seek sex, not a true, loving relationship.

Well said.

You are being told the truth here.
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Give up. You tell yourself you were a nice guy? lol

Buy a harley.

Get some leather.

Grow a goatee.

Check out Biker or Not for women into the lifestyle.

OP, what do you plan on doing with the old-ex-current-GF?

Is she willing to wait at home while you're out looking for her replacement?

Are you being honest with her about this?

Does she know you're as unhappy as you seem to be here?

If she's not attacted to you physically, as you said, do you not think she's looking for your replacement as well?

?

get a blonde wig and some high heels.

it sounds like you both need a break.

like other posters have said, you need to care a little less. Do not try to be anything you are not. Knowing what you don't want is half the battle and you sound like you actually know what you are looking for. Just let it happen, don't try so hard. Engage in activities/hobbies where you meet people and be friendly, not desperate. Its funny, being married, I've been out of the dating game for a long time, yet when I used to work, I would get hit on sometimes (usually after work at an outing when everyone was drinking) and a couple of the office flirts would be so blatant with their cute talk - but I shrugged it off, and I am not some gorgeous gal, just an average gal who is easy going around co-workers. I never went in that direction and returned the flirting, as I love my hubby and would never cheat, nor do I need the fleeting attention of a co-worker, but I refuse to believe it is so hard for men and women to meet these days. I had a friend email me last week to tell me about an old co-worker who was asking about me and how he missed me, lol... I was like he needs to get a life, I'm married. I guess my point is, if I was single, I would be out living it up with friends and having fun. And dating lots of people even if it was just 'friend dates' That is what you need to do right now, have some fun and not worry about meeting someone -- it will happen all on its own.

You can only be who you are... nothing more, nothing less.

hah. empirically women like the "bad boy".

as a gay, ive had several beautiful women friends. they do always go for the bad boy.

the key is - to treat them like shit. be sarcastic as hell. sarcasm is an aphrodesiac to women. they get off on that shit. verbal tete-a-tete is their blow job.

We live thousands of miles apart. She's told me she wants me to find someone else. She has dreams of some new partner, though I think it's still a dream. She could never be trusted not to cheat, though she was always honest about it if I asked. In short, she doesn't want me as anything other than a friend. We've never lived together, though I've suggested it for 20 years. I was there to nurture her emotionally, and she nurtured me sexually and emotionally a few times a year. My heart's been bleeding for decades, and now I suppose I'll just have to find someone else. She knows I want her and that I'll be loyal if we can have something real.

This is an interesting point of view. It makes no sense, but women never have either. It's actually hard and rather painful to be sarcastic and harsh, but I'll find a way.

That's a real limiting belief. I need to do better than that.