What Was Your One Big Mistake In Life?

getting married

self-pity

This is scary. Whenever I make a big decision I try to tell myself that in a year or two it won't even matter. But then I hear people say things like this and it reminds me that some decisions in life really stay with you, and require a lot of thought and meditation. Don't dwell on things tho, something tragic could have happened if it had worked out differently.

Making "mistakes" is how you learn and grow. I've made a lot of them, but I can't say I would wish they never happened.

Yup, looking back on it I had a few friends I shouldn't have cut off contact with. Considering I moved away to a different state I guess growing apart is inevitable.

No... getting divorced was not your big mistake.

Getting MARRIED to a woman who would lie to you just to "test you"... THAT was your mistake.

NOT divorcing her would have been ANOTHER big mistake.

Women are INSANE.

Quarry Hill.

Same here. I got business management degree but I learned too late what I want to do in life (not engineering).

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Taking that year off after college.

second that

Choosing to be born, if that is indeed how it works, or:

Getting my wisdom teeth removed. The painkillers I received exposed me to the "wonders" of drugs and resulted in a handful of drug addictions and completely wasted life over the next three years. By the time I emerged from the depths of addiction, I had absolutely nothing to show for the first 22 years of my life.

As for your mistake, OP, I would venture to say it's not a mistake at all. I understand many women play head games and "test" their men in ways and with justifications that are both seemingly devoid of all logic. They shouldn't do this, but they indeed do and most men who seek the companionship of a female will suffer through such things at some point.

What your wife did, however, goes far beyond the usual womanly wiles. If she was worth her salt (providing a woman who pulled this kind of shit could be) she would tell you she wasn't actually cheating WELL BEFORE the divorce got underway once she saw it was getting to that point.

I can't really think of any other reason she wouldn't unless she was just a really dumb (like IQ of a brick dumb) who operated off of pure emotion and emotion only. Or, maybe she wanted a divorce and wasn't strong enough to come out and demand one and get it rolling herself.

Either way, it sounds to me like divorce was for the best.

This

I have made a lot of mistakes. The first one was in 1984. Nothing you can do about that but live and learn.

I miss my Julie. Seriously that was her name.

Very insightful, thank you. This thread just happens to be happening during one of the biggest ruts-I can't even call it a rut, its a trench-of my life. How many times can someone drag themself out of a trench before they are too exhausted to do it one more time? I know I'm on the wrong path, but can't seem to find the right one and the deck is stacked against me at every turn. Don't get me wrong, I am thankful for my job, roof over my head, and almost enough to make ends meet but that's my entire existance at 38. My health is failing from cancer, and I have a family that distances themselves more by the day. No joy, only pain. No love, only solitude. No children, no husband. My dad always loved the quote from some silly movie "you're doin' it wrong!" and that's my life. I'm not trying to garner sympathy, just sharing that sometimes nothing pans out in the end and all that you thought you worked for was a mirage. Hopefully I will wake up soon and this will be a strange nightmare, ya know?

Accepting that what others around me did is what I should do.

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Not FIGHTING for my now ex husband. Might have changed everything. But I was vain and arrrogant.
I'm sorry now.....17 years later.

Smoking cigarettes for 30 fucking years

BTW- I'm still single 17 years later.
'sigh'....

My biggest mistake is finding GLP. Biggest waste of time, yet can't stop coming back every week.

Writing this book...

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sounds like bs or she a good troll and knew how to get rid of you

My biggest mistake was staying in an abusive marriage for 7 urs that eventually caused
Me to go so crazy I started using meth an left him and my kids when they were 4 and 7 I've been clean for 9 urs off the shit but my kids who are now 22 and 19 hate me and remind me what a horrible mother I am an they wish I was dead , so I did want to die u til I got clean found spirituality I'm a Christian and got remarried and do my best to live with grace an dignity.any times I wish I ha never had those 2 kids they are total jerks...like there fuckhead father fuck em

Listening to other people instead of keeping my own counsel.