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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210  United States12/09/2012 11:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i would like as many opinions as possible... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23231420 i dont feel like what i did was wrong It was not wrong. you are not married, so you have no strings, but what you did made it clear to her how you really feel about her and your future together. perhaps you do not even understand that. like I said earlier, she'll probably stay, but believe me, she will start looking. she'll take her time, no doubt, as good men are hard to find, but she has been betrayed. you have no idea how the female mind operates, do you? if she asked around about trish to my friends is that her betraying me; ? She did this after I went to the movies which was embaressing because my friends blew it out of proportion. no, she did not betray you. she was simply looking for information on the other woman. trust me, she has already started "operation find a man", she has two reasons; YOU and that ho, Trish that went to the movies with you. You've basically humiliated her. Good job. Nothing like some good solid humiliation to ruin a relationship for good. No turning back on that type of behavior. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i would like as many opinions as possible... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23231420 i dont feel like what i did was wrong It was not wrong. you are not married, so you have no strings, but what you did made it clear to her how you really feel about her and your future together. perhaps you do not even understand that. like I said earlier, she'll probably stay, but believe me, she will start looking. she'll take her time, no doubt, as good men are hard to find, but she has been betrayed. you have no idea how the female mind operates, do you? if she asked around about trish to my friends is that her betraying me; ? She did this after I went to the movies which was embaressing because my friends blew it out of proportion. no thats what she should do.I doubt she got the impression you were going to have her best interests at heart so shes looking out for herself in case besides doing what you did, you werent telling the whole truth either.Thats not betraying,dont try find something to blame her about when you caused the whole problem. but I think she knew it would cause a problem |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am also really curious to know what she might be thinking right now... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23231420 what would you do if you were her... would you still date me? let me repeat this... MOST women would stay. They would stay until they found a better man. Women are not generally stupid when it comes to this type of stuff. We are stealth in our plans to depart. And when it happens, you won't see it coming. She's probably texting your best guy friend looking for a shoulder to cry on... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28867210 It was not wrong. you are not married, so you have no strings, but what you did made it clear to her how you really feel about her and your future together. perhaps you do not even understand that. like I said earlier, she'll probably stay, but believe me, she will start looking. she'll take her time, no doubt, as good men are hard to find, but she has been betrayed. you have no idea how the female mind operates, do you? if she asked around about trish to my friends is that her betraying me; ? She did this after I went to the movies which was embaressing because my friends blew it out of proportion. no thats what she should do.I doubt she got the impression you were going to have her best interests at heart so shes looking out for herself in case besides doing what you did, you werent telling the whole truth either.Thats not betraying,dont try find something to blame her about when you caused the whole problem. but I think she knew it would cause a problem you have no idea... no idea. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am also really curious to know what she might be thinking right now... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23231420 what would you do if you were her... would you still date me? let me repeat this... MOST women would stay. They would stay until they found a better man. Women are not generally stupid when it comes to this type of stuff. We are stealth in our plans to depart. And when it happens, you won't see it coming. She's probably texting your best guy friend looking for a shoulder to cry on... Just out of curiousness? would it be the same answer if she was me and I was she... what would the men of glp do if it was a women that did this to you? |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23231420 if she asked around about trish to my friends is that her betraying me; ? She did this after I went to the movies which was embaressing because my friends blew it out of proportion. no thats what she should do.I doubt she got the impression you were going to have her best interests at heart so shes looking out for herself in case besides doing what you did, you werent telling the whole truth either.Thats not betraying,dont try find something to blame her about when you caused the whole problem. but I think she knew it would cause a problem you have no idea... no idea. can you elaborate... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17378633 United States12/09/2012 11:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If i was your girlfriend i would hope i would respect you and trust you enough to let you go do whatever you want. If you cheat on me physically or emotionaly and i find out about it then you can eat shit and i will never talk to you or see you again. I wany to be with.someone I make happy and if you want someone else than I will.move the fick on no problem. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29462072  Australia12/09/2012 11:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28867210 It was not wrong. you are not married, so you have no strings, but what you did made it clear to her how you really feel about her and your future together. perhaps you do not even understand that. like I said earlier, she'll probably stay, but believe me, she will start looking. she'll take her time, no doubt, as good men are hard to find, but she has been betrayed. you have no idea how the female mind operates, do you? if she asked around about trish to my friends is that her betraying me; ? She did this after I went to the movies which was embaressing because my friends blew it out of proportion. omg.you CAUSED the problem by going out with Trish.everything after that is an effect, including her asking about it.You cant have a go at your GF for reacting in anyway to something dum that YOU did.lol foresight is a skill, i think maybe you need to learn it. and yep id never have taken your calls or seen you again after youd hung up and gone out with another female and i was obviously upset.To me, you have shown you didnt have my best interests at heart and that i couldnt trust you.so yep id end it. no thats what she should do.I doubt she got the impression you were going to have her best interests at heart so shes looking out for herself in case besides doing what you did, you werent telling the whole truth either.Thats not betraying,dont try find something to blame her about when you caused the whole problem. but I think she knew it would cause a problem |
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| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If i was your girlfriend i would hope i would respect you and trust you enough to let you go do whatever you want. If you cheat on me physically or emotionaly and i find out about it then you can eat shit and i will never talk to you or see you again. I wany to be with.someone I make happy and if you want someone else than I will.move the fick on no problem. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 17378633 So you would stay with me? and You would expect the freedom to see movies with your guy friends in a relationship, and this is normal? Does anyone else agree with this? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29517597 United States12/09/2012 11:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is it ok for me to go to the movies with this girl that used to like me? I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years... Quoting: anon 23231420 about a year ago my friend trish started hitting on me. I told her I just want to be friends because I love my girlfriend. And she (trish) is coming to town and wanted to catch a movie (mind you), that she is in town for a conference. So does my girlfriend have a right to be mad at me for going to the movie with this girl? It was a year ago, that she hit on me. I need friends in my life and don't get out that often so I went to the movie with her... Nothing happened. But was I wrong? would you be mad at your boyfriend or break up with him over this? I feel like shes over reacting but if you were dating me, what would you have expected...  |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Is it ok for me to go to the movies with this girl that used to like me? I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years... Quoting: anon 23231420 about a year ago my friend trish started hitting on me. I told her I just want to be friends because I love my girlfriend. And she (trish) is coming to town and wanted to catch a movie (mind you), that she is in town for a conference. So does my girlfriend have a right to be mad at me for going to the movie with this girl? It was a year ago, that she hit on me. I need friends in my life and don't get out that often so I went to the movie with her... Nothing happened. But was I wrong? would you be mad at your boyfriend or break up with him over this? I feel like shes over reacting but if you were dating me, what would you have expected... Can you elaborate...? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 29462072 Australia12/09/2012 11:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 28867210 It was not wrong. you are not married, so you have no strings, but what you did made it clear to her how you really feel about her and your future together. perhaps you do not even understand that. like I said earlier, she'll probably stay, but believe me, she will start looking. she'll take her time, no doubt, as good men are hard to find, but she has been betrayed. you have no idea how the female mind operates, do you? if she asked around about trish to my friends is that her betraying me; ? She did this after I went to the movies which was embaressing because my friends blew it out of proportion. no thats what she should do.I doubt she got the impression you were going to have her best interests at heart so shes looking out for herself in case besides doing what you did, you werent telling the whole truth either.Thats not betraying,dont try find something to blame her about when you caused the whole problem. but I think she knew it would cause a problem omg.you CAUSED the problem by going out with Trish.everything after that is an effect, including her asking about it.You cant have a go at your GF for reacting in anyway to something dum that YOU did.lol foresight is a skill, i think maybe you need to learn it. and yep id never have taken your calls or seen you again after youd hung up and gone out with another female and i was obviously upset.To me, you have shown you didnt have my best interests at heart and that i couldnt trust you.so yep id end it. (sorry mucked quotes up by not scrolling far enough in my last reply) |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 29462072 no thats what she should do.I doubt she got the impression you were going to have her best interests at heart so shes looking out for herself in case besides doing what you did, you werent telling the whole truth either.Thats not betraying,dont try find something to blame her about when you caused the whole problem. but I think she knew it would cause a problem you have no idea... no idea. can you elaborate... clearly you do not understand that if this bother's your gf, you need to deny yourself that female friend (trish) and explain to the friend that your gf is upset at the idea of you taking another woman to the movies and that out of respect to the gf, you cannot see her. I would further ask yourself, what is it about trish that makes you want to be friends with her... usually when a guy and girl are in a relationship and living together, they are pretty much committed to each other and opposite sex friends are hopefully enjoyed together in a group setting, not separately in a dark movie theater. some people have no problem with their significant others being in the company of the opposite sex, others go ballistic. lots of people have plenty of opposite sex friends in the workplace, but they have boundaries on what and where they can actually interact in. grow up, if you really love and value your gf, you would not want to hurt her. Me personally, I would not be hurt. But I would be well on my way to searching for my next boyfriend.  |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Bring your girlfriend along too and tell her you want this girl in your life as a friend. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6750590 I asked her if she wanted to meet trish. She didn't but it was after trish was hitting on me. OP, you are pathetic. And you will most likely be alone. First of all, Tish is a home wrecker and your GF doesn't want to meet some ho that is jockeying for a chance at her boyfriend. |
CowgirlK  User ID: 29001593 United States12/09/2012 11:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its real simple OP...Relationships are built on TRUST. If she can not/will not trust you to go the the movies with an old "friend" then you have a bigger problem than you think. Does she trust you to go to work, the store, the bar? If you were going to cheat on her I'm sure you have plenty of opportunities. If she can't deal with honesty and truth, or if she insecure and jealous, maybe it's time for you to have a long conversation with her.....or move on.  |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/09/2012 11:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its real simple OP...Relationships are built on TRUST. If she can not/will not trust you to go the the movies with an old "friend" then you have a bigger problem than you think. Does she trust you to go to work, the store, the bar? If you were going to cheat on her I'm sure you have plenty of opportunities. If she can't deal with honesty and truth, or if she insecure and jealous, maybe it's time for you to have a long conversation with her.....or move on. no its just trish that bothers her. Or girls that hit on me in general... Theres been a couple, but I draw a line, when It bothers her. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If i was your girlfriend i would hope i would respect you and trust you enough to let you go do whatever you want. If you cheat on me physically or emotionaly and i find out about it then you can eat shit and i will never talk to you or see you again. I wany to be with.someone I make happy and if you want someone else than I will.move the fick on no problem. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 17378633 So you would stay with me? and You would expect the freedom to see movies with your guy friends in a relationship, and this is normal? Does anyone else agree with this? I have yet to meet a man who would allow his significant other to go to a dark movie theater with a guy friend who once hit on her in the past. You are a fucking moron. You know how you know you love someone? You cannot fathom them being in the danger zone of gaining the attention or affection of another person, especially when you could have stopped it. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I didn't think twice about declining the invitation with the old guy friend s my boyfriend was far more important to me. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/09/2012 11:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its real simple OP...Relationships are built on TRUST. If she can not/will not trust you to go the the movies with an old "friend" then you have a bigger problem than you think. Does she trust you to go to work, the store, the bar? If you were going to cheat on her I'm sure you have plenty of opportunities. If she can't deal with honesty and truth, or if she insecure and jealous, maybe it's time for you to have a long conversation with her.....or move on. no its just trish that bothers her. Or girls that hit on me in general... Theres been a couple, but I draw a line, when It bothers her. so let us get this straight... you have no guy friends to be your wingmen, but you are so hot, girls just keep hitting on you. good night, OP. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 23231420 United States12/10/2012 12:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its real simple OP...Relationships are built on TRUST. If she can not/will not trust you to go the the movies with an old "friend" then you have a bigger problem than you think. Does she trust you to go to work, the store, the bar? If you were going to cheat on her I'm sure you have plenty of opportunities. If she can't deal with honesty and truth, or if she insecure and jealous, maybe it's time for you to have a long conversation with her.....or move on. no its just trish that bothers her. Or girls that hit on me in general... Theres been a couple, but I draw a line, when It bothers her. so let us get this straight... you have no guy friends to be your wingmen, but you are so hot, girls just keep hitting on you. good night, OP. over 5 years 3 girls have hit on me. Yes most of my friends are now getting married, in college, or over sea's. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28920579 United States12/10/2012 12:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Old MacDonald User ID: 28707337  Canada12/10/2012 12:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if you go to the movies with Trish... Quoting: Dr. Acula your girl will be sucking someone's elses cock within 12 hours... is that what you want? you want another man with his hands on/in your girl? is that what you want?! you fucktard... stay with the girl you "love"  Probably a BBC too !  In a Time of Universal Deceit, Telling the Truth is a Revolutionary Act - George Orwell Rachel Maddow is HOT!!! - Seriously I'd hit it. A VOTE FOR JUSTIN TRUDEAU IN 2015, WOULD BE THE MOST COWARDLY & IRRESPONSIBLE THING A CANADIAN CITIZEN COULD DO TO THEIR OWN PEOPLE. GUN GRABBERS ARE THE COMMON ENEMY OF ALL PEOPLE. GUN CONTROL HAS RESULTED IN THE SLAUGHTER OF 262 MILLION CITIZENS BY THEIR GOVERNMENTS OVER THE PAST 100 YEARS. THE LIBERAL PARTY OF CANADA & THE NDP ENDORSE GUN CONTROL, AN ESSENTIAL POLICY OF HITLER, STALIN, MAO, POL POT, EDI AMIN, QADDAFI, SADDAM, ASSAD, & EVERY OTHER TYRANNICAL GOVERNMENT THIS PAST CENTURY. CANADIANS MUST NEVER FORGET THE BETRAYAL OF BILLS C-68 & C-17. WE MUST NOT REST UNTIL THEY ARE FULLY REPEALED. C-19 WAS A GOOD START......BUT JUST A START. GET OFF YOUR COLLECTIVE ASSES AND MAKE AN IMPACT. WE HAVE 26 MONTHS. I, THEE BOB, SWEAR ON THE ALTER OF GOD TO FIGHT ALL FORMS OF CANADIAN TYRANNY AND SAVE MY COUNTRY FROM THE EVILS OF THE NEW WORLD ORDER. I WILL NEVER HAND IN MY GUNS. EVER. I AM A FREE MAN, I WILL NOT BE THE BITCH OF THE SOCIALIST ESTABLISHMENT. LEAVE ME ALONE. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 28867210 United States12/10/2012 12:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: CowgirlK Its real simple OP...Relationships are built on TRUST. If she can not/will not trust you to go the the movies with an old "friend" then you have a bigger problem than you think. Does she trust you to go to work, the store, the bar? If you were going to cheat on her I'm sure you have plenty of opportunities. If she can't deal with honesty and truth, or if she insecure and jealous, maybe it's time for you to have a long conversation with her.....or move on. no its just trish that bothers her. Or girls that hit on me in general... Theres been a couple, but I draw a line, when It bothers her. so let us get this straight... you have no guy friends to be your wingmen, but you are so hot, girls just keep hitting on you. good night, OP. over 5 years 3 girls have hit on me. Yes most of my friends are now getting married, in college, or over sea's. OP, I think you know the answer to your own questions. you are a guy who already has a live in girl friend seeking friendship with another girl who. Its common knowledge that men do not want friendship with women, they want sex. Perhaps you just need to be single so you can have all the female 'friends' you want. I am total believer in friendships. I think they are important, but not at the cost of hurting someone who is obviously upset that a woman who once hit on you is moving in on her territory again. That's all I can add. I think maybe you are just one of those guys who is afraid to be alone and not really in love? otherwise why hurt your gf? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26333321  Philippines12/10/2012 12:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Would you be upset if your GF went out to a movie with someone who has hit on her? Do you (even on a subconscious level) value the extra emotion/attention you get from these 2 women when this particular scenario arises? If you have no friends and a deep need for them, maybe you're doing this for much needed emotional interaction. If you're a lonely guy, be smart and dignified about it. It seems desperate to hold on to a situation that could hurt your GF just so you can have night out with friend. |
