Are some of us meant to be single for the rest of our lives or atleast during are prime? | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 26237455 United States 12/26/2012 10:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi OP, thank you for your post. If you want it, then get out there and do it. Just make sure you make it clear what it actually is you are looking for. Go make the experience. If you are ready, you will find what you are looking for, i promise. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 7736082 United States 12/26/2012 10:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi OP, thank you for your post. If you want it, then get out there and do it. Just make sure you make it clear what it actually is you are looking for. Go make the experience. If you are ready, you will find what you are looking for, i promise. Quoting: Lies & Alibis I would prefer a Christian woman around my age give or take 5 years, that doesn't have more then 2 kids (preferably none or just 1 because I would someday like to have my own), who is drama free, has a job, faithful, classy, sacastic yet knows when to be serious. I think I've missed my chances. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 30880068 Australia 12/26/2012 10:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I would prefer a Christian woman around my age give or take 5 years, that doesn't have more then 2 kids (preferably none or just 1 because I would someday like to have my own), who is drama free, has a job, faithful, classy, sacastic yet knows when to be serious. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7736082 Sorry dude, but women don't come in the variety 'drama free'. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 17888588 United States 12/26/2012 10:22 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Secondly, join a few Christian forums where you will have opportunities to connect with women in a safe environment and perhaps you can get to know some people that way. Join a church or at least attend once or twice per month and see if it makes a difference. You may even meet a GUY and become friends with him only to find out he has a terrific single sister! LOL I have never been married and it used to bother me and I know what you mean by watching other people LIVE while you just EXIST. Just give it time and pray.... |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 7736082 United States 12/26/2012 10:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I would prefer a Christian woman around my age give or take 5 years, that doesn't have more then 2 kids (preferably none or just 1 because I would someday like to have my own), who is drama free, has a job, faithful, classy, sacastic yet knows when to be serious. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7736082 Sorry dude, but women don't come in the variety 'drama free'. All I ask is no "babydaddy" drama or things that get dramatized by teenagers. First of all, PRAY that you find the right person. Also, keep in mind that people in your age group are marrying later these days. Well into the 30's so you still have plenty of time. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 17888588 Secondly, join a few Christian forums where you will have opportunities to connect with women in a safe environment and perhaps you can get to know some people that way. Join a church or at least attend once or twice per month and see if it makes a difference. You may even meet a GUY and become friends with him only to find out he has a terrific single sister! LOL I have never been married and it used to bother me and I know what you mean by watching other people LIVE while you just EXIST. Just give it time and pray.... Your absoultely right dude. I thin I've tried praying in the past to meet the right woman but never stuck with it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1256345 United States 12/26/2012 10:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude your in a serious rut. 26 and your being a good little slave. Rattle your chains if ya cant break them. Plan mini adventures during the work wk and when the whistle blows be ready and bolt. Start by figuring how far you can drive and still make it back for work. Find something, you sound like a really boring putz. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25953791 United States 12/26/2012 10:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The social climate is more or less artificial... people living out archetypes they learned through the media or hollywood. If you are a genuine guy but define yourself through the unforgiving lens of society, you'll probably have a hard time. My advice is to figure out who you are, because you're already complete. Figure out what you want, and suddenly you'll have the standard, you have control over your destiny, women may pick up on that and find it attractive. But don't go into anything with the idea that it'll complete you or make society respect you. And take it from someone who knows, death isn't the end. You'll have plenty of opportunities at love for all eternity. Great ain't it? |
Little Drummer User ID: 1544158 United States 12/26/2012 10:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, be happy now! Soon your future wife will own everything you worked your backside off for! Quoting: John Donson 28607946 Be happy with what? my boring routine of working, coming home alone, eating, watching tv, and sleeping? I want to experience what the rest of the world is doing. Here in lies the rub... I have the same routine you have, but I look at it differently. Happiness does not seem to be finding someone or something, for me its about being thrilled with what I have and where I am. Who knows maybe you will still find life boring and routine if you have a wife, child, or whatever else you feel will help you. Just remember who ever you are with, or where ever you may go... there YOU are. I love being in rush hour, because I have a car. I love being at home, because I have a roof over my head. I love being at my work, because I have a job. this is not a lecture I promise, I am just remembering being where you are and I had to choose to become happy. Love to you |
Little Drummer User ID: 1544158 United States 12/26/2012 10:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, be happy now! Soon your future wife will own everything you worked your backside off for! Quoting: John Donson 28607946 Be happy with what? my boring routine of working, coming home alone, eating, watching tv, and sleeping? I want to experience what the rest of the world is doing. Here in lies the rub... I have the same routine you have, but I look at it differently. Happiness does not seem to be finding someone or something, for me its about being thrilled with what I have and where I am. Who knows maybe you will still find life boring and routine if you have a wife, child, or whatever else you feel will help you. Just remember who ever you are with, or where ever you may go... there YOU are. I love being in rush hour, because I have a car. I love being at home, because I have a roof over my head. I love being at my work, because I have a job. this is not a lecture I promise, I am just remembering being where you are and I had to choose to become happy. Love to you Oh I forgot to add what happened after that... I meet tons of people who want to date me, but I no longer find the idea of that appealing. Because there can not possibly be anyone who could add to what I already have. |
Starlighttraveller User ID: 18984827 United States 12/26/2012 10:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, be happy now! Soon your future wife will own everything you worked your backside off for! Quoting: John Donson 28607946 Be happy with what? my boring routine of working, coming home alone, eating, watching tv, and sleeping? I want to experience what the rest of the world is doing. Here in lies the rub... I have the same routine you have, but I look at it differently. Happiness does not seem to be finding someone or something, for me its about being thrilled with what I have and where I am. Who knows maybe you will still find life boring and routine if you have a wife, child, or whatever else you feel will help you. Just remember who ever you are with, or where ever you may go... there YOU are. I love being in rush hour, because I have a car. I love being at home, because I have a roof over my head. I love being at my work, because I have a job. this is not a lecture I promise, I am just remembering being where you are and I had to choose to become happy. Love to you Oh I forgot to add what happened after that... I meet tons of people who want to date me, but I no longer find the idea of that appealing. Because there can not possibly be anyone who could add to what I already have. You speak the truth as I see it. Listen to her OP. You must be complete in and of yourself. If you're looking for someone else to "complete" you, it will only bring disappointment. Be filled with joy in the knowing that you are the light and love of the one Infinite Creator. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 7736082 United States 12/26/2012 10:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The social climate is more or less artificial... people living out archetypes they learned through the media or hollywood. If you are a genuine guy but define yourself through the unforgiving lens of society, you'll probably have a hard time. My advice is to figure out who you are, because you're already complete. Figure out what you want, and suddenly you'll have the standard, you have control over your destiny, women may pick up on that and find it attractive. But don't go into anything with the idea that it'll complete you or make society respect you. And take it from someone who knows, death isn't the end. You'll have plenty of opportunities at love for all eternity. Great ain't it? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 25953791 I wish I could be so sure of this as you are? The notion does sound great though. I'm excited to definitely see my heavenly rewards. |
Suntar User ID: 29216381 United States 12/26/2012 11:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi OP, thank you for your post. If you want it, then get out there and do it. Just make sure you make it clear what it actually is you are looking for. Go make the experience. If you are ready, you will find what you are looking for, i promise. Quoting: Lies & Alibis I would prefer a Christian woman around my age give or take 5 years, that doesn't have more then 2 kids (preferably none or just 1 because I would someday like to have my own), who is drama free, has a job, faithful, classy, sacastic yet knows when to be serious. I think I've missed my chances. You haven't missed your chance. But you have, quite possibly, described someone older than yourself. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 7736082 United States 12/26/2012 11:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, be happy now! Soon your future wife will own everything you worked your backside off for! Quoting: John Donson 28607946 Be happy with what? my boring routine of working, coming home alone, eating, watching tv, and sleeping? I want to experience what the rest of the world is doing. Here in lies the rub... I have the same routine you have, but I look at it differently. Happiness does not seem to be finding someone or something, for me its about being thrilled with what I have and where I am. Who knows maybe you will still find life boring and routine if you have a wife, child, or whatever else you feel will help you. Just remember who ever you are with, or where ever you may go... there YOU are. I love being in rush hour, because I have a car. I love being at home, because I have a roof over my head. I love being at my work, because I have a job. this is not a lecture I promise, I am just remembering being where you are and I had to choose to become happy. Love to you Very inspiring. While I do classify my routine as mostly "boring" I still love it, but for some reason have the urge to share it with a special someone. And assuming thats you in your avatar I can definitely see and sense that your happy even through a computer screen. You have a pulchritudinous smile. |
Wizard's First Rule User ID: 1026045 United States 12/26/2012 11:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wizard's Rule #1: "People are stupid. Given proper motivation, almost anyone will believe almost anything. People will believe a lie because they want to believe it's true, or because they are afraid it might be true. People’s heads are full of knowledge, facts, and beliefs, and most of it is false, yet they think it all true. People can only rarely tell the difference between a lie and the truth, and yet they are confident they can, and so are all the easier to fool." Primordial Rule: "The rule unwritten. It is the secret of all life. It is the essence of life itself. You are a creator and master of your own reality. You ultimately make your own rules." All the Wizard's Rules: [link to sot.wikia.com] |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 7736082 United States 12/26/2012 11:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not my thing, but it may work for you since you seek a Christian. Volunteer at a Church. Join a Church choir or a Christian book club or something. Just get out of the house and go where good Christian women will be. You will never meet anyone by just doing the work>TV>bed routine. Quoting: Wizard's First Rule Not really a church goer but I've pondered this option. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26795689 United States 12/26/2012 11:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Work on loving/accepting others unconditionally. Once you create that emotional state within - work on directing that inwardly and loving/accepting yourself unconditionally. When you do this sufficiently and for long enough you may be surprised to learn that you no longer feel the compulsion or need to secure a significant other in your life. You may discover that you wish to remain to be as free and as uninhibited as you can possibly be and not confined/limited to any particular relationship that may close you off to others. I used to feel the need to be in a relationship but I have changed and now I actually feel the urge to remain single, uninhibited, and to have as little resistance & complication in my life as possible. I'm 30 and I used to feel the way that you describe in your post, for many years. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 25699776 United States 12/26/2012 11:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm 32 and I've been in the same rut as you OP. Not giving up though. Have gratitude for what you do have. Have dis-satisfaction for what you don't. Become passionate to try to get what YOU WANT. And don't let the seriousness of that journey push you into depression/apathy--just have a little bit of humor along the way. It'll end before you know it--trust me ... feels like yesterday I was your age. |
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Smith Jefferys User ID: 15628045 United Kingdom 12/26/2012 11:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't buy into the conditioned group dramas that seem to bring everyone together. Women like people who can empathise and be part of the drama - I'm the sort of person who stops it before it begins. The amount of faces I've seen sink when I've given advice that stops something stupid happening is many. Weird huh? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 17552394 United States 12/26/2012 11:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude.. Know exactly what you feel.. Im 32 and in the same row boat.. However, Ive identified the problem.. I am picky.. Most girls these days are incredibly superficial, cause/attract drama, or are easily drawn into such.. Women, especially American women, are very emotionally driven.. Meaning they dont always fully think out a decision before jumping in with both feet.. ie, having babies, getting married/divorced, mixing finances with a SO only to have stuff fall apart.. My advice, aim for a gal a little older.. 30 or so.. By then, most people have themselves figured out, or at least know what they want.. Enjoy being single.. No/little responsibility, you dont answer to anyone, no one judging you etc.. |
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Catnip User ID: 24392638 United States 12/26/2012 01:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Do you have a particular sport you enjoy? Either playing or watching? Do you have a favorite activity, i.e., hunting, fishing, photography, etc.? Concentrate on whatever activity brings you joy and chances are you'll find a woman who loves the same thing(s) you do. Concentrate on yourself first. Do what you love best and the rest will fall into place. This has worked for a number of people looking for a mate. Write down every aspect of the woman you are seeking. Every single thing you can think of besides hair color, body figure, etc. Write down what characteristics you want your woman to have, what you want her to look like, be passionate about, be compassionate with, etc. Sounds silly, but it works. The universe will go about sending this woman to you. Writing down her attributes may take days or weeks. Concentrate on every aspect of her, then go out and enjoy yourself doing whatever it is you like to do. She will enter your life when you least expect it and when she does, you will know that she's the one. It may take weeks or months but she will come. Maybe she's even looking for you the say way. Good luck and keep the faith, in yourself and in your request for the perfect woman for you. "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change" |
Little Drummer User ID: 23833166 United States 12/26/2012 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, be happy now! Soon your future wife will own everything you worked your backside off for! Quoting: John Donson 28607946 Be happy with what? my boring routine of working, coming home alone, eating, watching tv, and sleeping? I want to experience what the rest of the world is doing. Here in lies the rub... I have the same routine you have, but I look at it differently. Happiness does not seem to be finding someone or something, for me its about being thrilled with what I have and where I am. Who knows maybe you will still find life boring and routine if you have a wife, child, or whatever else you feel will help you. Just remember who ever you are with, or where ever you may go... there YOU are. I love being in rush hour, because I have a car. I love being at home, because I have a roof over my head. I love being at my work, because I have a job. this is not a lecture I promise, I am just remembering being where you are and I had to choose to become happy. Love to you Very inspiring. While I do classify my routine as mostly "boring" I still love it, but for some reason have the urge to share it with a special someone. And assuming thats you in your avatar I can definitely see and sense that your happy even through a computer screen. You have a pulchritudinous smile. I had to look up the word "pulchritudinous" very nice, thank you. yes its me about 2 months ago standing on a dune overlooking lake michigan, the picture was taken by an 8 year old after I set the tripod and light for them. I never have my picture taken because I am the photographer. |