Interfaith marriage christian/muslim

A civil-only marriage should be the answer, but is this solution acceptable for both of you?
BOTH, not one only.
If not, you are in the usual trap; while your faith allows you to marry somebody from another religion without being banned from your social environment (or worse than banned), her doesn't.
I don't see many chances for you.

Mike, good luck with this issue. I've met some very lovely Muslim women, I mean gorgeous sweet ladies, but realize that often the cultural differences will mean misunderstandings sometimes in the future when you least expect it. You have different frames of reference.

Is she Persian? Oh gosh, I've met some really stunning women from Iran.

I think it would be very hard unless somehow you both could accept one faith. Have you spent anytime together within the cultural context of your different cultures? Would you learn her language so you could talk to her parents in their native tongue? Do you understand courtship customs in her native country? Do you know the precise beliefs of her faith, because there are differences between Sufis, Shites, Sunnis, etc then the country differences not to mention regional ones.

Would you teach your child to speak both languages and both cultures so they could decide what they wanted to do?

I'll think of you in my prayers. I considered it once.

How does her parents feel about it? I believe that it's okay for a Muslim guy to marry a Christian wife, but not the other way around. This could create a lot of trouble from her relatives and you might never be accepted.

Last Edited by Don'tBeAfraid on 01/05/2013 05:35 AM

wow mike,im living your thread right now.i was born a christian,met a muslim guy at the age of 15,converted to islam and had 5 kids with the guy.couple of years ago i became born again christian and came out to my man,lets just say he was pissed! Anyway we are still together,though he mocks my faith constantly.thing is,we never married as both of us were very moderate in our religous beliefs,so we just didnt get married.now i feel super guilty everytime i have sex with him,not being married making it adultery or fornication.he wont marry me now coz im not a muslim and i wouldnt marry him as he blasphemes jesus name all the time.so im stuck,in limbo,and very unhappy.im relying on jesus to get me out of this mess ive got myself into...my advice to you is dont even go there.your life will be so much better with someone who loves jesus the way that you do,and thats before you get into kids and her family,your family ect.sorry if this is not what you want to hear but i know because im living it.

Never work, bra. move on.

but in saying that,,god has got to have a reason for bringing you two together in the first place.i really believe that everything works for the good of those that love the lord so im thinking maybe hes gonna open this ladies eyes to the truth and you could be the one to guide her to it.im just praying everyday for a miracle with my fam,that their eyes may be opened by jesus to the truth.you know hes gonna save alot of muslims from their deciet in the days ahead.when bible prophecy starts fulfilling more,you could be her rock and explain these things....if your heart is willing and you have the courage....follow it,but just be aware that it wont be a bed of roses.with love to you my brother.

the woman is flesh and blood
god is you personal idea unprovable
religion is a trap

trust what you can verify
selah

Is so rare that it virtually never happens. At least statistically.

Unless her family is very secular you will probably be asked to convert...

I agree. And if you did marry, despite whatever understanding you reached, her family would really put the pressure on once children arrive on the scene.

The only way for it to work is if she converts to Christianity.

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Last Edited by Judethz on 01/05/2013 06:27 AM

Ponder on this.

You allow something that might not even exist to come between you and your girlfriend.

Christians and Muslims are only prohibited from marrying non-believers. So you can marry each other, buy you can't marry a jew like "judethz".

"Do not unequally yoke yourself with a non believer (jew)."

honestly theres so many things to over come.like if you have a baby,her fam will insist that you call the baby mohammed or abdul,if it is a boy then they will demand circumcision which is barbaric,also they will demand you shave the babies hair,then theres religous ed...sending the poor kid to mosque classes everyday after school.then theres the food issue,everything has to be halal.....im telling you,theres so many obstacles it will be near impossible for you both to live happily ever after.

Would you like circumcising.

Thanks for the replies.

She's from eastern europe, has been living here in sweden for 20 years. She's not a hard-core muslim, wearing burka and praying 5 times a day and all that, but she doesn't believe that Jesus is the Son of God, he's "only" a prophet, although like most muslims she holds Jesus in high regards.

I think God had something to do with the way we met. I think I should just wait it out and let God work, I certainly can't "convert" her, but I really want to see her become a born again christian and then marry her.

I would say go for it. And forget all the differences between 'faith' that each of you has.

They're only barriers to your relationship.

One reason to just wait is a dream I had.

I was lying in a bed, alone, with my clothes on. In a room next to mine I could hear voices, a womans voice. I tried to get up from the bed but I could hardly move my body, it was like I was paralyzed, half asleep. I started to feel helpless and embarrased, when the door opened and a woman came into the room, accompanied with a dog, they came forward to my bed, and then I woke up.

How do you interpret that?

I think it means she will come to me, to my faith, eventually, but it will not be done by my work.

I don't think you understand. Something, or someone, is already standing between us. Like I said, I can't commit fornication, even if I wanted to, it's impossible.

That something or someone is religion.

You believe in God, you choose a religion, religion comes with rules enforced by threats, and now you're f***ed.

Hey OP,

All people change in time. If not for that, people wouldn't begin to explore spirituality again as they age. What someone believes is dynamic, right? What you thought a month ago will vary, but your core beliefs tend to remain somewhat fixed.

Some people marry and their spouse changes their mind about their spiritual beliefs, particularly if they are adamant about them in the beginning of a relationship. Some might reject their unbelief and actually become more fixated upon it as they age. It just depends upon the person.

Most advice is BS. The only good that comes from it is to help you focus on what YOU believe so you can use good critical thinking to decide what's best for you and her.

Follow your heart.