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Message Subject The Nobody is Alone
Poster Handle Rising Son
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What makes me curious is how and where they are getting such specific information from. I have heard delusional manifestations before, but none like the ones in this thread and others. I get the sense from the originators that they truly believe what they are saying.
 Quoting: Rising Son

For the most part they all do believe what they write. I have never read a nobody thread, except for this one , as they are too long to read and mostly fantasy.

We could each be the nobody or the woman of scars, we all have long lost loves that we are forever separated from.... And thats where the delusion sets in. my nobody was a liar so I ignored him.

What did your nobody do ?
 Quoting: mountain girl 1467962

If by nobody you mean someone who hurt another while they were in love, then I would be the nobody and my wife would be the woman of scars. I am still trying to figure out what everybody means by this nobody character.

My wife and I are still together after 12 years of marriage, but I have wounded her so many times throughout the years, to which she has always answered with forgiveness and unconditional love. I do not deserve such a loving woman in my life, but I thank God for her that she is, because I would be completely lost without her.
 Quoting: Rising Son

Stop thanking God and start asking questions.

The first to ask Him is what to do in order to allow your wife to find real happiness. I don't mean to imply that the answer will be to let her go - perhaps it's part of you that you must let go in order to transform yourself into that which can make her happy.

The first thing you need to work on is obvious - that deep-seeded lie you tell yourself that you'd be lost without your wife. You end up hurting her in the effort of trying to wake yourself up to your own self-sufficiency. Keep trekking down the easy road and that lesson will come via losing her for good.

When that voice pops in your head saying, "You don't need her, there's something better", it's not meant to imply the foolish interpretation that you need to find someone else better, it's meant to tell you to find in yourself something better to believe in so that you don't see your wife as a loving, forgiving savior that you need in your life to be happy.

The two of you find true happiness together in being equals; self-sufficient persons with love as their binder and not necessity. Picture and dream of the day you can vocalize with belief that you want to be with only your wife even though you don't need her presence to feel satisfied in life, and to know that she feels the same way.

Once you've dreamed the dream, go back to the beginning to figure out how to get there. You're not supposed to just be together (and thus require the other one to be there), you're supposed to grow together.
 Quoting: Deaf Cat in the Blue Hat

You bring up some excellent points, and I can see true wisdom in your analysis of my relationship with my wife. The trouble is that I love her too much to hurt her, even though I do so anyway when I am thoughtless and insensitive. When I think about finding happiness in anything that does not involve her, I feel like I am ignoring her, and I can tell she feels the same way.

I understand what I just said sounds like I am co-dependent, and I rely on my wife's happiness to make me happy. To a very real and certain extent, that is true. However, my children make me happy as well, and likewise, I want them to be happy too. If I were to leave my wife, I know that would devastate them, and I do not want them growing up in a fractured family like the one I grew up in.

I am making progress, but it is slow and tedious. I can tell that to a certain extent, my wife is jealous of the attention that my children take away from her, and that makes me feel like I have to choose sometimes. When I am with my wife and kids, I can truly say that I feel like I am experiencing heaven on earth. When I am away from them, I feel alone and hopeless, and that is one of the biggest reasons that I am leaving the service - the deployments and time away have really taken a toll on our family, and I want that to end.
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