The neighbor walks her girlfriend on a leash. what do I tell my kid? | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 29001636 United States 02/01/2013 01:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh my gosh, I have heard it all now! Quoting: J&V [link to www.theglobeandmail.com] The Question: We live in a family-oriented neighbourhood in the heart of our city. Dozens of kids ride bikes, play soccer and so on while adults chat and watch. Last summer, one of my neighbours (with three sons) told me he saw a woman walking her girlfriend on a leash. I told him he must have been fantasizing. Sure enough, a woman with long dreads and multiple piercings (I’d seen her before; she rents a basement apartment on the street) came around the corner walking her girlfriend on a leash. We’ve seen it many times since then, in the middle of the day. My four-year old daughter asked me why the lady was wearing a leash. I told her that she was pretending to be a dog and that the other lady was playing the owner. My daughter loves inventing her own play scenarios and easily accepted my explanation. This has been going on since last summer, so it’s obviously a happy, long-term relationship. But I don’t love having to explain S&M role-play to my four-year old and would appreciate if the dog-walking happened after, say 9 p.m. What would you do? See the answer at the link.... "the doors" people are strange! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 33457620 United States 02/01/2013 01:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh my gosh, I have heard it all now! Quoting: J&V [link to www.theglobeandmail.com] The Question: We live in a family-oriented neighbourhood in the heart of our city. Dozens of kids ride bikes, play soccer and so on while adults chat and watch. Last summer, one of my neighbours (with three sons) told me he saw a woman walking her girlfriend on a leash. I told him he must have been fantasizing. Sure enough, a woman with long dreads and multiple piercings (I’d seen her before; she rents a basement apartment on the street) came around the corner walking her girlfriend on a leash. We’ve seen it many times since then, in the middle of the day. My four-year old daughter asked me why the lady was wearing a leash. I told her that she was pretending to be a dog and that the other lady was playing the owner. My daughter loves inventing her own play scenarios and easily accepted my explanation. This has been going on since last summer, so it’s obviously a happy, long-term relationship. But I don’t love having to explain S&M role-play to my four-year old and would appreciate if the dog-walking happened after, say 9 p.m. What would you do? See the answer at the link.... Mind your own business. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 926747 United States 02/01/2013 01:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think you have it about right already. You can't explain it to a four year old any better than you have and it sounds close enough to what is probably going on. As for you being happier if it happened at a different time of day... Well, you can feel that way and it isn't bad of you to do so. You just don't have a right to demand it. That sounds like it would be a little inconvenient actually. Otherwise they'd be doing it then, don't you think? Really, the best advice here is for you to not get involved if it worries you that much. Anything you do or say will probably seem demanding and like you don't approve (even if you honestly don't care.) and these people have no responsibility to help you raise your kids. (Though you seem to be doing fine there.) As long as they don't do anything illegal and don't go to the bathroom in your yard, there isn't a lot that can be done. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 23991538 United States 02/01/2013 01:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You should tell your child that they should do whatever makes them happy... and to never grow to be a bitter old bible-thumping bitch who posts on nutjob forums because everything is so scary outside when you're offended by the world spinning. |
natasha77 User ID: 32834078 United States 02/01/2013 01:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Tell your kid there's depraved people everywhere. Explain that weirdo's are plenty. Tell him its not normal, and look the other way. Sickos. Call the cops. SPEAK UP. SILENCE IS DEADLY! I am currently experiencing life at several WTFs per hour. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 33455081 United States 02/01/2013 01:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Tell your kid there's depraved people everywhere. Explain that weirdo's are plenty. Quoting: natasha77 Tell him its not normal, and look the other way. Sickos. Call the cops. Call the cops because some lady was walking her girl on a leash? Sounds a bit uneccesary, it's not like they would have been naked or having sex while doing it, right? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 31769448 United States 02/01/2013 02:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Tell your kid there's depraved people everywhere. Explain that weirdo's are plenty. Quoting: natasha77 Tell him its not normal, and look the other way. Sickos. Call the cops. I would agree. Its not normal. and we are being told everything is ok and normal, and no its not. where are standards to be set if man doesn't set them? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 31769448 United States 02/01/2013 02:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | WELL HELL let's just ban everything that makes you uncomfortable! Problem solved! But what happens when YOU make other people uncomfortable? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 10372663 I don't like children should be ban them from being seen? AND HEARD?!!!!!!!!!!! oh in my days kids were allowed to be seen, but not heard. I promised should I have children, they would be heard. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 31769448 United States 02/01/2013 02:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Tell your kid there's depraved people everywhere. Explain that weirdo's are plenty. Quoting: natasha77 Tell him its not normal, and look the other way. Sickos. Call the cops. Call the cops because some lady was walking her girl on a leash? Sounds a bit uneccesary, it's not like they would have been naked or having sex while doing it, right? THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR IN A FAMILY NEIGHBORHOOD. PUSH THEM OUT IN SOME WAY. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 13076957 United States 02/01/2013 02:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just explain to her by using some crazy parent who puts their kid on a leash as an example. There has to be at least one. You know those cute fuzzy animal backpacks with those long leashes that help parents not parent their child. I did like your play acting one. I will use that if the situation arises for me to do so. |
ProNerd User ID: 13856469 United States 02/01/2013 02:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Compact cities are no place for humans. Other than flee to a place where humans can live, I would engage in MASS RIDICULE, we must fight attempts to "normalize" abhorrent behavior. It's for the children. Break Your Conditioning and be Man. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1512435 United States 02/01/2013 02:41 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think you have it about right already. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 926747 You can't explain it to a four year old any better than you have and it sounds close enough to what is probably going on. As for you being happier if it happened at a different time of day... Well, you can feel that way and it isn't bad of you to do so. You just don't have a right to demand it. That sounds like it would be a little inconvenient actually. Otherwise they'd be doing it then, don't you think? Really, the best advice here is for you to not get involved if it worries you that much. Anything you do or say will probably seem demanding and like you don't approve (even if you honestly don't care.) and these people have no responsibility to help you raise your kids. (Though you seem to be doing fine there.) As long as they don't do anything illegal and don't go to the bathroom in your yard, there isn't a lot that can be done. I call BS! I have a right to speak up and tell them to knock their preverted shit off until after 9pm. You may have the right to do what you want butyou DONOT have the right to push that shit off on other peopole.And that is what this couple of pervs are doing. Who says I don't have a right-the liberal media, the politically correct crowd. F&%k them! I will speak up and you should too! If they don't like it, too bad! They should not be doing that shit in front of kids! It is MORALLY WRONG!!!!!! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1512435 United States 02/01/2013 02:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You should tell your child that they should do whatever makes them happy... and to never grow to be a bitter old bible-thumping bitch who posts on nutjob forums because everything is so scary outside when you're offended by the world spinning. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23991538 Another poster who doesn't know what MORALS are! Or what BEING RESPONSIBLE is. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 926747 United States 02/01/2013 02:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think you have it about right already. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 926747 You can't explain it to a four year old any better than you have and it sounds close enough to what is probably going on. As for you being happier if it happened at a different time of day... Well, you can feel that way and it isn't bad of you to do so. You just don't have a right to demand it. That sounds like it would be a little inconvenient actually. Otherwise they'd be doing it then, don't you think? Really, the best advice here is for you to not get involved if it worries you that much. Anything you do or say will probably seem demanding and like you don't approve (even if you honestly don't care.) and these people have no responsibility to help you raise your kids. (Though you seem to be doing fine there.) As long as they don't do anything illegal and don't go to the bathroom in your yard, there isn't a lot that can be done. I call BS! I have a right to speak up and tell them to knock their preverted shit off until after 9pm. You may have the right to do what you want butyou DONOT have the right to push that shit off on other peopole.And that is what this couple of pervs are doing. Who says I don't have a right-the liberal media, the politically correct crowd. F&%k them! I will speak up and you should too! If they don't like it, too bad! They should not be doing that shit in front of kids! It is MORALLY WRONG!!!!!! Oh, probably, yes. It's just worst to force your beliefs on other people that's all. They're doing things you may not like, which is annoying. Attacking them (if verbally) would be direct and aggressive. You have a right to speak, but not a right to harass others. Just use common sense. |
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geminilion User ID: 12895036 United States 02/01/2013 03:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You gave your daughter an answer that will suffice for now. I wouldn't do anything unless it's illegal they are allowed to let their freak flag fly. Your daughter will find out sooner or later that there are strange people in the world. Let's hope she doesn't have her pooping in the street or lifting her leg. ..."The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts. Think only on those things that are in line with your principles and can bear the light of day. The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you choose, what you think, and what you do is who you become. Your integrity is your destiny ... it is the light that guides your way." Heraclitus |
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goodmockingbird User ID: 29124333 United States 02/01/2013 03:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your answer suffices for these strange times. But it does not sufficiently warn the child. You could say that they are playing at dog and master which "could" be healthy and fun, but that sometimes unhealthy or destructive people might look like they are playing, when the real idea is to humiliate the person acting like a dog, and that you are uncomfortable around people who humiliate others and think it is okay. Warn you child not get curious and approach them. Simply explain that they are not thinking or acting healthy or happy, and that is best to stay away from them. Yes, it IS right and necessary to excercise judgement -- in short -- to act "judgemental", when that common sense evaluation of degrading behaviour warns your child to protect himself from potentially getting involved in that sort of scenario. You can also explain that some things are legal, but that they are disgusting and dangerous. Explain that they have the right to act like that, but you -- and your son! -- have the absolute right to distance yourselves from unhealthy and degrading behaviour. I Support Our First Responders |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 31862440 United States 02/01/2013 03:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | For whatever parenting advice is worth on GLP, tell her they are "being silly". That she can comprehend. Quoting: Zetetic Let her be innocent for a little longer. Life gets screwed up enough as you get older. Yes..this is right. Just say they are silly, peculiar people. I'd add you can say, well, it's none of our business, really. That way you are helping your child to mind her own business, and not get pulled into other people's crazy drama and stuff. |
wisc_natureboy User ID: 33450193 United States 02/01/2013 03:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Oh my gosh, I have heard it all now! Quoting: J&V [link to www.theglobeandmail.com] The Question: We live in a family-oriented neighbourhood in the heart of our city. Dozens of kids ride bikes, play soccer and so on while adults chat and watch. Last summer, one of my neighbours (with three sons) told me he saw a woman walking her girlfriend on a leash. I told him he must have been fantasizing. Sure enough, a woman with long dreads and multiple piercings (I’d seen her before; she rents a basement apartment on the street) came around the corner walking her girlfriend on a leash. We’ve seen it many times since then, in the middle of the day. My four-year old daughter asked me why the lady was wearing a leash. I told her that she was pretending to be a dog and that the other lady was playing the owner. My daughter loves inventing her own play scenarios and easily accepted my explanation. This has been going on since last summer, so it’s obviously a happy, long-term relationship. But I don’t love having to explain S&M role-play to my four-year old and would appreciate if the dog-walking happened after, say 9 p.m. What would you do? See the answer at the link.... Old news. I got mine years ago. ;-`) Thread: A girlfriend leash---WTF? I am single now however. LoL. We all breathe the same air. .-.. --- ...- . / .- .-.. .-.. |
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