wtf is going on with women

He said in the first post that he is interested in the woman.

its a sad situation these days ill read the posts before my posts and then ill just forget things

So? You think he thought a 10 dollar gift card was going to get him into her pants?? No. If anything, he may have thought it would have broken the ice. He also gave the card to another coworker...does that mean that he wants to have sex with that woman? He asked the woman if she liked coffee, she said yes, he then gave her the card. Oh no! How dare he!

I think this whole thing is...

ridiculous.

Moral of the story. Never ever give anyone anything; they will see it as some evil gesture with an ulterior motive.

Last Edited by Zuzu's Petals on 02/06/2013 06:37 AM

Well, OP learned that he was after some bitchy gold digger. So the present served its purpose.

It means she knows youre interested and she's making it clear that she's not.

Hopefully in the rest of the 9 pages of this thread, someone helped you figure that out.


You need to try to be more alpha and less beta, if you can figure out what that means and put it to practice. Just from your two posts here, I can smell beta beta beta. Women dont like beta males. Thats prob at least partially why she rejected you in the first place.

No, I didnt even have to do any sexual favors, I was just so good at my job, he wanted to thank me. I was 31 at the time and it seemed like a ton of money, and was great to not have to pay taxes. I put it right in my savings. That same year at bonus time in the spring, I received a 57k bonus made up of cash and stock options - that was a nice bonus to my already generous salary. I have always managed to work for some great people in in the venture cap/private equity areas that basically gave money away to the worker bees that made the company operate seemlessly.

Now that I dont have to work, i realize how good I had it, but how hard I worked. Its great to look back and reflect, but I dont miss the 40 hour work week one bit, my job has a stat at home mom/wife is way better, even though I make less money. I am blessed to have a man that makes enough to take care of his family on one paycheck, and we live like kings and queens.

The only time I ever swallow is for my husband, sorry to dissapoint your theory.

Oh my gosh. You gave a cheap, re-gifted $10 coffee card to another woman at work?

I am shocked, actually, no I am not shocked.

You are funny.

So have we solved the battle of the sexes yet?

Yeah, OP has to be more alpha. As I said, he supplied coffee. That isn't the right role if he wants to "get somewhere" with her. There's nothing wrong with wanting to "get somewhere" or with achieving it, but this won't get it done.

Good luck OP, you have to break some habits that you think are a part of your personality. But try it and it will be fun!

I would of took the card kindly, thanked him, and brought him back a coffee too:)

This is probably what he hoped for, and it doesn't seem like too much to ask does it?

You probably have a lot of male friends, with a non-hostile attitude like that. Shocking!

In school all my friends were guys, and I grew up with brothers. If people would just treat others the way they wan't to be treated. Why hurt others for love shown?