everyone who says "the only way is ____ " is wrong. different things work for different people. this forum is not the best place to ask.

things that have worked for me at different times

Paxil / Lexapro . the beginning of my battle when i decided to acknowledge/face the program. it did make me feel numb/zombified but it also allowed me to face more scary social situations, and over time, conquer the smaller fears like this.

meditation / deep breathing . meditation is not religious and depp breathing exercises truly salm and soften the body's natural adrenaline / fight or flight responses which are overactive in those with anxiety. now i do slow/deep breathing exercises before enteirng a stressful situation. i meditate abd focus on my body's TRUE FEELINGS IN THE MOMENT, *NOT*fear of what MIGHT happen or what bad things HAVE happened that have been painful. focus on only real feelings, and push out negative feelings and dont let yourself imagine bad scenarios happening. envision good things happening only.

diet and exercise. the place to begin while you consider the others above . i went from eating junk/not watching my diet, to a "paleo" type of diet, modified by me to work for me. beef, pork, chicken, kale, spinach, veggies, fruit.. thats all. no grians, starches, processed foods, chemicals you dont know what they are, GMOs, or preservatives. get regular sleep and lots of sleep (anxiety and depression are linked to poor sleep cycles/patterns) and exercise at least a little daily.. it truly helps you feel better.

finally, consider a CONTROLLED psychedelic trip. psilocybin, the chemical which makes you trip/hallucinate when you eat magic mushrooms, has been linked to "permanent personality changes" for the better , curing/treating PTSD, stopping peoples alcoholism (btw if you drink, stop) etc. but you need to know what youre doing for this. read erowid.com a ton if this option interests you. johns hopkins university (leading medical university) is studying mushrooms' health benefits right now.

good luck my friend.