He's gone now, I Lost my precious HUSBAND....He died on May 17 from myelodysplastic syndrome.

Your daughter may need some down time to adjust to her new life.
Ask her what she needs. Grief can be exhausting.

She may go just because she thinks you want her to (if that is true), or stay home because she thinks you need here (if that is true),

so just ask her to think about it overnight and tell you what she wants to do with her educational opportunity at this time.

Sad to hear. You all fought the good fight. He was blessed to have you, and you him.

The love shines through.

My 16 year old daughter is having a tough time, too!!
She has been chosen to go to spend three weeks at the Governor's mansion to go to some gifted college classes for college credit.

WTF!? Having to spend 3 weeks at the Governor's mansion for college credit sounds really odd to me...

What does the Governor want to do to your daughter while she is there? How is she earning that college credit?

I am so sorry for your loss. He is watching over you, protecting you and waiting for you in the astral plane. Try astral projection and call him to you.

This song came on my radio as I was reading your thread...just felt I should share.

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Love is never lost or gone,you are very lucky to have had such a great love! :red_heart:
Remember to take care of yourself now.

I am very sorry for your loss. You were a wonderful wife.

My daughter's husband, (my grandson's father), died unexpectedly at the age of 40, when my grandson was 6 years old. My grandson saw that my daughter was devastated. Although he was crying too, he put his arm around her, and said, "Let's think of it this way....daddy is with his mom again. Maybe we should be happy for him."

When my daughter told me that, she smiled and said, "Wouldn't it be wonderful if we thought like a six year old?"

When my grandson couldn't find something, we'd joke and say, "Uh oh...daddy's hiding things from you." He'd laugh.

Even though my grandson adored and missed his father, his grades never suffered. He might have been sad inside, but his personality never changed. He never felt sorry for himself, and he continues to make A's at school and receives awards....he'll be a junior next year.

I attribute his positive attitude to my daughter. She put on a happy face for his benefit and made life happy for him. We taught him how to throw a baseball...lol. Every so often we'd bring up fun memories of his dad, and we do so to this day. When her husband died, she never said, "Oh...what are we going to do now? This is awful!"

Kids watch what you do and say and how you act....whether they are 6 or 16. If you are overwhelmed with your husband's death, your daughter will be, too. Try to be strong for her, although you're dying inside. She's still a child...she's still watching and learning from you.

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So sorry for your loss, Angel's Helper.

I'm so sorry for your loss Angel Helper. It must be a great comfort to see a look of serenity on his face when he passed.

Love and comfort to you through our gentle and loving Holy Spirit.

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I'm so sorry for your loss :(. You're a strong woman and may God bless you .

This is where time is your worst enemy, and yet your greatest ally.

The time you are in now will be very painful, and it will be the slowest period of your life...

On the other hand, time is also what will heal you, because nothing but the passage of time that will help fix your sorrow.

One day you will just wake up and it will be OK....You will always miss him, but in time, your thoughts of him will turn from sadness and tears to joy and smiles.

Make sure you cry when you need to, never hold it back as it is an important part of your healing. Anywhere and anytime is appropriate. Never be embarrassed about it. Anyone that would judge or doesn't understand will be made to understand at some point in their life when they have a tragic loss.

Make sure you continue to talk to him. Everyday. Even if it is just in your mind. Regardless of where he is now, you will always be connected. Think of him when you are falling asleep and he will visit you in your dreams.

I don't know what it is about your post, but your love for him and the pain you are feeling emanates from it...hit me like an emotional baseball bat and compelled me to make this post. I wish I could give you a hug.

Much love to you and your Family.

Beautifully worded , not much moves me but your words brought a tear to my eye.....I can't give you any advice about what to do with your daughter , but you sound a very capable strong woman so I am sure you will both be fine.....sending you a big hug from the UK x

Beautifully worded , not much moves me but your words brought a tear to my eye.....I can't give you any advice about what to do with your daughter , but you sound a very capable strong woman so I am sure you will both be fine.....sending you a big hug from the UK x

Well said, T-1000. I share your thoughtful sentiments.

Angel's Helper, Peace and strength to you and yours.

i am so sorry for your loss. i hope you have a good support system around you to help you through this difficult time.

imho, too much money is being spent on the likes of HIV/AIDS research vs. other diseases and life threatening infections.

may God help you through this difficult time.

also

if your husband said he wanted her to go and so forth, then i think that is a great way for your daughter to honor her Dad, even though it may be difficult. we are commanded to honor our parents, so if she keeps that in her mind while she is away, i think that will give her peace. her grieving process will take plenty of time. i don't think you ever get over the loss of a parent. i haven't and others i know have not either....it stays with you the rest of your life.

fwiw - i think doing what would honor her Dad is the best thing to do.

and, i am new here (though have lurked for awhile) and don't know you, so i hope i don't sound too forward in what i wrote.

God bless!

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Death to this world is only the beginning.

He is in a better place and has no worries now

Did he drop any good loot?

brought me to tears.I wish you all the luck on your future.Your husband is still with both of you watching out for you.Keep your daughter close to you for a while.Prayers sent to your family.

How does a person get through this?

I am so sorry for your loss OP.

The loss of my wife is possibly the most painful and difficult thing I can imagine. My greatest fear.

The fact that you can communicate about it and still go on living shows you are a strong person. I admire and respect that. I hope you find peace.

I am so sorry for your loss... My dad went to be with The Lord 2 Months ago .....

May The Lord give you comfort. I don't know how I would get through this loss if it was not for His Holy Spirit and His comforting words.



1 Thessalonians 4:13-18

13 But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.

14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.

15 For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:

17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.

18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.

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She is there....like a flower blooming for the first time....she took off smiling. My heart is so heavy. Losing her dad, now in no time at all she is also on her way.....grown up but still so very tender .... I hope her sweet dad got to see such as I saw In her today. God help me. I have now forgotten who I am!
Two people fall in love,a child is brought forth, love is awesome.

The pain. It forces you to seek relief....anywhere you can.
God bless you friend.

No, you sounded very caring....thank you! Blessings!!

Do you know you are precious, grumpy?? Well you are!

if you find out, please post.


i hope you are your daughter are comforted by the good memories you have and may God hold you both up and bless you during this time. i'm very sorry for your loss.

Sometimes it's not "getting through" but "living into." This was the best advice I was ever given when my Dad died.

My prayers for you continue, Friend.

I lost my wife 5 years ago. The only way to get through it is to go though all the stages of grief. It ain't easy.i still cry and get sad. But after 5 years I'm crying less and getting on with my life more.
It would be good if you have someone to talk to. I found it good to be around people as much as possible.
I wish I could tell you something to make you feel better. I'm sorry for your loss.

So sorry to hear that. Peace & love to you and yours Angel Healer

I am freaked out me777.....His room number was 777. This is too much. I have been in the back seat of my car, while being driven home from leaving Lauren at the college ...crying and so sad wishing Lance could have saw her today as that was his wish 12 years ago when this illness began, and you post this