Father of five who vanished 16 years ago and was legally pronounced dead, reappears alive and well having started a new life as a gay man

Wow, that's messed up to do to your kids/family!

On the other hand I can imagine what it's like to be locked into a life and want out. Still an asshole thing to do, to say the least.

Had an idea of the "ideal Christian housewife" but he was the one that ran off to be with a gay lover? Figures

Sounds like an insurance scam to me.

Nice guy, huh?

That's okay though because his asshole is going to fall out. If it hasn't already.

Looks like he got yellow fever!!!

He must have watched the David Wilcock COCKED trilogy of movies and that made him switch sides.

They might want to talk to his adopted kids. It seems he has a thing for Asian.

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ABC’s "The VIEW" aired on August 2, 2013 ( [link to watchabc.go.com] ) < the complex Story (tip-of-the-iceberg) starts at the 19:27 min mark.

After much counseling, returning was the right thing to do for a myriad of reasons. I definitely did not return ‘to feel better about myself’ – if that was my motive, staying away would have been better. The possibility (not guarantee) for healing and closure for others was my motive for returning. Once I successfully grasped hold of my own forgiveness, I strengthened myself in all ways to prepare myself for whatever may become upon my return. At the point I was sure I was ready for anything, I returned. (See more at ThatWasTheAct.com)

I make no excuse. There is none.

A dam breaks and harms all below it.
Afterwards, research reveals the weaknesses of the dam - not making ANY excuse for not addressing what should have been addressed before the dam broke. The research is done to help others to see what weaknesses must be addressed to avoid such harm in the future. What made me go off the deep end are NOT justifications or excuses. I speak my “WHY” so that others will be true to their real selves and thereby avoid breaking (or even getting into the ‘damn’ situation in the first place). Not being true to self (eventually) always results in collateral damage…which is wrong and painful for all involved.

I felt I had failed as a husband and father and I could not accept myself as a gay man. I had nothing left to live for. Then I got robbed and I snapped. I didn’t decide to leave my family – I had a breakdown and left. I would not have done what I did if I was mentally healthy.

I never thought about running away. In San Diego, I was traumatized by a robbery. I was broken down, weak and I cracked. My greatest fear was losing my entire family and the life I knew, if they found out I was gay. I grew up in the 60s. When it was not OK to be gay. (Others who have lived in fear, shame and hatred may not have cracked. I was weak and I did.) I thought of killing myself 3 times when I was 13. I became a religious extremist hoping to cure myself. In that religion, divorce and being gay are not options. In my mind I had no options. I failed with my family and my faith failed me. Killing myself was an option too.
I am humbly greatly sorry for all the harm my damn situation brought to everyone.

ABC’s 20/20 program, "I Escaped My Life..." took 100s hours of coverage and edited it into 21 mins of Sensationalism vs. Balance Journalism - for Perspective/Understanding check out ThatWasTheAct.com

Others, who have made huge mistakes, hide. One more closet I’m not willing to be in. This is a discussion to reduce such future tragedies. If my motive was to be viewed positively, I would have stayed away. Before, I couldn’t face my life; now I can AND AM.
My previous weaknesses are lessons for others, to help as many as possible to avoid my pitfalls.

There are NO excuses for my mistakes - only background to help others who may be in similar situations, not to make theirs. After the airing of 20/20 we went to NYC for "The VIEW" which aired on August 2, 2013 ( see link at top ) < the story starts at the 19:27 min mark.

It is as if I believed there should be no gun restrictions and after hurting someone horribly with a gun, I’ve become an advocate for restrictions. Living A Charade Causes Much Damage for All Affected.
COME OUT, COME OUT — For Everyone’s Betterment.
I am OK with being the “Come Out” Poster Person similar to a Stop Smoking Poster, showing what could happen.

I made a serious mistake and if anyone will learn from it, and not do anything hurtful by living a charade, then some good can result.
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Nothing whatsoever can be said/done to undo. I do regret that that statement is absolutely true, yet accept that it is. Though someone's sentence has been served – it does not undo the act – nor undo the pain caused by the act. Even sentencing one to eternal damnation does not undo.

I pray time, healing and forgiveness can repair vs. undo.
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I hope this much needed conversation continues. So that it will make it to those living a charade, and encourage them to stop and avoid the collateral damage that will assuredly result.


The down low needs to stop (period).
This is very much about being true to yourself and others...NOT HIDING from the TRUTH.
ELM

He'll get his.