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How to deal with a CLOSED OFF person...
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rainlover |
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No, but I've seen him roast a few people.
Quoting: rainlover just asking. That is what I do for a living and we tend to be closed off from the rest of the world, workaholics, and perfectionists, among other things. Ive had people in your shoes before trying to get to know me. I find that the ones who dont push the issue are usually successful. If you try to tear down my walls, that will make me rebuild them stronger and faster. So you're saying that the less pushy a person is, the more you are willing to let the person in? That's a nice sentiment, but isn't that a little selfish. I get that people decide who to let in and who to keep out, but it seems sort of selfish to me. Am I wrong? How is it selfish? Pushy people are exhausting. It's selfish to demand that someone be close to you/let you in. Well this person will let you in just close enough to leave you standing on the edge of a cliff. He has the power to push you off or rescue you, and it's at that moment of time every time that I worry I am pushing too hard. But then, that causes me to walk on pins and needles, and that's not a way to have a relationship, either. Cannot really tell him anything because he never responds to peoples' words unless those words piss him off.
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