My friend is divorcing his wife, can I tell him that she tried to sleep with me year earlier? | |
lightchild_uk Waiting for IT User ID: 45643611 United Kingdom 09/01/2013 12:51 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 46125381 United States 09/01/2013 12:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | an he says Quoting: lightchild_uk "If I knew that then, I would have never had married her, why didn't you tell me sooner?" "You did sleep with her anyway, just admit it" I honestly wanted to tell him but knowing her and how manipulative she was, I could guarantee it would only end our friendship. I know telling him at the time was the best thing to do but again they are both 4 years older and I honestly didn't know how to handle the situation at the time. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 45908934 United States 09/01/2013 01:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | an he says Quoting: lightchild_uk "If I knew that then, I would have never had married her, why didn't you tell me sooner?" "You did sleep with her anyway, just admit it" I honestly wanted to tell him but knowing her and how manipulative she was, I could guarantee it would only end our friendship. I know telling him at the time was the best thing to do but again they are both 4 years older and I honestly didn't know how to handle the situation at the time. Well if you didn't and she is as manipulative as you say she will likely tell him now with the divorce to hurt him and she may even lie and say that you did sleep with her. Try to stay out of it as much as possible and be prepared for anything. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 46125381 United States 09/01/2013 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | an he says Quoting: lightchild_uk "If I knew that then, I would have never had married her, why didn't you tell me sooner?" "You did sleep with her anyway, just admit it" I honestly wanted to tell him but knowing her and how manipulative she was, I could guarantee it would only end our friendship. I know telling him at the time was the best thing to do but again they are both 4 years older and I honestly didn't know how to handle the situation at the time. Well if you didn't and she is as manipulative as you say she will likely tell him now with the divorce to hurt him and she may even lie and say that you did sleep with her. Try to stay out of it as much as possible and be prepared for anything. |
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Mr. Reality User ID: 1350479 United States 09/01/2013 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No need to make him think about more b.s. just let it be. Nature has already split them. “When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty.” -- Thomas Jefferson "My 2nd Amendment will Die with Me" -- iwinallday |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 45405354 United States 09/01/2013 01:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Agree! This is between them, not you, perhaps you might if it was just yesterday but since there is kid(s) involved they need to stay focused on working out the best from a bad situation for their child(ten). All you will do is make things worse, all that she has to do is deny it and the you are out on a limb and may lose a friend in him (losing his trust since he won't believe her and may not believe you turned her down). Let them sort their deal out and you stay on the sidelines. Everyone will be happier in the end (esp if you aren't being honest and had a fling with her). |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 46126269 United States 09/01/2013 01:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Agree! This is between them, not you, perhaps you might if it was just yesterday but since there is kid(s) involved they need to stay focused on working out the best from a bad situation for their child(ten). All you will do is make things worse, all that she has to do is deny it and the you are out on a limb and may lose a friend in him (losing his trust since he won't believe her and may not believe you turned her down). Let them sort their deal out and you stay on the sidelines. Everyone will be happier in the end (esp if you aren't being honest and had a fling with her). I think I would feel comfortable telling glp that I had slept with her if I had. But I didn't. I don't like blondes. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1409758 United States 09/01/2013 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I will say this, put yourself in your friends place. Would you want to know? I sure as fuck would! And you should have told him the day it happened. Years ago, my college roommate went out of town and his girlfriend cheated on him. She pleaded with me not to tell him. And I told her plain and simple, if it were the other way around, wouldn't you want to know? That shut her up. Needless to say, I told him and he dumped her. Now let's say I had never told him and they got married and had children and the she cheats on him, which is very likely as people who cheat once are prone to do so again. Now he is wasted years of his life with a cheater and even has a child with her. In the long run, what is the best thing to do. So OP, you should have told him the day it happened, and even though it's late in the game, you should tell him now. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1409758 United States 09/01/2013 01:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Agree! This is between them, not you, perhaps you might if it was just yesterday but since there is kid(s) involved they need to stay focused on working out the best from a bad situation for their child(ten). All you will do is make things worse, all that she has to do is deny it and the you are out on a limb and may lose a friend in him (losing his trust since he won't believe her and may not believe you turned her down). Let them sort their deal out and you stay on the sidelines. Everyone will be happier in the end (esp if you aren't being honest and had a fling with her). I think I would feel comfortable telling glp that I had slept with her if I had. But I didn't. I don't like blondes. So if she would have been a brunette you would have? That's hilarious! |
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M*walk Low Earth Orbit User ID: 1067150 United States 09/01/2013 01:27 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Agree! This is between them, not you, perhaps you might if it was just yesterday but since there is kid(s) involved they need to stay focused on working out the best from a bad situation for their child(ten). All you will do is make things worse, all that she has to do is deny it and the you are out on a limb and may lose a friend in him (losing his trust since he won't believe her and may not believe you turned her down). Let them sort their deal out and you stay on the sidelines. Everyone will be happier in the end (esp if you aren't being honest and had a fling with her). I think I would feel comfortable telling glp that I had slept with her if I had. But I didn't. I don't like blondes. So if she would have been a brunette you would have? That's hilarious! This post is the new trend in "douchebaggery", dude said NOTHING about doing her if she was a brunette, YOU DID, then blamed him for it. FUCK OFF troll.. “The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants.” |
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PulpNews User ID: 45117153 United States 09/01/2013 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ease my conscience, explain some of the behavior between her and I over the last few years. I agree it's selfish, but that's why I'm asking for advice and obviously not leaning that particular direction. If you want to increase the probability of losing your friend, then tell him. Last Edited by PulpNews on 09/01/2013 01:29 PM PulpNews |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 46126269 United States 09/01/2013 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I will say this, put yourself in your friends place. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1409758 Would you want to know? I sure as fuck would! And you should have told him the day it happened. Years ago, my college roommate went out of town and his girlfriend cheated on him. She pleaded with me not to tell him. And I told her plain and simple, if it were the other way around, wouldn't you want to know? That shut her up. Needless to say, I told him and he dumped her. Now let's say I had never told him and they got married and had children and the she cheats on him, which is very likely as people who cheat once are prone to do so again. Now he is wasted years of his life with a cheater and even has a child with her. In the long run, what is the best thing to do. So OP, you should have told him the day it happened, and even though it's late in the game, you should tell him now. I don't think I would want to know after the fact. especially with a kid still involved. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1409758 United States 09/01/2013 01:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45405354 Agree! This is between them, not you, perhaps you might if it was just yesterday but since there is kid(s) involved they need to stay focused on working out the best from a bad situation for their child(ten). All you will do is make things worse, all that she has to do is deny it and the you are out on a limb and may lose a friend in him (losing his trust since he won't believe her and may not believe you turned her down). Let them sort their deal out and you stay on the sidelines. Everyone will be happier in the end (esp if you aren't being honest and had a fling with her). I think I would feel comfortable telling glp that I had slept with her if I had. But I didn't. I don't like blondes. So if she would have been a brunette you would have? That's hilarious! This post is the new trend in "douchebaggery", dude said NOTHING about doing her if she was a brunette, YOU DID, then blamed him for it. FUCK OFF troll.. Your the troll. I just asked the question. Moran... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1409758 United States 09/01/2013 01:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I will say this, put yourself in your friends place. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1409758 Would you want to know? I sure as fuck would! And you should have told him the day it happened. Years ago, my college roommate went out of town and his girlfriend cheated on him. She pleaded with me not to tell him. And I told her plain and simple, if it were the other way around, wouldn't you want to know? That shut her up. Needless to say, I told him and he dumped her. Now let's say I had never told him and they got married and had children and the she cheats on him, which is very likely as people who cheat once are prone to do so again. Now he is wasted years of his life with a cheater and even has a child with her. In the long run, what is the best thing to do. So OP, you should have told him the day it happened, and even though it's late in the game, you should tell him now. I don't think I would want to know after the fact. especially with a kid still involved. Really, are you that weak? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 46126269 United States 09/01/2013 01:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45405354 Agree! This is between them, not you, perhaps you might if it was just yesterday but since there is kid(s) involved they need to stay focused on working out the best from a bad situation for their child(ten). All you will do is make things worse, all that she has to do is deny it and the you are out on a limb and may lose a friend in him (losing his trust since he won't believe her and may not believe you turned her down). Let them sort their deal out and you stay on the sidelines. Everyone will be happier in the end (esp if you aren't being honest and had a fling with her). I think I would feel comfortable telling glp that I had slept with her if I had. But I didn't. I don't like blondes. So if she would have been a brunette you would have? That's hilarious! This post is the new trend in "douchebaggery", dude said NOTHING about doing her if she was a brunette, YOU DID, then blamed him for it. FUCK OFF troll.. To be fair, that was the intended joke. But in reality if I was sincerely attracted to a friends girlfriend (not his wife) I would say something and get it out in the open (assuming she had feelings for me). |
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