Best way to forget about someone? Pretend they're DEAD?

find someone else better..

works for me.

Aww, sorry for your loss OP.

Keep crying. Do not Harden your heart, nor make up a delusional fantasy...

Feel the pain. Don't push it away, cry it out and you will keep your soul clear of bitterness. Always hope.

All the love you think someone else brings to you is actually your own. Remember this. Know it. And you will never need anyone to complete you.

Last Edited by ProtoKulture on 10/19/2013 11:24 PM

that's a pretty cold thing to do, you must have just broken up with someone.

I think of all the people I've known who died as having moved far away and not coming back to visit. Anyway, they're not really dead then, just living somewhere else.

OP, You don't miss them. You miss the person that you thought they were.

If they were the person that you thought they were you'd still be with them.

Their destiny is not tied to yours.

You have the gift of goodbye...

I haven't gone so far as to pretend someone is dead but I do keep deleting someone from my phone. Problem is I have her phone number memorized, so that hasn't been working so well.

I'm really not even sure why i'm still attracted to her. She's getting old, her body is going to shit and she shows little interest in me.

Remove them from your universe.

No contact, no photos, no memories.

I can do the first two. The last one...that's pretty tough.

No.


All that shit is a crutch and will never work.


Understand the situation that took place... understand your role in it, understand their role in it. Try to look at it from all sides... think about what happened, think about what could have happened. The good, and the bad. Without any bullshit, without any wishful thinking, without any bias.


Come to terms with it and be honest with yourself about the whole nine yards, no matter how much it hurts. Your mind will absorb the understanding of it, over time. You will eventually come to a state of resolved understanding.

I mean, nothing to remind you of the memories. No objects or anything. Thrash it up and throw it away. You'll get through it, push yourself to go out and have a good time for sure. Nothing is worse than sitting around on the internet thinking back on things.

Try to stay at least moderately busy doing things that add value to your life (daily exercise, take a class, clean your home and office, help a friend, update your wardrobe/clean your closets).

Children and animals are healing to be around because their love in unconditional.

Be willing to walk around broken-hearted, you will find people are drawn to the authenticity of this genuine and deep emotion.

Just because you aren't with the person doesn't mean you have to stop loving them...it's stopping the flow of love which is what hurts.

True love only wants the best for all concerned, so just keep loving until it becomes TRUE love.

We can't make other people want to be with us, no matter how hard we try.

Thanks to everybody.

pearls of wisdom can be found on GLP...

I'm trying. It's not working.

works very well .

indulge yourself with grief for one to three days
and
THAT'S IT.
no more.
and inform all you are in contact with to RESPECT YOU and
YOUR FEELINGS and never to mention so and so.

emotionally they are DEAD to you.

works WELL.

like this: "She's just another girl"

Thank you but 1-3 days is not long enough to forget someone who was there for many, many years. You are very kind to respond thought and I appreciate it.

That, is my way, too!

No rainlover - not that. Just go out dancing! Keep busy. Exercise. Reach out to friends. It will pass.

:rhiannadance:

When ever I think of someone I want to forget I say out loud, "I don't want to think about that asshole anymore." Helps.

Sometimes you only get a moment or two extra a day free from those ties and thoughts, but eventually they add up to whole days themselves. Learn to recognize when the releases as they happen and you can speed up the process.

This is absolutely the best way I have made it through those times...first and foremost realize you yourself are not the greatest thing that has ever happened to them because they feel they are entitled to better... Second.. Pray for them that that find it...

Amen

In other words, get a hold of your thinking in real time and add it up.

I say this about cars... Cars don't tip over every time I face a curve, then I curse Dr. Who won't prescribe Xanax . True story.

Fall for somebody else.

That's the truth.

Mourning them is a bit like dying yourself too.

Sometimes for one to ever truly love again... One must die like a tulip dies each season only to become another flower vased!

3,2,1