Sorry for not saying anything....there wasn't time and sometime that is all you can do - just plead.
My family is under a great deal of stress!
The 19th was my husband's dad's 1 year anniversary of his death.
21st is always hard on me but getting easier, my mom's birthday but this was the 12th year that she wasn't on earth to celebrate it. My daughter is in deep dark depression and we are all worried about her. Just so close to going back into the hospital for it. My health is continuing to head for the bottom. The 4th is my husband's last day at a job he has been doing for 25 (3 as a contractor and 22 as a regular employee) years and they laid him off. I hate IBM !!!! They don't want to keep him on when they can hire new and cheaper. He has probably put out over a hundred resumes and has had several interviews but nothing has happened.
So daughter and husband got into a horrific screaming match. I just knew the neighbors were going to call the cops on us - yes, it was that bad. He was crying. She was crying. I was crying and my son hid in the basement crying.
The hubby went to work (this is the little job he does at UPS for the insurance) crying and did something he has never done. Turned off his phone. I ended up driving out to DIA to make sure he actually went in.
I know.....you got a book ..... It is calmer but it is sure horrible too.
Thank you for your prayers and your continued positive thoughts. God bless each of you.
Sitting here crying because I just don't how much worse it can all get.
Quoting: WhiteAngel First, I am sorry you and your family have to go through all this Angel. It must be terrible to feel the ground fall from under your feet and get added even more to your plate that is already more than full.
But you know sweetheart, you HAVE to find the calm in the eye of the storm. Like BigD said, someone has to be the rock. I know how hard that is, when your only thought is when it will ever stop.
You have the most valuable asset in this situation and that is your beautiful family of four. You have to tell yourself and each other, that nothing can touch or break you, no matter what. You are a team and you should try and find the strength to act like a team. Tell each other that. Let each other know that it is okay to let your emotions go at times, but then close the ranks and find collective positivism and creativity to find light spots again. They are there, even when you don't think they are. Your four minds are a force.
It for sure will not change things overnight and make all the bad disappear, but at the very least you create an atmosphere and a stronghold in which you can look for solutions again, instead of getting dragged further down. It has no use blaming each other for things that are often way out of our control. It solves nothing. Close the ranks on that too. Find strength together.
Hubby will find another job again. If he needs help with applying, look online for tips and tricks, maybe find a coach (some work for free.) I am sure he also has a network outside IBM. Let him call them for a cup of coffee. Written applications and cv's often are only looked at for 7 seconds. Even though I can also understand that he needs some time to adjust to being laid off after so many years. I did. It is a mourning process.
As for your daughter and her deep depression, as a family you have to decide what needs to be done. This sounds like something she needs professional help with. You are much to attached as family to solve this on your own and it will not help anyone of you, only worsen it. But also this, decide it as a family of four, not one sided over your daughter's head. If needed, call crisis help for a talk and advice. Know that with the proper help and care, most likely outside the home environment, you will get your daughter back and she will find herself again.
I apologize for the length of this reply Angel, also to the crew of the EQ thread, but I feel your pain and despair. It makes me sad. But at the same time it makes me get creative, find positivism and solutions. I am here to help and you can always send me pm to vent or discuss. But remember what I tried to say, your most valuable asset is your beautiful family of four. Go from there...
Much love and know that my utmost positive thoughts and prayers are with you all.