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I am going to offer a piece of advice that my mama told me long ago. The more negative you come down on her, the more she will rebel and tune you out. Change the tone, change the child.

Sounds simple but it is so very hard to keep your voice and FACE calm when in reality you would like to just slap the crap out of them. Walk away. Go drive around the block or walk it. Driving is better for you can rant and rave and scream and SHE can't hear how much SHE is getting to you. You never let them know they have the upper hand.

In a calm, quiet voice, you tell her the law of the land. Break the law, jail time in her room. No phone, no music, no tv, no computer. School books/work only. Take everything out of her room. Leave the bed, the dresser, the clothes in the closet. Nothing else. If she continues to rebel, take away all clothes but what is needed for 7 days. Nothing more. She wants clean clothes she can wash those.

She is 13, and if you don't nip it in the bud right here and right now, life isn't going to get any better. She loves you. She is there for you. But SHE is trying to be an individual. In this learning mode, YOU have to be the one to force the law but only in your adult mode, not even in the parent mode. Parent yell. Adults stay calm.

She will fight you tooth and nail. Keep a pleasant look on your face but do NOT smile. That is smirking in her mind. Neutral face is best as long as it is pleasant looking. Depending on how long she has been in control, this could take a month to put her back in her place - that of a child and NOT an adult. She will then calm down and can go back to being your friend.

Teen years are hard but if you don't put your foot down right now, she will lose all respect for you. This is why kids treat their parents like crap nowadays. They don't respect their parents.

My 2 cents worth. Take or leave it. Remember only 7 years until she is 20!!!!

Thank you, WA....I always appreciate your advice and look up to you in many ways.

Just so you know...because I never told you that.

WA is right good advice

Did you read this yet? [link to www.empoweringparents.com]
it will help

Thank you hon, that meant a lot to me, especially after what I just posted. If any of you could see me at this moment, I am red faced and looking like the puppy who just piddled in the floor.

Because this is our safe place among the crazies, I need some advise.

Shame keeps me in my home. Shame and guilt are keeping me from living my life. Shame is gonna kill me.

I need to lose a great deal of weight and I don't want to do it in a year or two. I am looking at doing it in 6 months or less. Know all about doing it safely. Know all about the so called gaining it back if lost too quickly. I know all about loose skin and it making me look ancient.

I know all that and it has kept me from losing weight for so long I'm now done. Since Xmas I have gain 20 more pounds. I crave all carbs, all the time!

100+ pounds I want off. Don't worry, I will still be over weight even at that point. It is bad for my health. It is killing me now. Exercise isn't possible until I get at least 40-50 lbs off now as I get too breathless. Slow walking is the best I can do.

I need to lose fast or I will stop. It isn't an option to lose a pound a week. 20 lbs a month is what I am striving more, knowing that in the beginning more will drop quickly, later slower.

Should I make a thread and reach out for other peoples input?

Help!!!!!!

I suppose this would be great news for most. Back before my daughter had her cheering competition in Disney World (in December) we held many fundraisers. I know a rather wealthy man in the area. He's good friends with my parents and often needs "favors" from my job (which I always personally take of for him since he's a family friend). So naturally I have no problem hitting him up when a donation is needed for my daughter's cheering team.

He donated 4 Red Sox baseball tickets for opening week. It was used as a fundraiser item. We all sold tickets prior to our trip to Florida for the competition and the money raised went towards the cost of airline tickets for the girls on the team.

I get into the office yesterday and have a voicemail from this man who made the donation. He said he had 4 tickets sitting in his office with a note on them with my name and to call him back. No one ever claimed the tickets! The shady ass league probably never even announced who won to the winner...clearly.

Soooo....he mailed the 4 tickets to me. I have them in hand now.


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Whatever...my name is Tara. Nice to meet you all lol.

Game is April 15th....question is...do I go or do I sell these tickets???

I suppose this would be great news for most. Back before my daughter had her cheering competition in Disney World (in December) we held many fundraisers. I know a rather wealthy man in the area. He's good friends with my parents and often needs "favors" from my job (which I always personally take of for him since he's a family friend). So naturally I have no problem hitting him up when a donation is needed for my daughter's cheering team.

He donated 4 Red Sox baseball tickets for opening week. It was used as a fundraiser item. We all sold tickets prior to our trip to Florida for the competition and the money raised went towards the cost of airline tickets for the girls on the team.

I get into the office yesterday and have a voicemail from this man who made the donation. He said he had 4 tickets sitting in his office with a note on them with my name and to call him back. No one ever claimed the tickets! The shady ass league probably never even announced who won to the winner...clearly.

Soooo....he mailed the 4 tickets to me. I have them in hand now.


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Whatever...my name is Tara. Nice to meet you all lol.

Game is April 15th....question is...do I go or do I sell these tickets???

Yes, you are absolutely right. Thank you for bringing me back down to Earth. So overwhelmed lately. You know what I need to do right???



Love this video!!!

I know EXACTLY who can help you!!! And I will ask this person to reach out to you.

Sweetie...and I say this with nothing but love in my heart for you....NO. Not now.

You have all you need right here and with people that LOVE you and want nothing but the best for you.

G-d is ALWAYS with you wherever you go but this is the others' season.

Because this is our safe place among the crazies, I need some advise.

Shame keeps me in my home. Shame and guilt are keeping me from living my life. Shame is gonna kill me.

I need to lose a great deal of weight and I don't want to do it in a year or two. I am looking at doing it in 6 months or less. Know all about doing it safely. Know all about the so called gaining it back if lost too quickly. I know all about loose skin and it making me look ancient.

I know all that and it has kept me from losing weight for so long I'm now done. Since Xmas I have gain 20 more pounds. I crave all carbs, all the time!

100+ pounds I want off. Don't worry, I will still be over weight even at that point. It is bad for my health. It is killing me now. Exercise isn't possible until I get at least 40-50 lbs off now as I get too breathless. Slow walking is the best I can do.

I need to lose fast or I will stop. It isn't an option to lose a pound a week. 20 lbs a month is what I am striving more, knowing that in the beginning more will drop quickly, later slower.

Should I make a thread and reach out for other peoples input?

Help!!!!!!

Tara (lol). U go with a friend and sell the rest.

My friend weighed almost 400 lbs he went here [link to www.alaskapremierhealth.com] and started the optifast program he lost over 200 lbs in less than a year. I want to lose some weight too since the Dr put me on steroids I have gained 20 lbs and I am miserable but he said until he gets my lymes in remission, my thyroid right and off steroids dieting isn't going to work but I stopped craving the carbs, quit drinking soda last year and eat veggies and soup mostly for meals. Haven't lost anything but haven't gained anymore either. WA I applaud you that took great courage. Make sure you have your blood work done before you start to rule out thyroid and vitamin deficiency.
Here to cheer you on! Right there with you

My friend weighed almost 400 lbs he went here [link to www.alaskapremierhealth.com] and started the optifast program he lost over 200 lbs in less than a year. I want to lose some weight too since the Dr put me on steroids I have gained 20 lbs and I am miserable but he said until he gets my lymes in remission, my thyroid right and off steroids dieting isn't going to work but I stopped craving the carbs, quit drinking soda last year and eat veggies and soup mostly for meals. Haven't lost anything but haven't gained anymore either. WA I applaud you that took great courage. Make sure you have your blood work done before you start to rule out thyroid and vitamin deficiency.
Here to cheer you on! Right there with you

Ahhhh!!!!!

:brilliant:

Perfect 2-fer!!!

I don't even know 3 people I like enough to spend that much time with. Lmao. But I could definitely take one of my sisters (whichever has the night off ~ would be a great time with either of them). And sell the other two!! Perfect! See...I'm so not even thinking straight. Haha. Thanks Beet!!!



Wanna go to the game??

Because this is our safe place among the crazies, I need some advise.

Shame keeps me in my home. Shame and guilt are keeping me from living my life. Shame is gonna kill me.

I need to lose a great deal of weight and I don't want to do it in a year or two. I am looking at doing it in 6 months or less. Know all about doing it safely. Know all about the so called gaining it back if lost too quickly. I know all about loose skin and it making me look ancient.

I know all that and it has kept me from losing weight for so long I'm now done. Since Xmas I have gain 20 more pounds. I crave all carbs, all the time!

100+ pounds I want off. Don't worry, I will still be over weight even at that point. It is bad for my health. It is killing me now. Exercise isn't possible until I get at least 40-50 lbs off now as I get too breathless. Slow walking is the best I can do.

I need to lose fast or I will stop. It isn't an option to lose a pound a week. 20 lbs a month is what I am striving more, knowing that in the beginning more will drop quickly, later slower.

Should I make a thread and reach out for other peoples input?

Help!!!!!!

God Sweetheart this just breaks my heart. I don't want you to do this out in open forum just yet. Too many not nice out there. Start here, we will support group you. Once you have some progress you can put it "out there" - but this is a huge step in itself, just this - right here.

If you detox and treat for candida(yeast in your body) you will have a better platform to fight the urge for carbs. Also I am not kidding - get one of those lights they used for Seasonal depression because light change or lack of light can make your brain crave carbs. Get a good check up, make sure its not your thyroid. Get prepared in your mind like you are going on an expedition - and then begin - one day at a time honey, one day at a time. Huge massive Hugs for you!!!

You can pm me anytime for moral support! I mean that. Just making a public statement like this is a huge first step!!! I am so proud of you that you pushed right on through this.

It gives me courage too - to address some of my own fears that keep me from living a more complete life. I've only gotten more reclusive with each year home after deployment. That energy can become a monster that consumes you. So sign me up to be a battle buddy with you and lets get out of our caves!

Lots of blood work over the past year, remember I am the one who had a year from hell last year, pneumonia for 2 months, emergency gallbladder surgery, a huge lipoma removed and then finished up with a cough that wouldn't go away for 4 months with my voice almost totally gone for 3 months of that. All those things are gone.

Outside of my total cholesterol being whacked, and low Vit D, everything else is normal. My doctor honestly couldn't believe I wasn't diabetic and did the major blood panel on it that shows the 3 month sugar levels. NORMAL.

Not courageous, scared....lol

Baseball? Nah. We can go to Indy!

God Sweetheart this just breaks my heart. I don't want you to do this out in open forum just yet. Too many not nice out there. Start here, we will support group you. Once you have some progress you can put it "out there" - but this is a huge step in itself, just this - right here.

If you detox and treat for candida(yeast in your body) you will have a better platform to fight the urge for carbs. Also I am not kidding - get one of those lights they used for Seasonal depression because light change or lack of light can make your brain crave carbs. Get a good check up, make sure its not your thyroid. Get prepared in your mind like you are going on an expedition - and then begin - one day at a time honey, one day at a time. Huge massive Hugs for you!!!

You can pm me anytime for moral support! I mean that. Just making a public statement like this is a huge first step!!! I am so proud of you that you pushed right on through this.

It gives me courage too - to address some of my own fears that keep me from living a more complete life. I've only gotten more reclusive with each year home after deployment. That energy can become a monster that consumes you. So sign me up to be a battle buddy with you and lets get out of our caves!

What's Indy??

God Sweetheart this just breaks my heart. I don't want you to do this out in open forum just yet. Too many not nice out there. Start here, we will support group you. Once you have some progress you can put it "out there" - but this is a huge step in itself, just this - right here.

If you detox and treat for candida(yeast in your body) you will have a better platform to fight the urge for carbs. Also I am not kidding - get one of those lights they used for Seasonal depression because light change or lack of light can make your brain crave carbs. Get a good check up, make sure its not your thyroid. Get prepared in your mind like you are going on an expedition - and then begin - one day at a time honey, one day at a time. Huge massive Hugs for you!!!

You can pm me anytime for moral support! I mean that. Just making a public statement like this is a huge first step!!! I am so proud of you that you pushed right on through this.

It gives me courage too - to address some of my own fears that keep me from living a more complete life. I've only gotten more reclusive with each year home after deployment. That energy can become a monster that consumes you. So sign me up to be a battle buddy with you and lets get out of our caves!