Thank you, and I also hope things with your daughter go ok. Beautiful letter from your husband too. :)


I managed my Grandmother's health issues, and Alzheimer/dementia for over 5 years. Always weekly for meds, all Dr appointments, and sometimes daily for months on end during major health issues. All while homeschooling my son too. We had a special bond, it was always a pleasure and easy to do everything I could for her. The hardest times were sadness at her recognizing the loss of her clarity, the worry during each health issue, and frustration with 24 hour nursing care when needed. My Mother, even though she lived closer to my Grandmother (her mother) never was involved. Truthfully, I never felt resentment for that though. I felt better handling things myself frankly. lol.. My Grandmother was always more of a Mother figure, and I still consider her my best friend. She passed in 2011.

With my Mother it is difficult. She had me at 15, and struggled as a Mother. I left home at 14 myself. My brother left at 11 to live with his father across the country. By the age of 30, she was done raising kids under her roof. She is an intelligent woman, years ago she was very involved in real estate, including being the first woman president of the board of realtors. I do carry resentment about her parenting, I imagine it will always be something I carry, as years of trying to dump it has never worked. But I do love her, I do have a relationship with her, but she frustrates me easily. The past 10 years has become difficult, she became reclusive, and refused help, and has created an environment that makes these health issues even more daunting, concerning after care and moving forward with a new lifestyle. All of which I realize are my responsibility to manage. I can see it will be much harder on me mentally and physically than it was with my Grandmother. I pray for patience, and empathy.