My aunt is being woo'd by a man she met online... Here's the story. Tell me what you think!

Everyone is just looking for love and companionship.
I never realized how low lonely people are!
It's really hard to reason when the emotions are open and down and wrapped up into something that is obviously something that is a dead end.
Emotions are scary and real life blind spots.
How did your friend handle it once she woke up?

so your white aunt is considering hooking up with a Nigerian from Africa?

I took her out for dinner and made her laugh. She was smart enough not to fall deeply in love.

When he asks for all her personal financial info you'll know he's totally legit.

Save her the fraud grief that's coming and send him packing.

For the record he hasn't asked for money YET..
I'm still waiting for that text from her that says he's finally asked.

I'm over it though.
She has that "ding-dong" bell in her gut. So, I know she's not going to be blind.
If not then i'll bring her back to reality along with me and the rest of my family.

:awesomez:

Married. If he wants to convince her of who he is, he should give her his Driver's License number, name and address so she can do a light background check on him (court stuff, law suits such as divorce). Married men who haven't been laid in a decade will do anything for a sexual connection with another woman whom he finds appealing. Sex on the mind of the modern man will be considered a contributing factor to our fall. They are overstimulated with sexual subliminal advertising.

Scam artist. They say they don't want money and he'll tell her to be careful with people online....that there are many you can't trust. All the while, he is a scammer. He says he wants to meet her, but he wont have the money, so she'll have to help him out and send him money.

He has no intention of meeting her. He just wants money!

Does he call her sweetie, honey, or love and not by her first name? That's because he doesn't know it. He's writing and talking to many other women, so he doesn't even know her name.

Google "Dating site scammers/scams" or "Nigerian scammers."

Last Edited by nutmeg on 02/06/2014 07:06 AM

Listen: THis is almost EXACTLY what happened with my close friend, though she met him on POF. He convinced her that he was originally from our area- a doctor in Africa - that was coming home in a couple of months.

Right away started talking about 'settling down' and marriage. She is very overweight with terrible self-esteem and she believed him, much to the urging of myself and our other friends not to.

Then, excuse after excuse about why he couldn't make it: missed the plane, emergency where he lived, etc. Then, one day he tells her to have fun on her vacation with her son. She tells him she isn't going on vacation. He has a screen shot of a conversation (that he thought was with her) of another girl who was talking about going on vaction with her son.

My friend sent a message to the other girl, just asking if she knew him. The other girl said, yes, we are engaged. Who are you? My friend and the girl compared notes and pics- same guy, no other people or identifiable backgrounds. Obvious generic model type pics.

They notified POF who said they were already well aware of this person (from photo) and that profiles keep popping up. The other girl had sent him $. Thankfully, my friend never did. He disappeared (from her) after the mistake with my friend.


It is a terrible commentary on society that we prey on those most vulnerable. My friend was heartbroken to identify herself as a 'victim'. She realized that he saw her as not having lots of options. It was cruel- regardless of money.

Defending the Aussie scammer aye?
Must still be chatting with the mate.
The BF will love that.
unless he doesnt know

Just do a background check with the social security number. You can do it on umpteen sites online. Will cost a few bucks, but then you'll know if the name he gave and number match up. Plus those background checks will show criminal history, credit history, social networking, you name it

Dr Phil just did a show on this yesterday. The lady lost her life savings, 265k to a scammer.

I've seen the gullible women on there before...they lost their life's savings. I missed yesterday's show because Dr. Phil's entire program was preempted by CBS Philly reporting on Philadelphia's snow report! One hour of residents photos of snow and traffic reports. It is so stupid, because the snow occurred on Tuesday! That news was on from 4-5, (Phil starts at 4) then more of the same news continued from 5-6:30!


Dr. Phil's tips for identifying scammers...
[link to www.drphil.com]


Also...these are good! How to identify a scammer:
[link to www.cleveland.com]

Last Edited by nutmeg on 02/06/2014 08:57 AM

Dr. Phil uses Pig Busters:

[link to www.youreittoday.com]

No, Im just tired of hearing the same thing over and over.
My bf trust me and I havent done anything wrong.
Thanks for your concern

You think these people would stop after the first 100k ??!
Poor lady :(

Pretty Much.

I knew a Chinese dude who got tapped for 10 and then 20 the next week. Thought if it was a scam could locate them through the bank account he wired to.

Education is expensive.

Last Edited by Kirk on 02/06/2014 11:26 PM

some of these people are brilliant psychologists. Find your buttons quickly.

damnnn starz caught that one quick didn't ya
then why are peeps on here referring to you as a scammer?
one comment made and you call it obsession?
I think it is you that is obsessed with grace bear my friend and quite possibly you are the one full of crap.
watch out with this one gbear, though by the looks of it this genderless person seems to already be WATCHING out for YOU
btw this is someone who's dealt with online stalkers in the past.
JS
I smell
Good day mates!

Exactly! My husband is an engineer and has worked all over the world. He always has a work phone wherever he is. I hope your Aunt will be ok.

Yeah, they tell you what you want to hear, how, and when you want to hear it.
It's amazing how tuned someone can be to a person's psyche.
That's what happened to me when I had met this guy online.
He seemed like a good guy, but boy was I wrong.
He just read me like a book and regurgitated it all back to me so I would let my guard down. :\ Felt dumb once I realized, but looking back it was a good lesson learned.

Yup that's cause he's not a Nigerian Scammer

Thanks Nutmeg :hh:
I love your handle btw. Lol that word used to crack me up when I was little.. don't ask me why. I heard it on a show and I should was rolling every time I heard it.
My mom would still say it every now and then to get a reaction out of me, but I just smile and reminisce.

yeah man just google image search the pictures, it will tell you where the source came from.

Tell your aunt to do everything he asks. Idiots deserve to get robbed.

First nigerian scammers,now we have an Australian scammer as well.
Noted.

I have seen a few of your threads Brightstarz and unfortunately you are quite a horrid person to talk to (thats just my personal opinion).
You seem to be ranting about imaginary demons and seem to think people are following you. I don't think anyone is interested in you.
Stop attention seeking

Last Edited by Fencer on 02/07/2014 10:26 AM

in africa you say.

Hope he wont be needing plain fair to meet with her....

He's probably a Nigerian scam artist. I have a friend in her late 50's that fell for one. She told me how she had fallen in love with the guy. That he wrote such lovely letters, that he was an engineer working overseas and she showed me his picture.

Ding, Ding, Ding - warning bells. Tge picture of the guy showed a man way too good looking to be interested in my friend. She's cute but this guy was gorgeous.

She kept on and on about how she was falling in love with him. I said ask for his phone number. I think all along she knew it couldn't be for real but was feeling so good about herself and the dream of it all, that she didn't want to see the reality of it all.

Well, she did get his phone number -- I looked it up and it was based in Nigeria. She called the number and the guy who answered sounded African - not like white South African but like Nigerian African and he seem perturbed and like he didn't really know her.

She put in snippets of his emails into google and found identical wording -- it was a scam. She got off easy with a broken heart based on false trust.

But recently I saw a Dr. Phil show where a women did the same think - but she send over $250,000 the guy! Dr. Phil had her call him and when he answered he called her 'babe' - something they do for all the marks so as not to get names mixed up. He played like he was hurt that she did not tell him she was going on the Dr. Phil show and that he would think about flying over but he was hurt. She actually swallowed it - she got made but then cried because she felt like she had let him down (her daughter and son-in-law had set the Dr. Phil meeting up initially). Although she said in the end she realized she was duped, you could tell she was still 'in love' with the fantasy of it all. I just hope she like your aunt comes to her senses.

When you are in love, you don't ask for money but you make every attempt to meet the person and spend as much time as possible talking and being with them -- it is that simple.

I have a friend who works at a cashland-like payday loans/pawn, she says every so often a woman comes in wanting to Western-Union money to her 'husband' overseas who need money. My friend delicately questioned the woman about it because she suspected what was really going on. Poor woman/women - they just keep getting duped.