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how do you cope with really bad social anxiety

 
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how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


Stop believing all the BS others project onto you.

That is the cause of it.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


Stop believing all the BS others project onto you.

That is the cause of it.
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so grab my balls and stop thinking so hard basically
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Xanax
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Xanax
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no health insurance
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beer
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daily
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


Stop believing all the BS others project onto you.

That is the cause of it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6340605


Yeah what Aussie said.

Confidence. Not arrogance.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


Stop believing all the BS others project onto you.

That is the cause of it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6340605


Yeah what Aussie said.

Confidence. Not arrogance.
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i'm starting to wonder if everyone has this in some form or another
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Paxil, if it's really that bad. It changed my life. I don't think anyone had worse social anxiety than me. And the great thing is I eventually got off the medicine and was still fine socially. I'm not one to push meds, but sometimes you have to.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Common side effect of a introverted personality. If you don't want to take Xanex then I would suggest acceptance and embrace it, and perhaps learn to live with it.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Paxil, if it's really that bad. It changed my life. I don't think anyone had worse social anxiety than me. And the great thing is I eventually got off the medicine and was still fine socially. I'm not one to push meds, but sometimes you have to.
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my sister has been pushing it on me for years. my problem now is that now its getting in the way of my studies and work so you might be right. I gotta get health insurance first, maybe a new job will do the trick
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


Stop believing all the BS others project onto you.

That is the cause of it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6340605


so grab my balls and stop thinking so hard basically
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


I guess.

Basically live YOUR life.

Stop being sucked into other peoples fear-based delusions.

Once you do that, all the drama, all the fear, will fall away like week old, edible underwear.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
i'm in my prime and I should be balls deep in some girl right now. its so ridiculous you would think its an act, but anyone who has had it knows how fucked up it is
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
practice
never avoid
push ahead
keep being around people
and take the focus off yourself
stay focused on anything and everything except yourself


practice practice practice
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
any one else have to deal with that bs
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


Stop believing all the BS others project onto you.

That is the cause of it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6340605


so grab my balls and stop thinking so hard basically
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


I guess.

Basically live YOUR life.

Stop being sucked into other peoples fear-based delusions.

Once you do that, all the drama, all the fear, will fall away like week old, edible underwear.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6340605


easier said than done, but I will take that to heart and write that down and read it every morning when I wake up

thanks
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
For me, goals are achieved by stepping through fear, not around it.

Instead of fearing possible consequences, accept them ahead of time as the worst that can happen. Then take some risks socially that will seem frightful at first, and see if it works out better or worse than you imagined it would.

The only way to find out, is to take the leap, over and over if you have to, socially. Eventually the good will outweigh the bad.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
practice
never avoid
push ahead
keep being around people
and take the focus off yourself
stay focused on anything and everything except yourself


practice practice practice
 Quoting: Salt


practice, exactly right
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
practice
never avoid
push ahead
keep being around people
and take the focus off yourself
stay focused on anything and everything except yourself


practice practice practice
 Quoting: Salt


^This
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
there's no way to change that....that's what you are. so you have to act as if you're not possessed by social anxiety.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Start going out. Slowly.
You don't even have to talk to anyone.
Once you are comfortable with your surroundings, pick a new target. You might even start ... enjoying it.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
For me, goals are achieved by stepping through fear, not around it.

Instead of fearing possible consequences, accept them ahead of time as the worst that can happen. Then take some risks socially that will seem frightful at first, and see if it works out better or worse than you imagined it would.

The only way to find out, is to take the leap, over and over if you have to, socially. Eventually the good will outweigh the bad.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19157644


ya I think it just boils down to me being a pussy and not taking control of my life and hating myself for it, thus; the mental issues
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
For me, goals are achieved by stepping through fear, not around it.

Instead of fearing possible consequences, accept them ahead of time as the worst that can happen. Then take some risks socially that will seem frightful at first, and see if it works out better or worse than you imagined it would.

The only way to find out, is to take the leap, over and over if you have to, socially. Eventually the good will outweigh the bad.
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I forgot to log in, this is me.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Paxil, if it's really that bad. It changed my life. I don't think anyone had worse social anxiety than me. And the great thing is I eventually got off the medicine and was still fine socially. I'm not one to push meds, but sometimes you have to.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 51021607


my sister has been pushing it on me for years. my problem now is that now its getting in the way of my studies and work so you might be right. I gotta get health insurance first, maybe a new job will do the trick
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


I would really freak out at work when in meetings and I had to speak, or any time attention was on me. Even among family sometimes it was bad. Trust me, I know exactly what you are going through and it's horrible. The Paxil changed my life. I felt like I was free to be me. I wasn't afraid or worried any more and it felt so good just to be able to talk to people. I hope it works out for you.

hf
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
For me, goals are achieved by stepping through fear, not around it.

Instead of fearing possible consequences, accept them ahead of time as the worst that can happen. Then take some risks socially that will seem frightful at first, and see if it works out better or worse than you imagined it would.

The only way to find out, is to take the leap, over and over if you have to, socially. Eventually the good will outweigh the bad.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19157644


ya I think it just boils down to me being a pussy and not taking control of my life and hating myself for it, thus; the mental issues
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


stop beating yourself up
most people develop anxieties because at one point they served to protect
then these defenses no longer were useful
and turn destructive
but the habit is formed

just tell yourself that this protection is no longer necessary
and that you have a habit of being anxious around ppl
and you are no alone
quazillions of ppl have this bad habit
salt has had social anxiety most of her life
she refused to let it reign or govern because it no longer served
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
For me, goals are achieved by stepping through fear, not around it.

Instead of fearing possible consequences, accept them ahead of time as the worst that can happen. Then take some risks socially that will seem frightful at first, and see if it works out better or worse than you imagined it would.

The only way to find out, is to take the leap, over and over if you have to, socially. Eventually the good will outweigh the bad.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19157644


I forgot to log in, this is me.
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thanks for the advice brother. I don't know how our ancestors got through life without the internet
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
Really good mdma with some friends
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
For me, goals are achieved by stepping through fear, not around it.

Instead of fearing possible consequences, accept them ahead of time as the worst that can happen. Then take some risks socially that will seem frightful at first, and see if it works out better or worse than you imagined it would.

The only way to find out, is to take the leap, over and over if you have to, socially. Eventually the good will outweigh the bad.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 19157644


ya I think it just boils down to me being a pussy and not taking control of my life and hating myself for it, thus; the mental issues
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 54793314


People that have social anxiety know that it is not easy to overcome. You can try to take leaps all day long and it just doesn't work out. Your heart races, your head spins, you stutter and stammer, can't think straight.
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Re: how do you cope with really bad social anxiety
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This is what I do. I was married for over 30 years and my wife died of cancer. I had a friend that kept insisting I needed to go out and do things. He finally convinced me to join a billiards team.

So I have to play a lot of young people who are very good at billiards. It was very intimidating and instead of having fun I would get all stressed out, embarassed and humiliated getting my ass kicked every week.

So I started taking Sam-e right before I went to play. It took all the stress away and I could "zone in" and focus on playing. Now I am having fun and win most of the time. No more stress. Sam-e is just a suppliment and natural to the body. It goes to the brain and helps the nuro transmitters between the brain cell communicate and relaxes you.


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