Wife sits on her ass all day watching tv while I work 70 hours a week

why do all the nonsense threads get so many pages of replies here? small minds

She's depressed, and you are partly responsible.

I suggest asking her to get a part-time job doing something she really likes. After awhile, something better may come up. Otherwise, you're fucked.

i agree she might be depressed... she might even be sick somehow and not realize it. i don't think its your "fault" and it probably isn't her "fault" either. you weren't firm enough when you let her quit her job, now you need to be firm that she needs to see someone for a few months and figure out what's going on, because it sounds like this isn't in-line with her personality.

You are awake and explains your reaching out to glp friends for advice. She may not be as aware as you, and nothing you can do will change that. My husband won't discuss topics covered here on glp with me either - I still love him though, and he gives me a different perspective. Find some common ground with you wife. What do you both enjoy? Movies, cooking, baby animals? Do.you have pets? A dog would give her something to play with and an incentive to exercise.

Last Edited by ruser on 04/23/2014 08:07 PM

There is the problem. You working at home. She does not know what to do with you around all the time! She needs her own space she's foolish not getting a part time job or volunteering. She feels watched all the time so she keeps it simple.

Last Edited by Virgo10 on 04/23/2014 08:08 PM

This Iranian is correct

You are doing it wrong, my wife works 70 hrs a week and travels out if town every other week.

I sit home watch tv, eat, drink and play house hubby.

Women want equality-fine- you can equally take care of me as a house hubby as we have done for hundreds if not thousands of years while women stayed home.

Men use to hunt for food, women like hunting for the money.

I say hunt your all mighty dollar and when the tough times come I will hunt for our survival.

The relationship between you and your wife is more than who works for some corporate greed fuck and who stays home to work making sure the homestead is fine.

Bottom line, going out to work or staying home taking care of things is still work.

From my experience being a stay at home dad for 2 yrs has been more work than I ever put up with in the Corporate world.

Stay at home moms and dads jobs are 24/7, we are the true work force!!

So, give your wife a hug and tell her you appreciate everything she does. Cause I promise you she does a lot more than you know.

If you are just married to a lazy person, move on, but quit your bitching.

Life is tough you can either do it alone or learn patience while getting through it with some one you care about.

Don't make it a"I do more than you" situation. You will always be unhappy and fail. Make it a" we each take care of each other" and yes some work harder than others but if you love your wife tell her your concerns in a meaningfull way and work it out.

Damn it man there's more to life than petty squabbles with the women you married.

Money IS the root of evil.

So post a link to the thread you think is important. Theres lots of other threads with replies besides this one.

Counseling would be a good idea. You can sort through whether you are really right for each other but just need to resolve/heal some issues. Or if you are fundamentally mis-matched. If so, it would be best to find out for sure and then take steps to end the marriage so you can both be happier.

If she refuses to go to counseling, you have your answer.

Maybe she is sweet on pedro the gardner

the person who stays home and take care of the details of life while you work 70 hours is bored and needs outlets like tv and the internet to not go crazy. i agree it should not be her whole life.

if she went to work she'd make peanuts compared to your career that has never been interruped. do you want her to tell you to stop going out to lunch because you spend more on lunches than she makes all month?

and lets face it, you'd still expect her to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, preparing for guests, meeting the furnace fixing guy, setting up your dr appointments, etc etc. and if she suddenly got "work oriented" there'd be a new thread about how your wife cares more about her job than you.

the worker always resents the home body.

however, i do think couples who break up the work this way (one high-powered worker and one person to take care of home) end up with more money and a less stressful lifestyle.

and there ain't much to do about it but count your blessings.

Welcome to the club

Divorce that bitch. She prob sets at home a masterbates all day thinking of tall and very dark men.

Good grief.
Im lucky to be a stay at home mom. But I bust my ass daily. Its so.easy to cry "depression" all the time.
Shes lazy. She needs to get off her ass and do something. If you work 70 hours a week- she should be contributing her half by holding up the household tasks.
shes just lazy.

I hear you. These are long term, almost spiritual concerns but with pending ramifications either way. I do indeed count my blessings, as it could be so much worse. I am blessed in many ways. But change is nature.

Brother! If she is loving, loyal and dedicated then allow her to find herself or tell her to kick rocks.

You should stop working completely.
The situation is not going to get any better.
This kind of thing always gets worse, or if it is as bad as it can possibly be, then it certainly isn't going to get better.

find out if she has some sort of a goal or some little business she has always wanted to do. lots of women do home based business' for little investment. Creativity is good for everyone involved, she will be more happy, you will be more happy, etc.

Now if she is just a lazy leech and wants you to pay for the rest of her life, time to move to plan b.

Try the nurturing and mentoring route first and good luck with that and your health.

Since you work at home, you could move to another home. Just leave her and don't tell her where you went. I'd be so tempted to do that, but that's just me.

BRING HER BONBONS CHEEEEZZZY POOFS AND A 40OZ!

The pic is in the signature.

Whatever you do don't have kids with her, op, or you'll really be "paying" for something whether you're divorced by then or not.

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Maybe you should suggest she have some blood work done to see why she has no energy. Who knows there may BE a physical issue or depression.

If there's a clean bill of health find something she's interested in as stated in the post above. She's probably not thrilled at having to leave the house to go to work while you're sitting home.. regardless of whether you're working or not.

Discuss these things.. it's not healthy for anyone to sit around all day watching that junk. Encourage her to make some goals.. or do it together. Your goals.. her goals.. together goals. You all can't be that old.. what a waste.

Its stupid to consider divorcing over this. You said you love her.. love her enough to find out what the underlying problem is. Cuddle her after making love and inquire.. we're all vulnerable and more likely to "open up" at that time.

And yes.. Jesus could change your whole view of life and what's truly important but I won't go there : )

I think you married up

How is her ass? If nice and let you use it, don't complain and return back to work.