Did Hospice Care Murder Your Loved One? Tell Us Your Story On This Thread

My fellas dad died of cancer a couple of years ago. He died about 20 minutes after his two boys arrived at the hospital - they both had to travel to get there. My fella was always consoled by this, but I spoke to his brother recently and he said a nurse came in, turned up the morphine drip and that is why he died, not because he held on, but because the nurses held off killing him.

I don't understand why hospices would use slow painful ways to kill patients when they can just send em to sleep permanently

With all this said if I am ever in hospice I hope they kill me right away.

So that is what they were doing to my Nonno. He said, "Every half-an-hour-a, they come-a with-a the salt-a water".

He got better and lived though.

I know you don't want health professionals to post but I'd like to add what I was taught.

When death is coming in the near future and through the disease process the patient goes unconscious (not because of drugs or treatments but through the disease) then withholding fluids increases the concentrations of electrolytes which decreases the pain felt. Thus this is an act of kindness.

The use of opiates though does concern me add I have seen many times them being used to hasten death through causing respiratory depression. The way they get it off this legally is that the so called primary intent is to relieve pain and the respiratory depression is a secondary side effect. We all know this is bull though and the drugs are being used to knock them off but nobody is willing to have an open discussion about this as they perceive this to be unpalatable to society.

I am an ER and cardiac RN.

Sounds about right. A friend's friend's mother was given morphine (and she died), but was not experiencing pain to begin with. This was in hospital though, not hospice.

When I read the title to this thread, my jaw dropped and memories of my Grandmothers death flashed before my eyes. See she was in Hospice care in the hospital and they denied her any fluids because she had a DNR. Mind you she wasn't unconscious..she had a heart attack that killed part of her heart. Anyhow...one day while I was in the room visiting her, I had brought her a cup of McDonalds tea which she requested. Right as soon as she started to take a drink out of the straw the nurse walked in and had a total shit fit because I was giving it to her. She then advised to me that she was not allowed to have any liquids or food ever and that they had all been taken away from her so that she could die a peaceful death and that me doing so was just prolonging her pain. To this day it haunts me that I didn't stand my ground and fight the nurse and let her have it anyhow. My poor grandmother if you could have seen her face when the nurse said that. All she did after that was close her eyes and refused to talk to anyone again....then she passed away days later.

I looked it up and this is the first story I found. Wow, OP you opened up the can of rotting worms for sure! So right you are about this epidemic of evil parasites.

[link to www.washingtonpost.com]

After you lose someone without hospice, you will understand

You do know hospice is for dying patients, that cannot be cured, don't you? Instead of criticizing like a little bitch, why don't you get your nursing degree or md and go show everybody how it's done?

I fullt understand losing someone without hospice as well/ Just 2 weeks ago I lost mt sister, whom which was a nurse, to brain cancer. She understood hospice an herself chose not to go that route. She lived through her fight at home with family taking care of her up until 30 hrs before her death and then she was hospitalized with no hospice care per her request.

sorry about the typo's .....fully not fullt

Some people are just not mature enough to handle death which is a fact of life and will be coming to you as well

Oh yes that happened too. Fuck them.

There is no such thing as a "doomed" cancer patient.
There is no one cure for cancer.
THERE ARE MANY CURES FOR CANCER!

Put yourself in the hands of "orthodox" medicine though,
and your ass belongs to the Mohicans.
Cut you, burn you, poison you until you expire.

If you stayed home and did absolutely NOTHING
you'd last longer.

Google palliative care. They have choices of medicines for people who are really suffering. End stage suffering. The flip is a lot of articles talk about the hormones and chemicals the body is designed to release when someone is getting ready to pass. A lot of stories of the mental acceptance by patient was there in both cases ie: with or without palliative care. There is also debates about when to call in hospice. They offer a lot of services, not just medical for the patient. Also, Final Exit is a service people use too but they are always getting sued because they use a heliim tank hood method, I watched a frontline about them. They believe people have death rights outside of their family, doctors, clergy or lawyers beliefs. Regardless, I have always been told the person dying is ok and it is the people left behind that aren't. They are the ones sad confused and missing their loved one.

Selfish delusional pricks

Helium Tank Hood???
Why not just stick your loved one in the front seat
of the car and pipe in some exhaust?

Where are these evil people coming from?

This is another signpost on the depraved
path America is on.

[link to www.finalexitnetwork.org]

I think only the person ill can signup and you have to be mentally stable when you do.

Touchy subject and different beliefs across age groups, religions, doctors, families. sorry for anyone losing a loved one.

Ebola had me thinking the other day but I imagine noone would help them in "end stage ebola".

this time of year is popular

for tax reasons

why were they taken there?

My father killed my grandmother that way the bastard, she was not terminal. I have no contact with the monster.

well I can tell you this some in that profession are sick of that bullshit and are breaking away from that procedure.

True story, and I don't believe too far off topic. Years back, my father had fought cancer for about ten years, but when it spread quickly into his lungs and brain, he chose to
end his life by starvation, including no fluids. I came to visit off and on.

Hospice DID check in daily, but it was my step-mom who made the ultimate decision to honor how wishes, although us siblings were horrified. Unfortunately my dad, at 85 was very healthy, aside from the cancer, jogging every morning for five miles, eating right and possibly this caused his passing to take longer than expected.

At one period, he changed his mind. Unfortunately it was too late, his organs were already shutting or shut down. Watching him at end was horrific, he didn't even resemble himself, looked like a POW. I don't harbor ill feelings towards my step-mom or family members that gave in, but to this day the image I have of him is how he looked at the end.

I wonder how many others might have family or know of someone that went this path to end their journey of life here sooner.

Ohhh, well I guess you traumatized gods should just get a lawyer and sue hospice for your loved ones death.

I have had 3 family members on hospice, one my grandmother 4 heart surgeries wanted no more but she had water till she died , 2 weeks .
Then my brother at 49 had 2 strokes & an aneurysm, really he should have died but lived 2 years. He could not walk , eat or drink by himself and laid in a bed all that time our advanced medical technology saves many that would die naturally so double edge sword.
Then my mother-inlaw had stroke and aneurysm in ER ,in her 70s but had water till died, 1 week . I have seen and understand God is in charge of Life and Death no matter what , if he wants that Doctor to save you He will , if He wants a bolt of lighting to take you it will. My brother lived long enough to ask Jesus in his life and be Baptized then he died.

Tough thing our medical care , good thread thanks for posting

Allopathic "medicine" and all it's peripheral systems are profit whores that kill.

Yeah they recently killed a family friend. The loving husband pulled all life support after e broke her neck. She died 3 days later.