Well no actually, it shows none of those things.
I had this same accusation from in laws who actually said it - and I'll tell you what, it hurt tremendously for spoiled brand name only well off family to presume and accuse us 1) that we spent no thought when we actually did, 2) and that from now on we could buy their children just gift cards -
It hurt tremendously.
To this day the presumptions and assumptions that they made impact the relationship.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 66515946 Exactly. That's why this has so many people riled up. To actually say and do those things is A HUGE breech in social decorum. Some here might argue that mearly HAVING the thought is outside of etiquette.
Ever see that episode of Gilligans Island where they could read each other's minds after eating a special nut? They wound up hating each other by the climax of the episode for this reason.
Thurston: Ready, Lovey?
Lovey: Ready. (They each eat one magic seed) Rather like the flavor of truffles, haven't they?
Thurston: Never mind what they taste like. Let's just see if they work.
Lovey: I think a little hollandaise sauce would improve them.
Thurston: This isn't a recipe contest. Now, Lovey, think of something.
Lovey: All right. Ready.
Thurston: You've changed your mind. Instead of hollandaise sauce you think they'd taste better with sauce béarnaise.
Lovey: Oh darling, how clever of you! You read my mind exactly.
Thurston: Yes, now I'll think of something. Better take a booster shot.
Lovey: Really Thurston, how can you?
Thurston: But, Lovey-
Lovey: I don't mind your stealing from the other, but to steal seeds from your own wife. Why did I ever marry you?