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POLL: Wife asks me tonight, "What if Christmas 'thank you' cards really said what we thought?"
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Exactly. That's why this has so many people riled up. To actually say and do those things is A HUGE breech in social decorum. Some here might argue that mearly HAVING the thought is outside of etiquette.
Ever see that episode of Gilligans Island where they could read each other's minds after eating a special nut? They wound up hating each other by the climax of the episode for this reason.
Quoting: TheBiss It has nothing to do with "breaching social decorum". It has everything to do with the heart of the RECIPIENT. Look again at your letter. That is from your heart. If your heart values name brands, YOU will resent the person giving YOU a non branded item. The fault then is YOU. NOT THE GIFT GIVER. But to cover up your own decrepit ungrateful heart, YOU will accuse the gift giver as the cheap one - never accusing YOURSELF of being a brand only lover. But if one year, you have this brand name only covetness ripped out of YOUR heart, the gift-gifter will not be accused by YOU any longer when they give you a non brand name gift. See? To me, it more indicates that the gift giver didn't take the time to choose a gift that would, with the same amount of money, indicate thought and caring for the recipient. But not everyone has the time and/or EMOTIONAL WHEREWITHAL to do that. Some people are just too busy or shut off or whatever. Or men.  Here we go again - accusing people of motives that are not reality in nearly all the cases. It's always easier to blame the gift giver than to examine what lays in our own heart. It's always easier to blame the gift giver of putting "no thought or emotional wherewithal" into their gift than to be honest with ourselves, or to admit our own ungratefulness. Always. I asked for a soft fuzzy robe this year. And I got one, the brightest purple ever. Not my cup of tea, but I wear it regardless because I was THANKFUL FOR THE GIFT AND IN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF THE ONE WHO BOUGHT IT FOR ME. I think every last person using the accusation "no thought or emotional wherewithal" need to change tacts - be honest, tell them all exactly what you want, give them the exact model, color and style - then they alone are happy.THAT is an excellent idea, and exactly why we do just that in our family. 
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