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POLL: Wife asks me tonight, "What if Christmas 'thank you' cards really said what we thought?"
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Quoting: Anonymous Coward 66515946 SNIP But as the OP posted above, in SOME cases, there truly IS no thought or caring about the gift recipient. Two examples from my own experience: 1. Getting the exact same electric knife three holidays apart from my sister-in-law. (Probably saw them on sale and stocked up.) 2. Getting a two dollar bottle of wine from a very affluent, although casual, friend who knows that my husband and I know and appreciate good wine. (And, no, this was NOT a joke; she meant this to be a serious gift.) (Btw, we have since agreed to just not exchange gifts at all, giving the excuse that we would rather spend the money on our IMMEDIATE families.) The electric knife wouldn't be so bad, as it did involve some money, and would be terrific to regift. If people are giving you those things over and over, you're probably not expecting much in the way of thoughtful gifts.
The two-dollar bottle of wine was just weird. I wonder what you gave them, just out of curiousity. You obviously don't have to share that. Casual friends don't usually exchange gifts.On a different note, some people give gifts based on what they observe that you like, and that can be good or superfluous (sp?), but shows a good effort.  I said "casual friend" to keep it simple, but this was actually my husband's co-worker and his wife. We socialize with them about six times a year. (Btw, both he and my husband earn a six-figure income.) To answer your question, we have always given a CUSTOM gift basket with at least one bottle of GOOD wine and assorted cheeses to them, and they always reciprocated with one or two bottles of wine and a few homemade goodies (which we very much appreciate). In return, we have always given them AT LEAST one bottle of fairly expensive wine. (We are all people who enjoy good food and fine.) However, even after the cheap wine "insult", we still continued to socialize and be friendly, as though nothing untoward had happened -- and we still gave them a good bottle of wine this year, despite the "insult", as to which I have absolutely no explanation. The only thing I can imagine is that the bottle they gave us was a re-gift, and they had no idea it was so cheap. (Btw, this year, they did give us a nice bottle of wine -- so who knows?) Hearing all that I would totally chalk that up to error. Don't let it get ya down - doesn't sound like they were meaning to give you swill. I can come up with 10 scenarios in 2 minutes that all end up with them meaning well. I don't even know where you buy a $2 bottle of wine. The cheapest I've EVER seen is 5 buck chuck at Trader Joe's and unless you notice the price tag it's not necessarily bad - some are downright great. I've also had some $30 bottles that are truly awful. I'm definitely prefer Spanish reds and Australian whites to any French though so maybe I have bad taste ;)
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