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Message Subject I've stopped freaking out after every minor misfortune and it's really annoying my wife!
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We've been running out of money for years, yet we always make it. We've been fired, but we've found a new job soon after. All kind of shit happens on a regular basis.

I used to freak out every time something happened, but no more. I don't care anymore. What happens, happens. Since I am not a clairvoyant, I can't prevent bad things from happening. So why freak out? I've quit worrying about stuff I can't do anything about.

IT DRIVES MY WIFE CRAZY! She can't handle my being so casual and just dealing with adversity when it hits - but not before.

She keeps nagging about how irresponsible and immature I am for not constantly worrying about the future or wringing my hands every time we run a but short of money. And when something happens, she's all about "I told you so! Now what are we going to do, eh? This is the end, I tell you! The end!". Ok, so if you knew it, why didn't you do anything about it, you silly woman?! It seems as if she wants to live in fear and, even even though she can't do anything about them, she has some kind of a need to worry about future events. To her, not worrying oneself to death is immature and irresponsible. How? I don't know.
 Quoting: Calm dude 65088649


Its more about empathy and recognition and burden..some people will worry about life while others dont..and it is often complex and complicated when two opposing people are partners with clearly opposite values, attitudes and viewpoints..sometimes this can work well if the chilled person can ampathise and help de stress their partners to relax and chill more..or can at least appreciate the other persons perspective.but it can also seem like the chilled person just doesnt care

So while it might seem to be good to be able to not care about problems it may drive the other person nuts because they feel the burden is always placed on them...as lets be honest there are also lazy people who place all the burdens of life onto others for and easy ride too..and often learn the skill to just remain deaf and blind to the nagging or drama. Lol.

Mutual understanding and empathy are a useful...to find balances and compromises
 
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