married woman no affair except friendship

Yeah ok BUT is she ugly, fat? stupid looking? Probably, not, OP. You both know what you're doing and it STINKS I TELL YA! IT STINKS!

I got that wife pussy/
I got that wife pussy/
I got that wife pussy/
I got that pussy on lock!

This.

This x 100000000000000

Men do not waste ANY time with a woman unless he wants to fuck her.

Go back to Facebook and LinkedIn, op. This is GLP. We speak of truth here.

This.

My spouse tried this bs with opposite sex coworkers, claiming lunches were okay because they were just friends. Then my spouse admitted to cheating. Then my spouse spent two miserable years looking for a new job because it was the right thing to do if our marriage was going to survive.

I told them to either give me a quick divorce if they wanted the person they were cheating with or shut down all social media, including LinkedIn, which is the worst for cheating coworkers to hang out on, and to stop ALL coworker lunches and "walks" or I was leaving for good.

To this day I do not trust my spouse and I absolutely despise social media.

Oh yeah, unless you leave your job and start somewhere new, you'll be miserable not being able to "see" you coworker "friend".

Anyone who has an emotional or physical affair at work and then realizes they don't want a divorce is just playing the spouse. If they really love you, they leave that place where temptation exists and makes sure to never let it happen again at new job.

BTW, I'm getting ready to file for divorce. After all this be I've been through, I'm not in love anymore.

Be careful with having opposite sex friends if you are married, once the spouse that is cheated on feelsike second best, its natural to start to fall out of love and consider them your best friend.

And Americans have guns, lol.

The good thing is, I'm finally happy again. My spouse is a liar. A cheater. And is now starting to look horrible as age and stress are taking its toll. A guilty conscious is the absolute worst thing for one's health. When I see them now, I am completely turned off, their once beautiful face looks old and haggard.

Oh, and op, don't think your wife doesn't already know. I knew my spouse was emotionally attached long before the confession of cheating. Most spouses can tell when something is not right. I often think God awakens us to certain behaviors so we can gtfo of a bad situation.

"We agreed neither one of us wants trouble."

Sounds like sexual tension to me.

And the longer you cheat, the more the other spouse will come away with. I allowed my spouse to do things behind my back for aong time. The fact that theyied so easily was what made it easy for me to leave with no tears.

Your wife will leave you, op. And the woman you are cheating with will NIT leave her husband.

The problem is your ego.

Its always ego that gets cheaters in these situations.

And the longer you cheat, the more the other spouse will come away with. I allowed my spouse to do things behind my back for a long time. The fact that they lied so easily was what made it easy for me to leave with no tears.

Your wife will leave you, op. And the woman you are cheating with will NOT leave her husband.

The problem is your ego.

Its always ego that gets cheaters in these situations.

And word to others that are going through this: if your spouse cheats with a coworker and then doesn't want a divorce, but doesn't get a new job, you are just getting lied to again.

Yup...

<We agreed neither one of us wants trouble>

Uh.

This one statement negates everything else you said in your post.

yall are falling in love. tsk. tsk.

Lawyers come next

Male and female lawyers are the best liars.

Never trust a lawyer.

No. As a man, I think you want to fuck this woman. Most men are hardwired to fuck 85% of the women they meet. If this friendship is truly just that then you will have no trouble telling your wife and her husband about it and getting their opinion/feelings. Unless, you are gay, then there should be no sexual tension.

Now, I KNOW her husband doesn't approve of you showing her your lenses...No way in hell-

Sounds like you're in lurve with her OP, its even worse.

OP, your relationship is completely selfish. My husband had the same kind of "friendship" for years with a woman he worked with. They did exactly what you are doing, took walks, had lunch and confided in each other. They also fell in love.

I won't waste time writing how their "office friendship" destroyed me. He pleaded with me to stay and said he didn't love her when he realized he would lose me but I just could never get over the lies and deceit that went on for years while I had no idea this "friend" at his work meant so much to him. She was divorced with 2 children and once he realized she only wanted a husband so she could stay home, he smartened up to why she was so nice to him.

The beginning of all relationships are fireworks and excitement. Then reality sets in. He lost a devoted wife and his job security and then lost his job due to some other problems he was having at work after everything fell apart. I also found some texts that were never deleted and to this day I cannot forget the words they exchanged in their playful flirting from the beginning of their "friendship". You see, my husband never flirted with me the way he did with her. He never took walks with me. He was a good husband, I did love him, but I had no idea he had this other side to him. I decided he should go for it, be her friend. I left him on our anniversary, which was also his birthday. I loved him enough to let him be free to go be with her.

Turns out that woman was having 3 affairs at her office. She did not want my husband. She only wanted the attention and the option to have him...and to control him. Women like to control.

He lives alone now. I think he learned the hard way that if you've got a good thing already, don't be greedy. We were best friends, or so I thought. We had what I thought was a great marriage.

I'm now finally healed from all the pain I went through. If you really loved your wife, you'd never do what you are doing. You're just selfish. And I'm pretty sure the woman you are friends with at work is doing this with lots of other male coworkers, she is certainly not a respectable woman, if she'll do this to her current husband, she'll do it to you some day.

My husband thought he could just apologize and act like it was nothing. It was something. It hurt me like nothing else ever had. Their "friendship" was an affair.

That was 7 years ago. Its taken me that long to heal, but I'm pain free now. I actually feel bad for people like you. You don't even know how to be self disciplined with these types of things, you're probably chaotic in other areas of your life.

When you truly love someone, its easy to say no to office romances and "lunches" with female coworkers. You obviously don't love your wife.

If you share with her things you don't share with your wife, or if you worry about how either spouse would react to seeing how the two of you interact then it's probably not ok, or too close.

Hour long walks are courting, and you and she are deceiving yourselves and your spouses. You can have friendly chats in the office but bearing lenses of your soul, hour long walking and talking is another name for 'dating'.

Very good advice. If you wouldn't want them doing it then don't do it yourself.

True!

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