Today was trying again, with my mother. My brother and I have received input from all the medical people who have cared for my mother, and they all say, 24/7 care or a nursing home. :(
It has really got to that point. We are going to look into a short stay for her, just to give everyone a break.
I got a call from her a little after 8am. My husband answered the phone, as I was in the bathroom.She said she had the flu and needed cough syrup,and she can't get a hold of my brother. She said she gets a message from the operator
(recorded message) to put 1 before the number, or the area code. He is local, and lives closer to her than I do. Most of the time, she cannot dial a phone number correctly. So, I try calling my brother, but there is no answer. He went out to eat breakfast before church.
He checked his caller ID when he got home,called here, and went and bought her cough syrup. It turns out she had a full unopened bottle on her dresser. :(
So, the church he goes to, has a service earlier than mine, so he gets to my mothers a bit earlier than me. She was scooting around the house in her walker before I got there, and then went to bed just before I came over. She had said nothing, before she went to lay down, about her recyclables and garbage needing to go out.I filled her oxygen machine water container, stayed for a bit, then left. My brother stayed there longer,took out the lawn waste bags, and then left, as she was still sleeping.
I get a call from her again at 4pm. She is frantic about her garbage and recyclables not going out.She said she is so weak and sick with the flu, that she cannot get out of bed, and needs someone to stay with her overnight. My oldest just walks in my door. She volunteers to go over my mothers to take out her recyclables and garbage. My daughter stays there for a bit, to visit and do other things for her that my mother requested.She told my mother she cannot stay overnight, but will be there early tomorrow morning, as usual.My oldest sits with her grandma on Monday's and Wednesdays.
As soon as my daughter comes back into my door, my phone is ringing again. It is my brother. My mother must have called him as soon as my daughter left. She claims she is starving, and has not eaten all day, which is not true. She told my brother that he needs to come over her house immediately, and open up a can of soup for her. My brother is about ready to pull his hair out in total frustration. He goes over there and opens a can of soup for her.
We have all got to the point, where we can no longer handle all of this. I am waiting for more calls from her tonight. :(
Sorry for the wall of text. Prayers,please !!!