Your posts brought up a thought.

If you can't beat them - join them.
and I mean ask them to join you both in going to church. Yes, I know that seems silly, but it reminds me of a situation from my youth.

My first job was in a small post office. We had a woman come in who used to throw her money at us under the grille and demand a postage stamp. I was shocked the first time, but the other two girls said that they always just throw the stamp back at her, so I did the same. When I told my mother, she told me to try and be nice to her, so ever afterwards I used to smile and try and engage her in conversation. I worked there for 18 months and nothing changed. I moved to another post office for 8 months and then joined the Main post office. Now being a trainee Civil Service we were given a mentor for a month. One day the miserable woman came in, smiled and said hello to me and wanted a stamp. The mentor looked at me astonished. He told me he had been serving that woman for many years and she had always been rude.

NEVER GIVE UP. Persistence may pay off in the end.
atmp.