Newly single dad of 6 mos after 20 years of marriage. How do I relate to my kids?

what are their birthday - and your ex whore wife

Keep things interesting by doing this you all enjoy, including things you like. You may open them up to new interests that way. Do you like to fish? I loved going fishing with my dad when I a young girl. Take them hiking, teach them how to use a gun and self defense, etc...

When the weather's good, take them camping or sight seeing. Outdoors are the things they will remember in the years ahead. What a terrible thing your wife did. I know a couple people who have/had wives that were spenders like that although I can't say they racked up that much in debt. Enjoy being a single dad and don't hop in the sack with the first thing that comes along. This spending thing is like a gambling addiction.

Hey just wanted to tell u that laughter is key at their age....really at any age!!! just communication talkin to them ask them about their life, being involve!!! play games like charades which u can make extremely fun!!! Good luck and God bless

First of all, total liar and made up story in order to continue to propagate the misogynistic bullshit that the right-wing crazies who now "run" this site love. (Along with anyi-gay and racist posts that are nearly identical to this one.)

Second, even if this is true (which it's not), doesn't this belong on the pink female site they spun off GLP? Because this is soft, feminine crying and it would look better in pink.

Third, isn't this a conspiracy site? So OP, Please indulge me... what conspiracies do you find interesting that brought you here? What we're some of the topics that intrigued to become a member of a conspiracy message board but then feel the need to u burden yourself of this very personal problem which has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with conspiracies or the main purpose and function of this board?

Girls learn what it is like to be around men from their fathers. If you are distant or mean or controlling then they may end up with distant, mean and controlling men (I am not saying this is how you are). So....have the character you would like to see in a son in law....responsible, respectful, loving, involved, etc.

Just be there for them. Women need to be listened to without you trying to fix everything for them or do something to make it all okay. The listening gives them time to get it all out and then they can fix whatever it is themselves. So instead of wondering what activities they need and how much they cost....just relate and communicate and above all, listen. If you foster this then they will let you know if there is something they would like to do as a family or one on one.

OP, this is a great example of everything you should NOT be doing....if this guy has kids....they may end up killing themselves....or others

It's all about getting through to your kids on a level they'll understand. I'm in my 20s now, but I grew up in a supremely disjointed household (mom remarried 3 times, dad was basically never around outside of obligations) and I never felt close to my family because none of them were on, or could bring themselves to, the mental and emotional level I was. My personality is very laid back, analytical, and low-emotion, while my mother is the most neurotic and dramatic person I know. Needless to say, it's not easy for us to relate.

The best thing you can do is figure out where your girls lie on that scale (i.e Are they homebodies or do they like to go out? Are they low-emotion and quiet or more expressive? Are they laid back or more high strung?) and try to bring yourself to that level. From there, just tailor their interests to that level. If the 15 year old likes to go out more and enjoys classical music, then maybe it's worth going to the ballet. If she likes to just chill around the house, rent something like Les Mes, make a homemade pizza, and have a movie and cooking night.

Lastly, the best thing you can do, especially as they hit 16, 17, etc. is TREAT THEM LIKE ADULTS. You have no idea how influential the first person that treats your child like an adult will be. Talk to them about their lives on a level beyond just "how was school". Get to know their dreams and aspirations. Ask them about the boys they like. Ask them about their friendships. Hell, let them have a beer or glass of wine as they get a bit older. Just make sure that you never reprimand them or tell them what to do (unless they ask for your opinion) in the midst of those conversations because they'll shut down and just see you as "dad" rather than a friend who also their father. What you ultimately want is them to feel comfortable telling you anything. That kind of communication is what real relationships are built on.

You are at a perfect time in their lives to be the best father imaginable. The teenage years are when they want independence from their mother, and if you really work to listen and be apart of their lives as more than just a father figure, you are going to really build an incredible relationship with your daughters.

Best of luck. I can already tell you are doing better than most dads in this situation.

Beat them savagely until they can say, "I love you, daddy" and you really believe it.

don't settle for some phony play acting.

Nah, that's too mean.
Give them cash and turn them loose at the mall, pick them up at closing time.

He's right, electronics are counter-relationships.

Our family plays Rook. It's fun for all ages, breaks down the most solid of barriers. Very engaging game.

It's holiday season, you can bake cookies together and decorate them. If you are all learning how to bake that will be a real bonding experience, especially if you have to comfort each other if they get burnt.

Also making candy is fun. If you make taffy, you will all have a lot of fun pulling it, it will give those kids a very unique experience that probably none of their friends have done, and also they will have something to give away.

Take them to the fabric store to pick out some fleece and make easy no sew mufflers.

Our kids liked making candles. They liked making those soda-vinegar bombs too.

He's right, electronics are counter-relationships.

Live vicariously through them.

you dont. you are there servant. servants dont relate to their masters - they kiss their ass.

My friends used to come over to our house too and us theirs. My point was that my parents did not pry. They weren't hanging all over us or wanting to do 'activities' with us, especially my Dad. Nobody's Dad did. My parents had their own friends. We were trustworthy kids and very independent. My parents were the 'cool' ones without even trying.

Take them to the zoo.
Retards love the zoo.

Well, first you must :dubya: your ex scum wife in the ass. Work on her ass until your rage is gone.

You've got issues to take care of...after that everything will take care of itself.

Subtle Dead Milkmen reference there...

Actually it is word for word from the first Rocky movie where Gaza's friend is taunting Rocky as they drive away.

In Rocky II he takes Adrian to the zoo... and asks her to marry him. A lot of people didn't catch it, but I love old movies.

I remember that now!

And for the uninitiated...

awww cool.

Take them shooting (not hunting). Cost of bullets is minuscule, and it imparts a very important skill.

Find a pony club and get them riding lessons. Much cheaper than actually buying and owning a horse.

Go to the local thrift stores and see who can buy the coolest things for under $10.

my advice: tell them to never marry and never have kids. Shits a scam.

I'm dating a doctor of psychology now. When I described the problems I was having with my ex, she figured that the ex is suffering from histrionic personality disorder.

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Additional characteristics may include:

Exhibitionist behavior (CHECK)
Constant seeking of reassurance or approval (CHECK)
Excessive sensitivity to criticism or disapproval (CHECK)
Pride of own personality and unwillingness to change, viewing any change as a threat (Not so much here)
Inappropriately seductive appearance or behavior of a sexual nature (CHECK)
Using somatic symptoms (of physical illness) to garner attention (Not so much here)
A need to be the center of attention (CHECK)
Low tolerance for frustration or delayed gratification (CHECK)
Rapidly shifting emotional states that may appear superficial or exaggerated to others (CHECK)
Tendency to believe that relationships are more intimate than they actually are (CHECK)
Making rash decisions[4] (CHECK)
Blaming personal failures or disappointments on others (CHECK)
Being easily influenced by others, especially those who treat them approvingly (CHECK)
Being overly dramatic and emotional[6] (CHECK)

Give them a copy of "Theory of Everything" by Trey Smith.

Give them a quality Bible.

Give them a good solid synopsis of all of your failings, all of your Wife's misdeeds.

Make sure that they understand that whatever path they choose, that they NOT make the mistakes that you did.

Admit to them you are a loser, and don't use yourself as an example for anything but failure.

Truth... can be the best treatment, and may lead to recovery for yourself, as well as them.

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I'm starting to think there may be some truth to this.

AAADRIIAANNN!!

Take this lady ice skating, bro.

Yeah that's funny, too.
Retards on Ice!