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Going through a divorce. Need support.

 
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Don't pay for a lawyer, you'll just pay more in the end.
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Don't pay for a lawyer, you'll just pay more in the end.
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Divorce industry is sickening, profiting on separations.

Every faucet of our lives are profiteered.

Ugh
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Put your trust in Jesus! Read the book of John. Get to know the Savior! hugs

If you don't feel like reading. You can watch a dramatization of the Book of John word for word here:



You are loved. Seek out the creator God! hf
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I'm trying to find God, but I don't think He's listening. How can I be so sure God is even real at this point?
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Thank you all for the support and advice. I really do appreciate it!
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Not to play word games, but your world, in my opinion, isn't "ending", it's changing. Feels like the end but if you take it a day at a time and don't shut out your friends you'll get through it.

Hiding, feeling ashamed, becoming distant for those who want to be there for you won't help, it'll prolong the pain.

New habits, new routines, it can be done. I got divorced after 25 years, was single for about 7 and married the greatest woman in the world about 8 years ago. Seems like 8 weeks, that's how great it is.

There IS hope though it's hard to see right now.

My sympathies and my support are both with you, hang in there.
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Put your trust in Jesus! Read the book of John. Get to know the Savior! hugs

If you don't feel like reading. You can watch a dramatization of the Book of John word for word here:



You are loved. Seek out the creator God! hf
 Quoting: Coppercoal


I'm trying to find God, but I don't think He's listening. How can I be so sure God is even real at this point?
 Quoting: Quetzal785


Think about the support most people are giving you here...

He doesn't always knock and say, "Hey, it's me, God!"...
"Socialism only works in two places: Heaven where they don't need it and hell, where they already have it." Ronald Reagan

The trouble with our liberal friends is not that they're ignorant; it's just that they know so much that isn't so." Ronald Reagan

"Government's view of the economy could be summed up in a few short phrases: If it moves, tax it. If it keeps moving, regulate it. If it stops moving, subsidize it." Ronald Reagan
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I feel bad for you! Please hang in there. This world sucks so bad! Pls keep going.
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why you getting divorced? u have kids? how long married?
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
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guh. why have kids without the gift of sacred marriage? why marry someone you wouldnt have married right away? why force it if you both werent crazy about each other to begin with?

ah fuck it. it was doomed from the beginning and you two fuck ups have fucked up your kids. congratulations for being dishonest and fucking up this world with your confusion and selfish acts AND your offspring.

time to grow up and stop being a weeping human being. there is no excuse for not knowing right (good) from wrong (evil). time to get a fucking grip, man.
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why you getting divorced? u have kids? how long married?
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
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guh. why have kids without the gift of sacred marriage? why marry someone you wouldnt have married right away? why force it if you both werent crazy about each other to begin with?

ah fuck it. it was doomed from the beginning and you two fuck ups have fucked up your kids. congratulations for being dishonest and fucking up this world with your confusion and selfish acts AND your offspring.

time to grow up and stop being a weeping human being. there is no excuse for not knowing right (good) from wrong (evil). time to get a fucking grip, man.
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im sorry. im in a mood. disregard my mean babbling. good luck to you and yours.
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How a person conducts himself after a divorce is important. Ten years from now, people will know if either spouse was the injuring party. You are starting a new chapter in your life, be upstanding in every way. Imagine that your life is being recorded. Don't do anything rash or hurtful towards your ex-wife. Bad people usually reveal themselves to be thus. Behave yourself and know that someone even better suited will come along.
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been there, done that.

This too shall pass. But for the love of God, DO NOT jump into another relationship right away. Get to know yourself again. Get back on your feet.
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been there, done that.

This too shall pass. But for the love of God, DO NOT jump into another relationship right away. Get to know yourself again. Get back on your feet.
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This is so true. Good advice
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How a person conducts himself after a divorce is important. Ten years from now, people will know if either spouse was the injuring party. You are starting a new chapter in your life, be upstanding in every way. Imagine that your life is being recorded. Don't do anything rash or hurtful towards your ex-wife. Bad people usually reveal themselves to be thus. Behave yourself and know that someone even better suited will come along.
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This.

How a person talks about their ex is very revealing of themselves. Say nothing if you have nothing nice to say. Bad mouthing an ex just makes you look bitter and divisive.

Good luck op. Its a hard thing to to through.
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VERY difficult with children.
My heart goes out to you brother.
What can you control in this?
You can control being there for your children.
You can control taking care of yourself.
You can control making sure you have a nice place
for your children to come to be with you.
You cant control your her.
Realize without a lawyer she can take you to the cleaners.
Pray...pray and keep praying

God Bless
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been there, done that.

This too shall pass. But for the love of God, DO NOT jump into another relationship right away. Get to know yourself again. Get back on your feet.
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If you're the person who left me a PM ,check your Karma please. I left a message there. I couldn't reply because I'm not a full member of GLP. Thank You too.
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Divorce is so hard. Faith in God really helps. I also concur with the ones who say that you need to be on your own for a while. Don't just into a relationship on the rebound. Those usually don't work out.

Have faith in Jesus Christ and trust in Father God. They are the only ones that will stay beside us our whole lives. If you ask Lord Jesus to come into your life and forgive you of your sins, He will stay right there. He is That Good.

You won't be alone with The Lord. It will get better with time, but I know that for right now, your world is turned upside down and your heart hurts. Mine did.
Christard and Lover of God
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been there, done that.

This too shall pass. But for the love of God, DO NOT jump into another relationship right away. Get to know yourself again. Get back on your feet.
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Been there done that as well. That is sound advice.
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why you getting divorced? u have kids? how long married?
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
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guh. why have kids without the gift of sacred marriage? why marry someone you wouldnt have married right away? why force it if you both werent crazy about each other to begin with?

ah fuck it. it was doomed from the beginning and you two fuck ups have fucked up your kids. congratulations for being dishonest and fucking up this world with your confusion and selfish acts AND your offspring.

time to grow up and stop being a weeping human being. there is no excuse for not knowing right (good) from wrong (evil). time to get a fucking grip, man.
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im sorry. im in a mood. disregard my mean babbling. good luck to you and yours.
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It's cool. Sometimes the truth hurts. I wasn't offended by your comments..... any type of help is useful.

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why you getting divorced? u have kids? how long married?
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
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Was Facebook involved in any way?
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why you getting divorced? u have kids? how long married?
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
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Was Facebook involved in any way?
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lmao...as a matter of fact ...she was on that damn thing more than she paid attention to me. I told her about it and she actually told me that no matter what she STILL will be on it more. FUCK FACEBOOK!
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why you getting divorced? u have kids? how long married?
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
 Quoting: Quetzal785


Was Facebook involved in any way?
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lmao...as a matter of fact ...she was on that damn thing more than she paid attention to me. I told her about it and she actually told me that no matter what she STILL will be on it more. FUCK FACEBOOK!
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This isn't surprising. I broke up with an ex because she was so involved with it. What a waste.
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We do have kids... been with her over 10 years been married for 3 years. She just decided she wasn't in love with me anymore. Started working and became more distant from me.
 Quoting: Quetzal785


Was Facebook involved in any way?
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69680905


lmao...as a matter of fact ...she was on that damn thing more than she paid attention to me. I told her about it and she actually told me that no matter what she STILL will be on it more. FUCK FACEBOOK!
 Quoting: Quetzal785


This isn't surprising. I broke up with an ex because she was so involved with it. What a waste.
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Tell me about it. She pay more attention to FB than she did with our kids.
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Was Facebook involved in any way?
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lmao...as a matter of fact ...she was on that damn thing more than she paid attention to me. I told her about it and she actually told me that no matter what she STILL will be on it more. FUCK FACEBOOK!
 Quoting: Quetzal785


This isn't surprising. I broke up with an ex because she was so involved with it. What a waste.
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Tell me about it. She pay more attention to FB than she did with our kids.
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Sucks that there are kids involved. Hope all goes well in the future. Many more fish in the sea, but I would take the advice of another poster and tell you not to jump into another relationship for at least a year.
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Don't do it
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been there and it hurts.

get a dog from a shelter. save a life and have a friend with unrequited love,

it helps.
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I agree. Get a puppy wuppy.
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Tell her you love her and see if she'll consider counciling?

If you're a Christian you can offer up this suffering for the sins, offences, and neglects against the he sacred heart of Jesus...his grace may provide an opportunity to lighten your burden.

God bless.
Fear God and Dread Nought.
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I just want to scream!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Women are emotionally hit hardest after a break-up but men suffer more in the long term and may never truly get over it.

this is what happened to me; don't let it happen to you. get whatever professional help you need to get over the emotional pain if you're having difficulty doing so.

just moving on isn't going to cut it.
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Women are emotionally hit hardest after a break-up but men suffer more in the long term and may never truly get over it.

this is what happened to me; don't let it happen to you. get whatever professional help you need to get over the emotional pain if you're having difficulty doing so.

just moving on isn't going to cut it.
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I would appreciate it if you can link me up with whatever help I can get because I seem to be having a hard time dealing with it. She acts like she does not care. Over 10 years we've been together and she shows absolutely no type of emotion. Any help would be good. I feel like a damn fool for posting this.
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I know I will probably get a lot of negative comments, but hopefully there's someone out there who can give me good advice to help me get through this really hard time in my life.

Why does it feel like my world is coming to an end? Can someone help heal this pain?
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I just wanted to say I'm so sorry. This too shall pass. Spend time with yourself or with close ones who aren't toxic-what ever is the right thing for you. Drink plenty of water. If you can't sleep at night, at least close your eyes and meditate or listen to binaural beats. Eat fruit and vegetables. Limit sugar. Self love/self care. My heart hurts for your heart. Big hug to your soul. You will fly again. I promise ;)
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I know I will probably get a lot of negative comments, but hopefully there's someone out there who can give me good advice to help me get through this really hard time in my life.

Why does it feel like my world is coming to an end? Can someone help heal this pain?
 Quoting: Quetzal785


I just wanted to say I'm so sorry. This too shall pass. Spend time with yourself or with close ones who aren't toxic-what ever is the right thing for you. Drink plenty of water. If you can't sleep at night, at least close your eyes and meditate or listen to binaural beats. Eat fruit and vegetables. Limit sugar. Self love/self care. My heart hurts for your heart. Big hug to your soul. You will fly again. I promise ;)
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Thank you. Those words mean a lot and I will take your advice. I know I can get myself out of this hurt and all of you showing support gives me hope. You all have been great and am amazed by the support this thread has given me.
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Women are emotionally hit hardest after a break-up but men suffer more in the long term and may never truly get over it.

this is what happened to me; don't let it happen to you. get whatever professional help you need to get over the emotional pain if you're having difficulty doing so.

just moving on isn't going to cut it.
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I would appreciate it if you can link me up with whatever help I can get because I seem to be having a hard time dealing with it. She acts like she does not care. Over 10 years we've been together and she shows absolutely no type of emotion. Any help would be good. I feel like a damn fool for posting this.
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My first thought is to talk to your PCP. Ask him/her if they can recommend a good therapist for you to go see. Check with your health insurance company to see if they'll pay.

therapy is about reframing in your mind what has happened to you so that it not as emotionally painful. developing a new perspective about it what's happening.

I don't know if this will work for you but, i recently learned of a technique to allow emotions to flow out of the body.

simply feel the emotion as much as you can and focus on it. it will eventually start to dissipate and flow out of your system. that's what your goal should be, get rid of it, not bottle it up. never swallow down on an emotion.

it might be a little too soon to try this especially if you've got a lot of pain already going on.

good luck to you, it takes time but i know you can get there.





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