Your world is coming to an end. The sooner you grasp that, the better it will be for you going forward. You have been living a life built around a primary relationship, encircled by other people who relate to you in that particular role. You will likely lose a lot of those friends, simply because they are unsure how to relate to you when you aren't a part of the "they" they have known.

I know this sounds shallow, but try not to take it personally when your friends hide in the shadows. You will find that, if they are true friends to you, they'll come around in time. Remember--this also means that part of their world is also coming to an end, and they have to deal with that at their pace, too.

This is a good time to constantly remind yourself that you cannot change other people, but you can change yourself. Whom do you want to be when you "grow up" now? You're about to start growing in a new direction. Please, please don't resort to mind-numbing and endless entertainment. Now is the time to get to know yourself as yourself, so please don't be afraid to do that!

All my best to you. It took me 5 years before I was ready to remarry, and it has been great now for 20 years. Take as much time as you need, and don't make getting into another relationship your priority--getting to know yourself should be your first priority, and everything else falls into place after that.

If you have a good friend who has known you for a long time, who can also bear listening to your struggles, take advantage of those opportunities as well--they help with the business of knowing yourself. You're worth the work, and the pain is like all pains--it will heal over time. Just know that it isn't unbearable, even though it might seem that way right now!