If you lost your sex drive, would you still think the stupid crap you think with your sex drive intact?

The crazy in this thread is astounding. If I need sex three times a day, and you don't want sex, congrats! Your husband will now be banging another chick. And it's probably OK with God, because he told you to submit to each other so issues like this don't happen.

Guys are going to have sex. The question is, with who?

So I guess my behaviour has never been driven by horniness even though I am male.

My thoughts sometimes are, but I do my best to control and suppress it. Or just take 5 minutes to myself to "relieve" it...

Honestly, I have been addicted to drugs before. And horniness feels EXACTLY like a drug addiction to me. With addiction, you get these intense cravings that consume your entire mind. You feel compelled to change your behaviour immediately so you can satisfy the urge. It controls you. Once you get your "hit", you're satisfied for a while and then you start to want another "hit".

Doesn't that sound exactly the same as horniness? Sex is just another drug to get addicted to. A drug you can NEVER quit since it's biological!

I just... don't understand why so many men(and women) love this forced drug addiction we call sex. I see it as a curse.

However if I fell in love with someone I think I would enjoy using sex to express my love. But not casual sex like so many men are after.

Or maybe it's called getting older you hag, you think 80 year olds are still going at it like they did when they were 20? Then again I'm not going to research that and find out for sure.

OP all you need...

Yep, it's a short answer but true, but BunBun dear you need other help, and I have repeatedly asked you to seek help on your past posts, most are strange and some have been down right scary proof as to your mental health condition.

So again I ask you to please seek professional mental help before you hurt someone or yourself.

Last Edited by Daggo on 08/03/2016 05:49 PM

44 yr old male. Had a huge and powerful sex drive, but a fucked-up circumcision 18 months ago left it as dead as a doornail, lucky for me I'm single.
Unfortunately, it didn't make any difference to the thoughts, so now if I start getting a bit frisky in my head, I have to settle for a ten-mile cycle ride, or woodwork. Anything to take my mind off sex.
My mates tell me this is penance for being such a male slut when I was younger

I'm 41/F and no interest left either. Started to wane quite a bit over the last 5 years. I know my hormones have dropped. I tried to take bioidentical hormones to balance them, but didn't really work - it's very tricky. So part of it is definitely hormonal. I also have other health problems that cause me fatigue and other symptoms.

The other part for me is not wanting to play the "game" either. Everyone is emotionally damaged (including myself). I don't trust guys to be faithful, and I can't keep up with their sexual demands and neediness. You constantly have to worry if you are doing enough so that they won't stray. No thanks.

I also don't want an STD. Condoms suck for a woman too.

Even when I was younger, sex was way overrated in my opinion. Orgasm was too difficult...more work than it was worth.

Now I can focus on my spiritual beliefs and preparing for the next adventure after this life (why I'm on this board actually - to find out what I believe in).

I do miss romance, feeling "in love", and hugging/cuddling, but if I can't get it anymore, I have to accept that. Luckily I am a loner, so I think it's easier for me than some.

Why the hell would you get a circumcision in your 40's?!

There's no benefit to circumcision! All it does is remove some of the most sensitive skin on your penis. And risks mutilating it, as you found out.

If anything, it's penance for being dumb enough to get circumcised...

God didn't intend for us to chop off a part of our bodies...

Exactly, sex is an enormous release, and needed for your own sanity, the closeness of having a lover is understated.
Sorry for you OP. You seem sad, and have lost all zest for life itself.
You just haven't been romanced right, no point in beating down a dead horse huh? Because you've been there done that, and now have given up the spirit of life itself.
Sex is, and always has been a part of the human psychological makeup, to turn away from it is to turn away from close contact with another person. You have built walls that hold you in, and make you less than human.
Sorry for you OP. So sorry for you.

I wish I wouldn't have read your thread,your life is truly boring,sorry

Get drunk and the slut in you will reappear.

Score some of this to get you in the mood:

Believe me the last thing I wanted was a circumcision I did some damage down below and it was the only way I could piss properly again, my urethra was being blocked. I was glad I could finally empty my bladder again, I just wish the surgeon had asked me before he removed my friggin frenulum too.

You just don't get her, plus there is nothing wrong with being open and honest, especially when it can help others.

I thank God that I still have my sex drive. The amount of chemicals released during sex/orgasm are beneficial to the health of the brain and body.

Norepinephrine, oxytocin, serotonin all play a role in well being.

I've been with my fella for a long time and we both have an interest in maintaining a healthy sex life with each other. Intimacy is key for us though, and emotional bondedness. In short we both need to feel happy and connected. Neither one of us were promiscuous by choice, before we met the other. This has helped our relationship immensely.

As I age, I will keep an eye on my diet and health, because for a woman a healthy reproductive system and hormones is key to her (and those around her) happiness.

Getting rid of my television and cable were more instrumental to waking up my discernment than giving up sex will ever be.

I'm not a monkey, I don't have to touch myself down there every other hour.

Peace to you, BunBun.

I am now in my mid 70s and my sex drive is history. I was quite an active male sexually into my early 70's. I am very pleased with the shift. I can now review my life "choices" so to speak noting the (unfortunate) impact being sexually driven had. While i was not an "addict" i find that many of my choices were sex based to a notable extent, even tho' i didn't realize that at the time.

"Things"are much calmer now, generally. I would like to note that i still have plenty of vitality and feel quite young -- attributable to plenty of "serious", regular exercise, eating properly and doing a lot of "energy work". So, my lack of drive is not due to lack of energy, but probably due to lower testosterone levels, and other factors including a desire for "drama avoidance".

All in all, i'm very happy with the shift and really don't miss the alleged "excitement and joy" of sex... (and the "baggage" that accompanied such, often times) :)

I'm 62 and still married after 42 years, my drive comes and goes, but we still make time for lovey time. my wife just has to be nudged on occasion.

you my be pre menopausal, if so your time will come, but you'll live thru it, and perhaps romance will return for you.

best wishes

See, I think men make this mistake where they have their sex drive and their ego mixed up. This hurts women really fucking badly. It makes whether we spread our legs on a frequent enough basis a marker for how much of a man you think you are. How do you think this shit makes us feel.

No fucking way I am playing anymore.

Just because all of you retards are brainwashed into thinking sex and orgasm are all that and a bag of chips is the BunBun going to ever let anyone tell her that shit again. What a crock of crap. Jesus, Mary and Joseph.

It's a 30 second fucking orgasm. Is it necessary to destroy other people in order to have 30 seconds of whoohoo. Big fucking deal. Bury your child and see how much you feel like having an orgasm. Lose you home and your freedom and see how much fun that shit actually is. It isn't anything at all.

I dont

That's what I said. It's kind of like being the way we were back when we were children. In my case, it was pain that did it. But, for others it is time and age. I congratulate you. You have made it to 70 and you intend to continue living, so your ego wasn't so bound up in it that your life was ruined when it went.

We have time to prepare to be dead. When you die, you have no more sex drive, so we have time to prepare for what it will be like to be in the Spirit without sexuality. I think that's a great gift. We also have time for the younger us to reemerge. The us that we were before sex hijacked our brain and took us on a trip.

I don't want sex back. I had enough sex when I was younger and then too, it's just the same shit over and over again. I am sick of sex and sexuality.

Then, too. Something bad happened to my mind where sex is concerned and I am not going to talk about that part of it at least not yet, but it disturbs me. I think that before the fall, Adam and Eve had Holy Sexuality. It was pure and they were innocent. They never thought of putting his penis in her ass or hurting her or doing any of those things. For them, before the fall, sex was unity as they were in unity.

After the fall, things were different. You are all trading your lives for these days in these fallen bodies. What man thinks he must be a King? What woman can meet your demands to make you feel like a king without losing some part of herself. I don't think that many of you men even understand what you are doing to your wives. There are probably some balanced folks out there who are in tune with each other and have a more healthy sexuality, but that is not the norm.

There is problems of addiction and problems of sickness of the mind and soul. When we suffer from those problems, even if you can still have sex, it doesn't indicate sexual health. That is a LIE.

So, in summation, it is okay for women and men to walk away from sexuality. It isn't the end of your world. Some people stay away from it naturally as one man who posted in this thread has done. Those people are specially blessed. They haven't sullied themselves in the quaqmire that the rest of us have wallowed in. Praise The Lord for them.

With enough pain sustained over a long enough period of time, you can lose your sex drive. Men need to unhook their ego from their sex drive. That must be something that happened in the fall. Men need to look at that very carefully. Not to do so is to make demands on your spouse that she perform in order to keep your ego fed, which is an unfair demand to make on your wife and wasn't the point of marriage in the first place.

If my husband cheats, then of course, he may go where he wishes. There is only one BunBun and I am actually pretty interesting. I keep things going around here. I talk about things that no one else will talk about. I break the ice on subjects so taboo that people come screaming and attacking me trying to silence me. Somebody needs to do it.

God be with us.

Interesting question, Bunbun. I appreciate how you think.

Check out this quote:

Women will be sexual to have intimacy. Men will be intimate to have sex.

It was from a friend of mine who counsels married couples and has told me stories I would never have imagined!

SEX IS OVERRATED
I only miss the intimacy of the sex act

I am 50 yr old female and my sex drive just went away suddenly...just poof and it was gone. I am on a low dose birth control pill for menopausal symptoms and the Dr. also prescribed me an estrogen cream, but I still didn't get it back yet. My hubby's is still strong so I do a lot of pretending to keep him happy. I wish I could get it back for him. I don't care for me if it's gone for good or not, but it's not fair to him, so I will keep trying. I guess hormone replacement therapy is next. I don't want him dumping me for a younger woman.

Clinically I'd say yes. Surgical castration worked wonders on the pedo's when it was allowed all those years ago. Remove the source of the testosterone and you generally don't think that much about sex.

How can I attest to this? Along with diabetes I also suffer from Hypogonadism. The body doesn't make enough T. When it's low, the last thing you think about is laying pipe. Cranky and sleep like shit too. A few days after the shot I can't keep my hands off the wife. Shitty rollercoaster but its kept that facet of my marriage intact to some extent.

The women's sex drive peaks around their early 40s, but then after menopause it tends to come crashing down, this is natural and makes sense since sex is all about reproduction.

Women who have full hysterectomies often lose their sex drive too no matter their age.

I quit it, France. You can quit it. That's the point of this thread. I know most people think they are stuck in the endless fucking loop of sexual craving, release, craving, release, but the BunBun escaped.

It will never have me again. I refuse to go back. Not even for God. He won't ask me to go back. I know that. He knows what I have been through. You don't ask a druggie to take another hit just because it makes you feel better. I don't ever want that shit again. I think part of what we are supposed to learn here is how destructive it is to have your pleasure center hijacked and to be a fallen person.

I think that Heavenly Father wants us to never disobery him and become fallen again. It is contant torment to be in a fallen state. Even the things we think bring us pleasure only bring us lower. The only way is not to do it.

I think Lord Jesus had no sin nature. I'm not saying that he didn't feel sexual temptation. I know that He must have, but I think He had perfect control over His sex drive and that He understands how much men damage their wives with their egos tied to their sex drives. He had watched it for 3000 years before he came down here. He knew the millions of women personally who had been damaged by it and wanted no more of it after they served a man's sex drive for 40 years.

Paul knew. That's why he said that it would be better to remain unmarried and to be as he was. Paul was right.

Now, I know. God gave Paul a gift to be celibate and that gift wasn't given to everyone. I can hear it ringing in my ears now before any of you even say it. But, the thing is, I don't know how Paul lost his sex drive. Praise God that he did. I know how I lost mine. Praise God that I have. I thank God for each one of you who can understand what I am saying. There are many people on this planet and too many of them are thinking through the haze of sexual desire.

It's not healthy.

I don't like it. I will tell you why.

Does the woman really want to be sexual?

The man probably doesn't want to be intimate, so is this really a relationship or something else entirely.

This tells you the bullshit nature of the game right here.

2 needs that are longed to get met.

Both people have to do something they don't want to do to get the need met.

But, it hurts the man less than it hurts the woman to do the thing that they don't want to do to get what they need.

What happens to the woman long term because of this?

Resentment, anger, grief, agitation, feeling of unfairness, feelings of being used.

I don't think the man gets those feelings. The woman definitely does.

Some women don't mind this dichotomy as much as other women do. To some women, it might seem like a fair exchange while to other women, it is flat out wrong and grevious to her soul.

I think that's the problem with this horseshit.

We're taking what their giving cause we're fucking for a living. I know sweetheart. Keep up the act as long as you can. But, when you have had enough, know that BunBun has been there a long time before you. It's okay not to keep pretending just to keep up the status quo. After a while, you just feel used.

You know what's selfish? Making a woman have sex when she doesn't want to have sex. You know what's even more selfish? Making the woman arrange things so that you can get your sex because you are too much of a fucking lazy pussy to at least arrange for the act. So, now the woman finds herself in the position of having to do something that she doesn't want to do and not only that, she also has to arrange for the act every few days in order to keep her home and her livlihood.

Since when did that become marriage?

It always has been.

That is why women will no longer be married to you men after death. You only get to keep your sex slaves here on earth. In the next life, we will not service you. We will not be under you and we will not be made available for you to relieve yourselves on any longer. It ends here.