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| Hope_Full Offer Upgrade  User ID: 73082025  United States09/28/2016 09:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73081071  Germany09/28/2016 09:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why would you question god? Did you expect to live forever? I might be dead tomorrow, or one of my relatives. It's tough, but nonetheless part of life. Pray the Rosary daily and get tremendous blessings, would be my recommendation. HOW TO PRAY THE ROSARY Quoting: 1. Begin the Rosary with the Sign of the Cross and the Apostles' Creed. 2. Continue with the Our Father, 3 Hail Marys for an increase of faith, hope, and charity, and Glory Be on the beads indicated on the diagram above. 3. State the first mystery, for example, “The first joyful mystery is the Annunciation.” Pray the Our Father, 10 Hail Marys, Glory Be and the Fatima Prayer (“O My Jesus”) while meditating upon this mystery. 4. Repeat this for each subsequent mystery. 5. At the end of each day’s rosary, say the Hail, Holy Queen and concluding prayers. We highly recommend that all 15 decades of the Rosary be prayed daily. Our Lady repeatedly emphasized the importance of praying the Rosary each day in her messages at Fatima. She even said that Francisco would have to pray “many rosaries” before he could go to Heaven. Praying all 15 decades of the Rosary each day can be accomplished in a variety of ways. However, for many it is best accomplished by praying a part of the Rosary at different times of the day, for example, the joyful mysteries in the morning, sorrowful mysteries at midday, and glorious mysteries in the evening. The Hail, Holy Queen only needs to be prayed at the end of the entire day’s rosary. An essential part of the Rosary is meditation on the mysteries, episodes in the life of Our Lord and Our Lady. This means thinking about them, visualizing them, considering the graces and merits displayed in them, and using them for inspiration to better know and love God. It is also common to focus on a particular virtue with each mystery; those recommended by St. Louis de Montfort are given in the following tables. The Joyful Mysteries Virtues (St. Louis de Montfort) Rosary Prayers The Sign of the Cross: With your right hand, trace a cross by touching your forehead, then chest, left shoulder and right shoulder while saying: “In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.” The Apostles' Creed: I believe in God, the Father Almighty, Creator of Heaven and earth; and in Jesus Christ, His only Son, Our Lord; who was conceived by the Holy Ghost, born of the Virgin Mary, suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried. He descended into Hell; the third day He rose again from the dead; He ascended into Heaven, and sitteth at the right hand of God, the Father Almighty; from thence He shall come to judge the living and the dead. I believe in the Holy Ghost, the Holy Catholic Church, the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the body, and the life everlasting. Amen. Our Father: Our Father, Who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy Name. Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen. Hail Mary: Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee; blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the Fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen. Glory Be: Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost. As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen. Fatima Prayer: O my Jesus, pardon us, and save us from the fire of Hell; draw all souls to Heaven, especially those in most need. Hail, Holy Queen and concluding prayers: Hail, Holy Queen, Mother of mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us, and after this our exile, show unto us the blessed fruit of thy womb, Jesus. O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary. Pray for us, O holy Mother of God. That we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ. Let us pray. O God, whose only begotten Son, by His life, death, and resurrection, has purchased for us the rewards of eternal life, grant, we beseech Thee, that meditating upon these mysteries of the most holy Rosary of the Blessed Virgin Mary, we may imitate what they contain, and obtain what they promise, through the same Christ our Lord. Amen. [link to www.mostholyfamilymonastery.com] [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 65479065 United States09/28/2016 09:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It was five months ago. He was murdered at the age of 61. I've since sold my home and am living in a small rental. Most of my world possessions are in storage. I don't have the heart to sort through them. Quoting: Hope_Full My memory is extremely poor. I can tell that I am not right. I've lost 30 pounds and look 20 years older. I was praying for my husband when he was shot. I loved him so very much and he loved me. Where was God? How am I to ever pray again? How am I to ever trust God again? I have a roomate in my home now who helps me get through the days. Without this roomate, I'd be in a psyche ward. And yes, I'm seeking medical, psychiatric, spiritual help. The drugs just cloud my mind. The doctors says I'm in shock (Acute Stress Disorder) and will soon move into PTSD. The psychiatrist says I'm doing well. The psychologist may be outt of her depth on this one. Every day of my life, I thanked God for my wonderful husband. I never ever took him for granted. Ever. I loved every thing about him. Where is God? And how do I face the days? Please, no flippant answers. I'm in deep pain, in a small rental home filled with boxes. I don't know where I'm going. I can't even think 10 minutes ahead without weeping. While being a 23 year old who has never been in love I can't say I understand the situation, but I do understand losing someone. I give my condolences and I hope you find the light at the end if this tunnel. Stay strong I'll include you in my prayers tonight. |
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| dodger007 User ID: 72134234 United States09/28/2016 09:31 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When I lost my child it was a year of agony and then a year of horror and dread. Year 3 things started to,lift and it was easier to keep going. You deserve to grieve and be gentle with yourself just as if you were suffering an illness, and take one step at a time, one day at a time, one breath at a time. Finding an online forum of survivors of similar grief helped me a lot, others do better going to live survivor groups. Whatever works for you. Grief is like paralyzing fear but try to do some little comfort thing for yourself every day. Even just get outside and sit in the sunshine. If you have a pet let them comfort you. If you don't and can get one, rescue someone whose life you can save and fill. God bless . You can do this awful thing. Others have walked this road. Someday the wisdom you are gaining at such an awful price will help another person You can count on America to do the right thing after exhausting every other alternative." Winston Churchill |
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| LTHN. User ID: 72938747  Canada09/28/2016 09:34 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." So since many are gathered here, I wish 2 more will join me in this prayer. Lord Jesus Christ, our Shephard and king of kings, we ask you to communicate to our Father, who is in Heaven, to bring peace to the heart of Hope Full, that she may overcome her grieving for he much loved husband. Please light back your light into her through the Holy Spirit, and heal her of her pain. Amen. "A wise man listens to the message and uses his logic and discernment to process it, a fool negates the message by prejudging the messenger." "He whose centre is everywhere and whose circumference is nowhere." |
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| Solitary Man User ID: 71345460 United States09/28/2016 09:38 PM  Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Some things you just can't get over, but you have to go on. sorry op. Sometimes I only get a few hours sleep a night before "it" wakes me back up. But. Life is short and there is only so much ahead and then it will end. Then we find out "why"...and it will be ok. Last Edited by Bennder on 09/28/2016 09:39 PM I don't have the time or the crayons to explain this to you. Slake Blake |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 37104132 United States09/28/2016 09:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I very much feel for you. If your husband belonged to God he is happy where he is. Please remember that you will one day see him again. This is not the end. It's just a pause, a painful and lonesome pause. Please know this is true. God will be there to help you through, He already is. I know it's not fair, not fair in the least! But you are not alone. Let friends and family be with you. And don't shut God out even though you blame him. Tell Him how you feel. Talk to Him and let Him heal your broken heart. Much love and understanding. |
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| Isaiah 43:1-2 User ID: 73082018 United States09/28/2016 09:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My sister in law is in the same situation after 5yrs. since my brother's death. I'm sorry for your loss and I don't really know what to say. I'm a born again Christian and God is my God so whenever I've lost someone close to me I know their life was in God's hands the same as mine is and He wanted to bring them home. We are not here for us and for our happiness. We are here to submit to Jesus and live our lives for Him. Those who don't do that may have happiness for a time but they can't live without other people. Though I'm not Catholic, I agree with some of what the person from Germany said. I mean, didn't the two of you ever talk about death and how you would handle it if one of you died? After the age of 50, we never know when we could get bad health news, etc. I must say that if your roommate is the only one who is keeping you sane, you really need Jesus in your life. It's apparent that your faith was not that strong or you would know that He is with you right now and is trying to comfort you. But you want your husband back or the comfort of humans only. He understands your sadness and anger. Tell HIM, not others. Only He can tell you what you need to hear. At 61, you are still young and you need to make a decision to either start over and live your life without your husband or succumb eventually from stress and depression leading to physical illness. I pray that you will reach out to Jesus and let Him take over your life. You will one day recover and be a changed person. Last Edited by Isaiah 43:1-2 on 09/28/2016 10:05 PM follower of Jesus |
| queenbee User ID: 72138947 United States09/28/2016 09:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i'm so sorry for your loss. perhaps it would help if you think of this. if i died and was looking down on my husband from "above"...i'd want my husband to be brave, to move on, and to find happiness with the time he had left. i'd want him to not devote a lot of time to the sadness of me passing. i'd want the best for him. i'd want him to choose life. perhaps if you force yourself to do this, and devote the effort to him, it will eventually feel right. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72515242 Canada09/28/2016 09:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Prayers are what I most need. I seem to have lost the ability to pray for myself or others. Quoting: Hope_Full Thank you for the kind words. Hi, Im not a religious person but more into spirituality. All I will say is, your husband isn't dead.. He left this reality because whatever he came here to do was done.. Just because you can't see him, doesn't mean he isn't around. He can be entering your dreams or doing any number of things like playing songs on the radio etc.. There are many subtle signals spirits will do to let you know they are there.. so pay attention to them. even knocks on the door with no one there etc.. Its just their way to say hi, im still around.. The last thing they want is for you to be living in depression.. Negative spirits will thrive on that, and can cause some havoc if you're not careful. We all live a life that is planned out.. Nothing happens by chance. As a soul you could be meant to experience something else entirely at this point in your life. It could be anything from being independent, to meeting a new partner who will be someone to offer you new lessons and challenges that is meant for your souls growth. Whatever you are to go through wasn't meant to be with your husband.. It probably could have ended the way it did, or in something much uglier like cheating/divorce.. Either way you were meant to be on your own at this time.. I guarantee you one thing.. You husband doesn't want you living the rest of your days on drugs you don't need, nor living in depression because of what happen. You have to pull through this tough time and look to new days ahead which can be filled with the same joy and happiness you have already experienced with your late husband.. Our family members who pass on before us actually despise that we live and wallow in the past.. It sometimes can tie/bind them to you too long.. Which stifles them on the other side.. I don't know what else to say, but everything will be ok.. I try not to sugar coat everything but everyone deserves to know the truth.. and most mediums won't touch on anything that might seem negative, which i don't agree with.. Like I said, you could very well be binding your husband to earth by wallowing in his passing this long.. Please be mindful of him and his souls journey.. Take care.. Things will get better. |
| The AlSayr User ID: 65667847 United States09/28/2016 09:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Prayers are what I most need. I seem to have lost the ability to pray for myself or others. Quoting: Hope_Full Thank you for the kind words. I'll talk to God right now about you, Hope_Full. [link to www.godsmessageontheweb.com (secure)] - My Podcasts (RSS) [link to www.godsmessageontheweb.com (secure)] - My Site (SSL) [link to www.wheniwokeupthismorning.com] - Aliens are Demons [link to godsmessage.indianapolisunderground.com] - Free Audio and Web Bibles. We are fishers of men. Fishermen don't bang gongs and scream to catch fish. They "wisely" bait their hooks and capture the imagination of the fish. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 11984886 United States09/28/2016 09:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It was five months ago. He was murdered at the age of 61. I've since sold my home and am living in a small rental. Most of my world possessions are in storage. I don't have the heart to sort through them. Quoting: Hope_Full My memory is extremely poor. I can tell that I am not right. I've lost 30 pounds and look 20 years older. I was praying for my husband when he was shot. I loved him so very much and he loved me. Where was God? How am I to ever pray again? How am I to ever trust God again? I have a roomate in my home now who helps me get through the days. Without this roomate, I'd be in a psyche ward. And yes, I'm seeking medical, psychiatric, spiritual help. The drugs just cloud my mind. The doctors says I'm in shock (Acute Stress Disorder) and will soon move into PTSD. The psychiatrist says I'm doing well. The psychologist may be outt of her depth on this one. Every day of my life, I thanked God for my wonderful husband. I never ever took him for granted. Ever. I loved every thing about him. Where is God? And how do I face the days? Please, no flippant answers. I'm in deep pain, in a small rental home filled with boxes. I don't know where I'm going. I can't even think 10 minutes ahead without weeping. Very sorry to hear... but the only way to overcome is to get into the spirit where you can see and feel God, who is peace and hope (you can't through your mind). Check out the work of Eckhart Tolle, who will help you get out of your mind's perception and into your spirit. Many have gotten over trauma by disconnecting from the mind's reality. His "The Power of Now" book: [link to www.amazon.com (secure)] (here it is online in pdf): [link to www.baytallaah.com] Also, I would check out St. John's Wort as the most effective anti-depressant over-the-counter that there is. Particularly Nature's Way brand... it's very cheap, generally side-effect free, and creates night-and-day beneficial effects in people's mood. I know this first-hand. |
| ZeroGravity User ID: 73081444 United States09/28/2016 09:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My thoughts and prayers are with you! My daughter passed away 2 years ago from an ATV accident, she was 13. At 5 months out from the accident our lives were still a mess, trying to adjust to what our new "normal" was without our daughter brightening our lives. Nobody knows what God's plan is, but there is a plan....and it's not our place to question it. You know in your heart that he is in a better place....and what you're feeling now is what you've lost rather than what he has gained. Live your life, find your new normal and allow yourself the time to heal. I still miss my daughter terribly, and still have my bad days. But more and more when I think of her it's in the context of her laugh, or something funny that she did to make us smile, and I dwell less on the fact that she's no longer here. Respect your husband's memory by becoming a stronger woman from your pain....you know that he wouldn't want to watch you waste away. My wife has found comfort in an emotional support group of other parents who have lost their children. I tried, but it just wasn't for me. We all grieve in different ways, and heal at different speeds. Smile through the pain, remember the love you shared, and continue to live your life knowing that you'll be together again someday. God Bless You. "America was not built on fear. America was built on courage, on imagination and an unbeatable determination to do the job at hand." Harry S Truman "If we ever forget that we are One Nation Under God, then we will be a nation gone under." Ronald Reagan "A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep." Vernon Howard |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 64071258 United States09/28/2016 09:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife died of cancer very unexpectedly about 6 years ago. Was very rough for the first two years but there comes a time that you get tired of being tired and sad. I decided that I had maybe 20 years left on this planet and so it was best to make the best of it. Everyone has a destiny like your husband and we all know that that when you are married that one of you will die first and the other later. No way around it. You should thank God for allowing you to know your husband and the time he allowed you two to spend together. It could have been different and you never met him to begin with. So you have a different destiny. Just get yourself together and see where God leads you. I have gotten used to my new way of life and will just wait and see where I am led in the future. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72515242 Canada09/28/2016 10:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife died of cancer very unexpectedly about 6 years ago. Was very rough for the first two years but there comes a time that you get tired of being tired and sad. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 64071258 I decided that I had maybe 20 years left on this planet and so it was best to make the best of it. Everyone has a destiny like your husband and we all know that that when you are married that one of you will die first and the other later. No way around it. You should thank God for allowing you to know your husband and the time he allowed you two to spend together. It could have been different and you never met him to begin with. So you have a different destiny. Just get yourself together and see where God leads you. I have gotten used to my new way of life and will just wait and see where I am led in the future. great message. |
| s. d. butler User ID: 974819 United States09/28/2016 10:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It was five months ago. He was murdered at the age of 61. I've since sold my home and am living in a small rental. Most of my world possessions are in storage. I don't have the heart to sort through them. Quoting: Hope_Full My memory is extremely poor. I can tell that I am not right. I've lost 30 pounds and look 20 years older. I was praying for my husband when he was shot. I loved him so very much and he loved me. Where was God? How am I to ever pray again? How am I to ever trust God again? I have a roomate in my home now who helps me get through the days. Without this roomate, I'd be in a psyche ward. And yes, I'm seeking medical, psychiatric, spiritual help. The drugs just cloud my mind. The doctors says I'm in shock (Acute Stress Disorder) and will soon move into PTSD. The psychiatrist says I'm doing well. The psychologist may be outt of her depth on this one. Every day of my life, I thanked God for my wonderful husband. I never ever took him for granted. Ever. I loved every thing about him. Where is God? And how do I face the days? Please, no flippant answers. I'm in deep pain, in a small rental home filled with boxes. I don't know where I'm going. I can't even think 10 minutes ahead without weeping.  |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 73082003  United Arab Emirates09/28/2016 10:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Quote: Where is God? And how do I face the days? OP, I am truely sorry for you loss. One thing that helped me thru some tough times was to ask God to help me with the anger I had with Him...and He did. Ya see, my mom was diagnosed with cancer and I was taking care of her...then my neice (my moms grand daughter) died...and I asked God how he could do this to my mom. Then my sister had a heart attack, and I begged God not to do this to my mom! My sis died. Then the cancer took my mom. It took me a while but I finally asked God to help me with the anger I had with Him. It took time, but alot of healing has been done...I much more appreciate the family members I have left...and I am not affraid of death as I have so many family members on the other side now. Look for good where ever you can find it. |
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| Shadow and Flame User ID: 70952597 United States09/28/2016 10:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, prayers for you. Be good to yourself and allow more time to grieve. Try to get outside at least once a day, even if it is just a walk around the house. Could you get a small pet? Unconditional love and snuggles really do help. (I am not suggesting it is a replacement for your dear husband). Listen to inspirational music to lift up your soul. Have you ever heard of Bible teacher, Joyce Meyer? She has some wonderful messages that are found online (like youtube). Please keep us posted.   |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 72362284 United States09/28/2016 10:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My dear woman, a broken heart is truly the most painful thing humans go thru. My husband of 41 years died after 8 weeks in hospital of one poor diagnosis after the other. Almost two years later, I cry, tears roll down my face and I do not even realize it. Some things I do to ease the pain of this devastating loss are; I talk to him during the day, it helps me feel close to him. I wear his socks, sleep with his shirts, I collected his (our) pictures from day one of our love story and carry some of them with me where ever I go. I bought a lovely wooden box and put all of his little personal items, papers, service medals, watch, pocket knife, etc. in it. I look through it and smile at him. I pray to God to give him peace and that I will see him again one day. A great love should never die. The loss of a great love will live forever. You are not alone. He is with you. |
